A question for everyone
Added 2019-10-19 20:25:51 +0000 UTCHello! I'm sorry if this is weird, but I gotta get it off my chest anyway.
I'm in a dark place right now mostly because I'm still not over the loss of my pet and the fact that in a week I will have to go back to uni and meet all the horrible people there again. I have also had some bad art related experiences and now I have a very bad outlook on it and myself as an artist.
Patreon has always been a bit controversial for me to have because deep down I don't feel like I deserve 1 single patron that I have, but I try to work with it anyway.
Patreon contributes a lot to my rent so I can't just close it down because I'm uncomfy, but it does make me anxious often, and I would like to not feel that anxiety over it anymore.
What I would like to ask you, is to please click the like button if you do enjoy something that I post. I see a high patron count and a very low engagement and it sends a clear signal to me: I am not doing enough and what I am doing is wrong. I feel like I disappoint people all the time. Comments and likes are feedback for the artist and a motivation, and for me, they're a hint to what I should make more of, to thank the people that stick with me here. :(
Comments
*hugs* I hope you feel better too!! It's changing to fall where I am so I always tend to get a little depressive episode when seasons change, just how it is! You're amazing, and your art inspires so many people, including myself! <3
MaityB
2019-10-22 04:56:40 +0000 UTCQqq^qqq juna. I hate to be this anxious and uncool on my own patreon u_u i will make myself stop being a weenie and show everyone even more love and appreciation for being here with me T^T (especially you, after [REDACTED]!!!)
Aria
2019-10-22 02:42:06 +0000 UTC;~; thank you so much and wow this whole comment makes me feel like that touch starved cheetah pic... I really do feel pressure from social media and i guess my negative state from losing my pet and having to return to uni compromised my ability to see things clearly and not let anxiety get to me 😣 i will try my best to keep going and get back the feeling of accomplishment, not the onevof inadequacy.. And thank you so much for caring ;n; it really really means a lot
Aria
2019-10-22 02:39:29 +0000 UTCQ~q thank you so much!! You are very right, this is what i also think and i guess somewhere along the way this positive feeling of gratitude got corrupted and turned into anxiety.. All i wanted to do was prove to everyone that i really care, but being so negative i turned it into something it's not. I will try my best to improve my mentality 😭 i think i can do it
Aria
2019-10-22 02:36:18 +0000 UTCQ^q thank you so much and im very honored to know this! Please don't feel like you have to do this as a chore, thanks to everyone im realising that none of this means all the negativity that i thought out for myself... I think i will blame it on stress from uni and from losing my pet. I hope this is all going to be over soon so that i can do more and with a better and clearer mind
Aria
2019-10-22 02:33:16 +0000 UTCQ^q thank you so much, and I totally understand you. Im just happy from now on in knowing that i still can make people happy with my art and will try to do better.
Aria
2019-10-22 02:30:36 +0000 UTC;^; im very happy to know this and it encourages me to do more.. I have, sometimes, a paradoxal feeling that i shouldn't do anything in case i disappoint.. It's not very productive 😣 thank you very much for your support 😭 och tack för den känslan av trygghet!
Aria
2019-10-22 02:29:36 +0000 UTCThank you so much ;n; I'm trying to get my head and thoughts sorted out better to be able to appreciate the time i had with my pet instead of being so upset that he's not with me anymore. And thank you so much for your support and encouragement 😭 i guess im seeing lack of interaction as a personal failure, especially after comparing myself to others, and that turns into an inadequate feeling of anxiety and guilt... I think im being too negative about it and should accept that for me this process will be hard. But if i can make someone happy with my art that should be enough for me 😭
Aria
2019-10-22 02:27:20 +0000 UTC;n; i understand, patreon isnt my favorite platform either, even tough i have to use it every day. And none of this is an excuse at all T^T we can't always be active everywhere, it takes a lot of mental strength. I guess I used to just be happy to see people here, but somehow it turned into a big anxiety that I'm not doing the best and everything that i can to thank everyone 😣 but im very very happy to hear these nice words, thank you
Aria
2019-10-22 02:21:51 +0000 UTCThank you so much ;^; and wow.. This year's September is too hard on us... 17 years is such a long time, but I guess the only thing we can do is try to come to terms that they really are in a better place now, even if we aren't there with them, and no matter how much qe miss them, we will always have the memories of happy times together ;n;
