big rant/preach: men think weird things about women wearing clothes

Given that the rest of the comments basically bleat the same thing, I thought I'd offer you some slightly different perspectives. Giving him the maximum benefit of the doubt (particularly considering that you weren't even showing any skin, and you were attending a private party with a safe group of people). It could be possible that your coworker was trying to communicate something different but expressed himself extremely poorly. My dad told me to cover up every time I went out (he actually properly yelled at me a couple of times lol) because I am extremely jacked and was wearing a tank top (like most of the guys at the relevant nightclubs). What people wear can potentially draw more or less unwanted attention. Monsters exist. They do not care about what's right or wrong. - If I wore a tank top there was a significantly increased chance that other men may try to fight me. And the two occasion that I ignored my dad's advice that's exactly what happened. I can assure you that it did not matter to them that I had not done anything or that they had no right to assault me (or 'battery me' for you yanks). When you apply the same reasoning to women, some people get upset thinking that you're suggesting that its their fault if something bad happens. That couldn't be further from the truth. Its about informing them about potential dangers (and that life is not fair - sorry) so that they can take steps to reduce their risk of being harmed. If you're not there with them there isn't much else you can do to stop bad people doing bad things. In terms of being told what to wear, both of my long term girlfriends/partners told me that they did not want me to wear certain clothes because they said it looked like I was advertising and that I looked like a sloot. They were right. So I did not wear those things. I don't see a problem with that, and I would have expected the same respect and courtesy to be shown had I made a similar request, it just wasn't necessary for me to do so. (I do note the particular situation you described is very different because your coworker is not your boyfriend/partner).

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I blame social media, mainly the OF girls. Other than that you good to wear whatever you want .

gaylechuga

When men talk like that, they're basically admitting that they have no self-control, and take even less responsibility for their actions. I will admit that I said something like that in the past. It was very stupid of me. I am not proud of it. I have no excuse for it. I can only offer in my defense that I don't think that way anymore and haven't for a long time.

Crystanubis

I fucking hate those types of guys ohhhh my god, I swear men who spout shit like that is inviting me to punch them in the throat, I'm angry for you

Bridget Kandi

DD, as long as you feel comfortable in the pants, shoes, clothes thats all it matters. Every other else who has an opinion like that is bullsh!?t. Dont take them serious.

A lot of rlly insecure guys tend to project their insecurities and try to gaslight people into thinking they are the problem. What an asshole.

Nathesium