Open Book Episode 5 Extra Patreon Segment!
Added 2024-11-27 23:02:25 +0000 UTChiiiii everyone! we are back with the second patreon segment for the podcast
today we're talking about relationships, breakups, the future, job security, viewer questions and moreee!
let me know what you think in the comments, and remember to submit questions for next month🤍
Comments
Can't lie, it was hard to listen to this one because of how close to home it hit. I'm a 24yo M ADHDer who was just dumped last August because I was failing to meet expectations as a result of many life issues - this happened at a point where, according to our discussed timeline, I would have been proposing to her mere months from that point. Was very much in love and ready to marry, though feeling worried about becoming a dad despite wanting it very much, especially with her. So I guess as someone who has been been down that road but on the other side, and as someone who got the unhappy ending, I guess all I would say is: no matter how confident you both are about your communication and your transparency around struggles and ability to work together, regularly take the time to confirm that you’re on the same page and that you are both giving what you need to be giving to stay on top of those challenges, both foreseen and unforeseeable challenges that might confront things. Because even in the event of a breakup, there are more gut wrenching ways it can come about. Not to be parasocial, but I would hate to see you both endure what I’ve had to. The last time I saw her was the day I was able to move out - my birthday. I spent it largely alone, and I haven’t seen her since. She said and did a lot of things that were hurtful, and I had wanted so badly to show that I wanted to fight for us, but due to surprisingly poor communication, in her mind I should have known that we were on our last legs and since nothing changed, we wouldn’t be taking a break or thinking things through, it was simply over, and I didn’t have a clue it was coming until it was already too late. Also, always understand things from the other side. Just because you are trying so hard but the outcome isn’t showing, does not mean they aren’t giving their all - you’re both fighting the same fight together, the fight isn’t against each other even if it’s frustrating at times. I wasn’t perfect, but I wake up every day in my current circumstances just wishing she’d understood it from my pov, and given me a chance to show how badly I wanted to fight for us. Now, she’s removed me completely from her life, everyone around me tells me it’s for the best as she gave up too easily and now I’m alone in the challenges I still have to confront and even if I get through it all, the life I was working towards to begin with is just gone. I love and miss her so much, and I’m stuck in pretty shitty circumstances for the forseeable future. So. Yeah just don’t break up guys it’s kind of a cringe outcome. ADHD is harder than ppl realise, being with someone with ADHD is equally hard, but the important thing is you found each other and ur relo can continue being the beautiful safe thing that it is, just stay grounded and conscious, work together every single step of the way and remember that sometimes we don't always meet expectations, but not always for the lack of wanting or trying to. Sometimes we just need more patience in order to get back up and on top of our own demons. You're a team that can win and deserves to win, so good luck and much love <3
dohpam1n3
2025-01-23 09:17:33 +0000 UTCI almost thought this segment was gonna have a surprise guest the way you started talking lol
Iris
2024-12-06 11:53:31 +0000 UTC
