Attachment Annoyance, Aromanticism, and Break-In Trauma
Added 2026-01-19 12:00:17 +0000 UTC
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Thank you for continuing to offer the lowest tier option 🙏 with everything else in the world being so expensive for now im able to listen to my favorite podcast without feeling the pain 😁
Maggie
2026-01-20 18:52:40 +0000 UTCyeah it's super interesting because i think there are aspects of how you adapt to the world with insecure attachment styles that *could* be framed as advantages. for example i think a lot of the anxious-preoccupied people i know tend to be hypervigilant—i'm disorganized and i am also hypervigilant—and i think you could argue that makes us better at attuning to others. but that doesn't necessarily mean that a person will be more attuned in a way that promotes closeness or greater empathy for others. a lot of times it can just feed into issues like rejection sensitivity or people-pleasing. i think it's more likely that once someone starts working towards earned secure attachment these sorts of abilities are able to manifest in a positive way because a person is able to better self-regulate & differentiate self from other (etc.) so yeah people with secure attachment still can have relationship struggles and people with insecure attachments can find joy in connection with others but insecure attachment itself is a net negative and secure attachment itself is a net positive when it comes to relating to others (imo).
Alex (they/he)
2026-01-20 16:44:10 +0000 UTClike no shade Adam but yeah having insecure attachment sucks 😭😭
Alex (they/he)
2026-01-20 16:25:37 +0000 UTCOr don't be trigger happy I should say
wacky
2026-01-19 18:00:15 +0000 UTCBig difference between "no negative" and being trigger happy while reading the dsm lol
wacky
2026-01-19 17:59:54 +0000 UTC