Aria
2019-10-22 02:18:35 +0000 UTC😭 I hope you will also feel better soon and im very happy to know that you like receiving the updates, im feeling so much more encouraged now
Aria
2019-10-22 02:15:23 +0000 UTC;~; thank you so much! Im very happy to hear that you think that, and will try my best to keep it going 😭 hopefully i can figure life out soon so that my negative thoughts don't affect my work too much
Aria
2019-10-22 02:13:11 +0000 UTC😭😭😭 Thank youu, im so tired of this slump!! But knowing now that im not a huge disappointment sure helps 😣
Aria
2019-10-22 02:11:24 +0000 UTC😭😭 Thinking that im closer to the finish is what helps me keeo going, honestly... I would be lying if i said uni hasn't impacted my art and my abilities, it's a lot of struggle so when i finish my studies, i think i will feel much better and that will also make everything i do better... Thank you for the support and for being with me, i appreciate it very much and am very happy 😢
Aria
2019-10-22 02:10:03 +0000 UTC;~; thank you very much, i am so grateful for every comment and im happy that i am doing something that you enjoy and will try to do my best to try and create art with a better feeling in my heart from now on
Aria
2019-10-22 02:07:37 +0000 UTCI can relate to this 😭i use it every day and im still lost. But im very happy to hear that you enjoy my work, it makes me less anxious
Aria
2019-10-22 02:05:50 +0000 UTCQ~q im crying happy tears for once now... Thank you so much for telling me this, i don't know how to take all this encouragement 😭 but it makes me feel much better and less guilty.. And you're so right, pets really are like children, and when they're gone its like your house is not longer qhat it used to be and you're not part of it either anymore... Thank you again, i really treasure this
Aria
2019-10-22 02:04:36 +0000 UTCThsnk you very much, im so happy to hear that T^T i will try to have a better outlook on my situation
Aria
2019-10-22 02:00:51 +0000 UTCThank you so much for telling me 😭
Aria
2019-10-22 01:59:54 +0000 UTC;~; thank you very much for sharing this with me, and i haven't thought of that like this before, now I will 😭 i guess i worry too much that i won't be able to make enjoyable art anymore for whatever reason and it gets the best of me because Im very happy that i have people who choose to be here with me and want to prove that it wasn't a wrong choice on their part 😢
Aria
2019-10-22 01:59:33 +0000 UTCQqq~qqq im so emotional from this rn!! I really hope I can do even better and not disappoint 😭 thank you very much for your kind words
Aria
2019-10-22 01:54:58 +0000 UTC;0; im very thankful for every comment and am happy to know that you like it
Aria
2019-10-22 01:51:43 +0000 UTC;~; im very happy to hear this because it's like a constant worry in the back of my mind, i would hate to disappoint anyone who believes in me. Thank you so much
Aria
2019-10-22 01:50:48 +0000 UTC;-; thank you very much for the encouragement, i am so happy knowing that my art can make you feel better q~q it's all i could hope for
Aria
2019-10-22 01:48:50 +0000 UTCThank you and I'm very happy to hear that q_q
Aria
2019-10-22 01:46:56 +0000 UTCQuick art consumption culture from social media makes it so rough to create and share. 😞 Wishing you good luck on your transition back to school; it’s so difficult to be in hostile-feeling environments, never mind the ache you still have to carry of your grief for your sweet bun. If you ever need a soft mom friend ear, even just to say you’re sad and remind you that’s okay and you’ll get through, I’m here for you and you can message me here or on Twitter. You’re such a good kid (relatively speaking to my age) and you work so hard and the world has become really damn stressful within our lifetime, beyond what our parents knew, tbh, from being connected 100% of the time to all the global bad news, and it really saps us. Even when everyone else is dragged down too and too tired to comment and click, please don’t doubt that the skills you’ve honed are amazing and the art you make and share with the world is wonderful, and that our experiences being and sharing our queer realities are a deeply powerful and awesome rebellion of its own. ❤️
Elenca
2019-10-21 13:31:52 +0000 UTCOh noo, im sorry you're having a hard time! You can question everything in life but never question your talent!!!! You are amazing and we love everything you do!! Listen, people can say beautiful words, but putting money on it is a next step that people just don't do if they are not sure. All of us here believe in you and love you and admire you, we are moved by your art and we want to be part of this moment in your life. Only a beautiful soul can be behind all the beautiful art you create, it's a fact. I suffer of depression and anxiety so i can relate to how you feel!!! Don't give up!!! We believe in you even in your lowest moment!! Sending you love!!
