A beautiful precious moment captured…GENTLE PARENTING WORKS!

As I leaned over to kiss my oldest daughter on the forehead she leaned over to kiss her breastfeeding sister on the cheek. This beautiful artistic photo of the love of our family is so precious. Kindness and gentle parenting really works! Through all the moments we’ve had together from temper tantrums to cuddle time there is one thing that stands out the most and that is how much we love each other.

Instead of yelling at your children, use constructive ways to help them through their emotions. Help them become emotionally mature by being patient with them, staying calm, using time outs or consequences like less screen time or by imposing quiet time to think about how better they could react to any given situations.

My 5 year old had a total hunger meltdown when it was time for lunch after we played at the indoor playground. I knew she was hungry and as we went to a healthy place to eat she started a major tantrum throwing her water bottle and yelling at me.

I calmly picked her up and explained this type of behavior went against my boundaries and that it was not acceptable for her to have such a furry in a place like this. I walked us all back out to the car turning on the A/C and hugged her.

I said “I understand you’re so hungry and you want to eat. We will go back in the cafe once you calm down and can treat mommy with respect please.”

It took about 10 minutes of crying and attitude but I sat there calm and did not budge. She said “you are mad at me and don’t love me!” I told her “I am not mad at you I just don’t approve of disrespectful or mean behavior. I understand you’re hungry and we are here to eat, it’s ok for you to feel “hangry” (hungry anger) but we must act appropriately for where we are. Nothing you could ever do would make not love you. I will always love you no matter what.”

She started to calm down and breathe with me giving me the sweetest apology and a big hug. I asked “are you ok now? Shall we go eat?” She said “Yes mommy.”

We went back in and had a really nice mother daughter lunch together.

There’s always a reason a child is acting out and it’s not because they are a bad child. Think about what might be the reason before ever losing your cool. Maybe your child is tired, hungry, needs a diaper change or trip to bathroom, is bored, is hot, cold, scared of a new place or situation, overwhelmed etc. There are so many reason a child acts out. Their little brains have not developed full emotional regulation capabilities until they are well into their 20’s!

Let’s teach them, not scold them, yell or worst case spank. You should NEVER hit your child. Hitting and spanking can lead to child anxiety, depression, PTSD from childhood trauma as an adult etc., but leading with love will change the world.

Watch the difference when you stop spanking and turn to better gentle parenting techniques. Not only will your child be a better kid but they will grow to trust you and learn to come to you with anything. They’ll have a smarter brain and a happier adulthood finding it easier to navigate through tough emotions and lead their own lives with love.

So mommies, families, take a deep breath, assess the situation, stay calm and give appropriate consequences that for the situation. Walk with your child away from the place the tantrum is taking place in and go to a quiet area that is calm to sit with your child until they can calm down. Know that they will learn to regulate their emotions by watching you and don’t forget the hug and “I love you no matter what” when all is calm. Your child will grow up knowing they are loved and when they’re adults may have a more positive loving relationship with you!

I’m sure if you are here as my patron, you must really love your family as much as I love mine and that you choose to learn a better way to feed them and nurture them. My kids are everything to me and I want to always be close to them having a close connection with them even when they’ve left the nest.

I’m the parent that stays home with them working from home so I can spend every minute I can with them. I’m the parent that refused to allow my children to be spanked. I’m the parent that will stand up for them if they’re ever bullied by anyone. I’m the parent that spends the most time with them, playing with them while teaching them and showing them the world in a magical way, teaches them manners, hold their tiny hands through the parking lot, keeps them safe, and loves them unconditionally.

We can change the world together and raise amazing people for our future world. #bethechange#gentleparent

Best of luck!

your friend,

The Famous Mommy xoxo 😘