Worm to the Wise - January

Wait, I’m dying at the options in the advice Google Form. Can you start sharing when someone is like, “I just need someone to take my side”? 😂

I personally did TAPIF in france and Meddeas in Spain!

Is it possible to DM on this app? If so dm me Emily! But if not just google these programs : TAPIF (teaching assistant program in France); Auxiliares de Conversacion; Meddeas; BEDA (bilingual English development & assessment)

My parents met doing this in the 90s and I'd love to do something similar however I have been told Europe is extremely difficult to land teaching positions in. How did you do it!!? With a specific program? What was the pay like? I need to know lol!!

Emily Riebeek

she means she never moved outside of the greater nyc/jersey area. raised in jersey, went to columbia, lives in nyc since college

Madelyn Morgan

I can’t deal with people who think trends are something so personal/individual to them and not just a general symptom of the times. Also same exact feelings w Claire regarding that Luisa “she copied my wedding” girl I thought she was so cool 😭 cringe 😭

I second the TEFL thing! I spent three years teaching English in Spain and France working less than 30 hours a week and loving life! Lots of places around the world will hire a native English speaker even if you have absolutely no qualifications or experience!

I think it's so much healthier to focus on the friend, like "I'm so happy you decided to invest in yourself the way you were investing in that relationship" or "I'm so proud of you for standing up for youself and articulating your needs!" or whatever then talking shit about the person. It's absolutely shaming behavior, and if you're talking shit obviously the friend has left the relationship so it accomplishes truly nothing

Anna G

These are hard to listen to when you stumble so much reading the questions. Could you maybe clean up the question before you start recording so it makes sense you don’t have to keep stopping and starting? Not trying to be rude or mean, but hope this is constructive criticism instead.

Heythere

omg the copying roommate is a nightmare….cowboy boots? blonde hair? girl

I loved bug's participation in the ep!

Olivia

Claire, I love your response about the breakup with a guy you (as the friend) didn't like. To be like listen I am here for you and when you are ready for it - lets laugh together. I love that. It may not work for everyone, but it's so trueee and can feel so good to sit with your friend and have that moment.

I guess it shows how comedy is lost on a lot of people, to say that Ashley is stupid when you could tell that she was joking. Oh like mazel I guess you got the attention you wanted by insulting someone you will never meet and who doesn’t care, lol.

Holly Catlin-Meyer

I came here to write almost an identical thing. When people (especially family) talk about my ex badly it makes me feel like I wasted 4 years of my life and it undoes so much effort I’ve undertaken to get closure. Of course, if someone is abusive it might be different. But I’d rather think “oh we just weren’t meant for each other” or “that relationship didn’t work for me and that’s why it didn’t work out.” It’s easier to move on in that way while preserving a little tenderness for my past self.

Zoë Grenier

To the worm who gets to start her life over and travel and explore: If you’re nervous about funds long term you should look into a TEFL program. My younger sister is currently doing that and her life is literally a dream. I have no idea who you are, I’m sure you’r devastated (I’m a divorced woman who’s ex got someone pregnant while married to me so I understand the fucked up pain that is betrayal) but I’m just a bit excited for you to be shedding off dead trash weight. Fuck those people, go be a queen in another land and don’t look back ❤️❤️✨✨✨

Ashley! Re: feeling annoyed when other people talk shit about your ex. I felt the same the way, even though I fully accept the relationship got toxique and bad for my mental health. And I think part of it, at least for me personally, is just that when people talked shit about my ex it kind of felt like an indictment of my character too?? Like “how did you let that happen”, “you were so naive how could you not see through that”. Even though I know that might not be their intent.

Rai Utomo

Claire what do you mean you’ve never moved? Surely that can’t be true, you must have moved into your college dorm and then into your current appt?

My friend was flat sharing with one other person for a couple years and the flatmate was completely copying her. Everything she bought/read/was interested in the flatmate would do a couple weeks later. Got worse during the stay-at-home covid years and my friend had to move out to save the friendship! They also had the same first name and looked kind of similar!!