Mia Morrison
2019-10-21 11:26:20 +0000 UTCI'm sorry you are struggling at the moment, I completely understand, losing pet's is so hard. I am like some of the others here, not so good with the comments as I never know what to say but I really love your art. I didn't join Patreon until I discovered your work and you are the only one I support this way at the moment, so thanks for the feedback and I will try harder to be supportive! I don't really know anything about art, just what I like so I can't relate so much to that. But know that there is a whole community here who love your art and I wish I had even 1/100th of the talent you do. Please don't give up, this time may be difficult between uni and everything else but it won't last forever.
GemfishLives
2019-10-21 00:49:59 +0000 UTCAria, I adore your work. The reason why I'm subbed to you is because I enjoy it so much. I don't always engage with the posts (with anyone I'm a patron of) because I often just don't have the mental or physical energy to go through them but I do enjoy them greatly, and I'm absolutely thrilled when I get something in the mail from you and Mao. I'm so sorry you're going through such a hard time, and I want to add to what everyone else is saying; I really appreciate you! 💕❤♥💖💗💓💚💛💜🧡💌
Hyacinth Pixie
2019-10-20 12:07:26 +0000 UTCI absolutely adore your art. I look at it daily and it brings me such joy. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I wish for you to feel better soon, on all accounts. Massor, massor med kramar. Säg till om du behöver hjälp med något igen 💕
Linisen
2019-10-20 10:16:08 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry that your having such a hard time but loosing family members or your pet which is family too, is never easy. I'm hoping with time all the moments of your pet brightening your life will be able to help you feeling less and less sad. Also few people commenting is NEVER NEVER a sign of your mistakes or your quality of art, it's just that people are lazy, forget to comment, forget to press the like button or simply don't know what to say. I really enjoy your art, i try to comment as often as possible but sometimes I forget, I think your art is really beautiful and I think since the time I became your patreon, you got even better. I don't know what bad experience you had regarding your art, I assume it's in a professional way, I think becoming an professional artist is one of the most difficult things ever. Because it's not only about your art, but also luck, the right connections and finding your niche and finding your audience. I feel sad sometimes too and looking at your art helps me and makes me happy. I don't know how to describe it but it has so much warmth. So thank you so much!
Cassopeia
2019-10-20 08:09:53 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry that your going through such a hard time. I'm especially sorry because I'm not really the most active supporter - to anyone - no matter how much I love and adore both them and their work. I think the real problem is that I don't really use Patreon as an actual platform so much as just a means to support artists I really enjoy. I think I honestly feel guilty that I don't comment as much as I should, which is why I like Patreon because it's a way to quietly support others. This year I've really tried hard to leave more feedback on different works, but I'm not where I should be just yet. I'm sorry if it sounds like excuses, and maybe they are, but I just had to speak up and say SOMETHING to let you know that I'm HERE and I really think you're amazing, both for your art and for you as a person. I'm sorry I don't give more, but I'll try. I really will. Please hang in there - I know SO many others truly care about you and only want the best for you. We're here and we're happy and we're all rooting for you. -HUGS-
WhenTheFoxGrins
2019-10-20 06:34:24 +0000 UTCYour artwork is AMAZING! I love it. ALL OF IT!! Even the controversial stuff. I love it all. I know the loss of a pet is hard. I lost my doggo in September. (He was 17 years old when he passed.) It's hard, but they're in a better place. Don't give up on your art or yourself. We all love you and are here for you!
Diamond
2019-10-20 03:46:34 +0000 UTC*hugs* I'm so sorry that you're feeling down! I'm in a depressive slump rn too, but thank you so much for bringing this all up! I can do so much better in interacting...I know at work I'll see an email, get excited, view the illustration IN my email and then delete the email. But from now on I'm gonna make sure to come in and like it~ Bc I LOVE seeing your work and I look forward to any and all updates! <3 if you need to talk or get something off your chest please DM me! I don't mind! You deserve to feel good about all the work you're doing~
MaityB
2019-10-20 03:35:23 +0000 UTCI LOVE YOUR ART! I'm just too shy to interact much because you're so amazing and your art is fantastic ;o; ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I'll continue to support you no matter what and don't worry about meeting certain expectations. I've lost pets before and its so devastating. I'm so sorry for your loss :< your health is more important, both physically and mentally and if you ever need a break please take the time that you need. ❤️❤️❤️
Rin
2019-10-20 03:21:53 +0000 UTCPersonally I'm not on patreon everyday so when I do see your posts it pretty late >.> But I love the stuff you do and hope you keep at it! We all have slumps, and understand life hits you hard at times and are here for you!!
nopedia
2019-10-20 02:39:30 +0000 UTCIm so sorry you feel lile that. Losing a pet is so hard, and going back to place when you don't enjoy being with peiple... Ugh I totally understand. I couldn't be happier when I finally graduated. Just any semester think that you are closer to finish. To be honest, I only support two artist on Patreon and you are one of my favorite artists. I alwayas try to comment something but I will try to do it more! I really hope you don't have controversial feelongs with Patreon in the future,you are really talented, creative and deserve every person who has decided to follow you. Sending hugs and love towards you!
Nai
2019-10-20 00:41:34 +0000 UTCI am Terrible about commenting, but I'm always excited when I see notifications from your patreon. I actually dropped on most of my patreons due to budget, but I made sure I could still pay for yours! I love your art! And however your schedule let's you do your art so you feel the most fulfilled, I'm okay with that.
Fiorelily
2019-10-20 00:22:37 +0000 UTCI’m really bad at interacting on Patreon cause I don’t understand the platform that we’ll. But I really like your work and every time I see an update from you it makes me smile!
2019-10-20 00:03:23 +0000 UTCOh sweetheart, I love your work. I stumbled on your YOI mermaids on tumblr and I loved it so much I literally hunted all over the place to find your patreon because I wanted to support you and show you just how much you brighten my day. Whenever I see an update I totally stop what I'm doing to come check it out. I'm sorry for the loss of your pet, I mean I get it I really do they're like our babies and getting over it sometimes seems completely impossible but just know it will hurt a little less everyday that goes by and even if you're never totally over it you will get to a place where you'll be at the very least ok, take heart love. I want you to know that you deserve every single praise and compliment to your work because its amazing. It really is and I hope one day you can come to see yourself as the capable artist you are and that we think you are. And even though we've never met, I'm sending you hugs and kisses all the way from Texas. Chin up doll, things will get better, ok? (Btw I may or may not have gona and commented on everything lol)
Brieeze
2019-10-19 22:10:33 +0000 UTCaria bb i'm so sorry you've been having such a rough time, it's unfair to you as a person first and foremost bc you're such a lovely person, but also unfair to the gorgeous art you produce. if i ever fail to comment pls just assume it's bc i see something when i'm half-awake and forget to come back and comment, but i love everything you do. you and mao are the only patreons i still subscribe to and you deserve it so much. i love what you do even when i'm not familiar with the fandom or even when it's original! nothing you can do will ever disappoint me (EVEN AFTER [REDACTED]). anyway idk how many different ways i can say i love you and your art, you're wonderful <3333 do what makes you happy!!!
Juna
2019-10-19 21:06:48 +0000 UTCI’m so sorry you’re going through all of that :( It doesn’t matter to me how often you post! I love your content and I will continue to support you! 💜
MeganM
2019-10-19 20:57:27 +0000 UTCYour stuff is very much appreciated. Keep it up😍❤️
Sheila Enos
2019-10-19 20:56:02 +0000 UTCHonestly, I shifted my household budget around so I could become your Paetron. I can ALWAYS count on your artwork to make me smile, make me happy and provide a pick me up after a hard day or week. One thing to keep in mind is that if people are happy they usually don't interact as much because they are happy and living their life in contentment. It does not always occur to people that they need to let the artists know that they appreciate the fact that the artist is making them happy. We are used to providing feedback when we are unhappy and told to just enjoy things when they do make us happy. You are making all your paetron's happy and you deserve every single one. We are paying to be here and enjoy your art. If any of us didn't want to be here we wouldn't. I hope you can take more satisfaction that we want to be here and that it can be a source of happiness for you.
Katryne
2019-10-19 20:43:18 +0000 UTCI don't usually comment because I rarely fully log into Patreon, but every time I get a notification that you've uploaded something, I always go see straight away :) your a wonderful artist and a wonderful person. Your art is next level awesome and every new art you do is better than the last. Honestly, I don't support many people on patreon but I'll always support you and your fine ass art. You're an inspiration and even when times are hard, I hope you know that we all love the shit out of you ❤️❤️
2019-10-19 20:39:36 +0000 UTCI'm sorry you feel like that ;-; I really enjoy your art and even though I don't always comment, I do when I can. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mari
2019-10-19 20:35:35 +0000 UTCYour content is so good!! I am always so excited to see a new post from you, because I know it's going to be amazing. I'm sorry to hear you're not feeling that well about your art and talent but please dont think that you are disappointing any of us. We follow you for a reason and that's because we believe in you. I will do better in leaving comments and likes to be sure you know this. All the best to you!
Krysta M
2019-10-19 20:35:28 +0000 UTC