Question for you
Added 2024-03-05 18:16:32 +0000 UTCWhat do you
[specifically you]
like about being dominated/worshipped?
Comments
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Ray Purchase
2024-04-25 22:52:19 +0000 UTCFor me, its about trust. All of the women that raised me [my mom, aunts, gram, neighbor, etc] were all involved in relationships with terrible men. Physical, mental, financial, sexual abuse, you name it. They all had VERY domineering partners who were all about control in every way possible. From where they could go to what they could eat to how they had to dress & who they hung out with. As I grew up, I watched literally every one of them put their foot down and put themselves first. They all ended in divorce with my female role models happier on the other side. I knew long ago that I would never want that type of relationship. No man would ever tell me what to do with my life. But dominating me in the bedroom is a totally different thing. Its the only space where I can let that guard down. I can temporarily pause the vow I promised myself as a teen. BUT I can't have that kind of spicy relationship with just anyone. It requires SO MUCH trust to know that it would never happen outside a spicy environment or drift into "real life". They know my hang-ups and triggers. And the fact that I CAN trust someone THAT much....that's the turn-on.
Lina
2024-04-25 21:26:36 +0000 UTCI've just read through all of the replies so far, and am in awe of the powerful folks on here and their thoughtfulness in replying to this question! For me, personally, I agree with a lot of what's been said, so I won't repeat it. I do think a lot more Dom content is out there (at lots of levels and varieties) than quality worship content. I fully agree with earlier posters that the slightest whiff of BS shuts it all down. Many of us are wary of being pandered to or made fun of, and for me that's where my brain goes if it feels "acted". The real thing that struck me, while reading the responses, is that in many ways the worship and Dom/Domme (especially pleasure Dom/Domme) are the same. Hear me out. For either of those to be successful they have to really pay attention. There is a level of devotion and care, and an ability and willingness to pick up on all of those cues that show what a partner needs or wants (especially when the partner may not know or be able to express that easily). Skills at Dom or Worship come with time and perception, and a level of relationship (though this does not have to be a "romantic" one). Being a good Dom is not just giving orders, it's knowing what a Sub needs to get them where they want to go. And you certainly can't worship someone without a decent knowledge of that person. So why choose? How delightful to imagine a Dom who can worship (in turn and/or at the same time?)! I am FAR from an expert at any of these things, just sharing my thoughts, but I would love to hear what you could do with this (if you ever see it, since it's a month past the question!).
Jamie
2024-04-07 00:36:25 +0000 UTCI have the feeling that this is going to be a long answer, bear with me đ I have never been dominated, not fully at least, I got scared and stopped it. Some very very light domination many years ago but enough to make me understand that I like it - which I wasn't willing, even under torture to admit at that time. To this day, I still don't fully admit it. In my everyday life, I am what appears to everyone a very strong woman.Always juggling everything at the same time. Always making sure that everything is organized, to the smallest detail. Being so dominant in my everyday life gave me the ability to hide my wants and needs to the best of my ability. In other words - I'm a freak control with OCD that literally cannot relinquish power, lol. For me, being dominated in bed is shutting down my thoughts, completely clearing my mind and handing the power over to my partner. Not having to think about anything, just being present in the moment and letting him do as he pleases with me - after I consented, obviously. What I find fascinating about the Dom/Sub relationship is the deep understanding they have of each other. When he knows exactly what she needs, what she is so deeply and profoundly craving when she can't put the words together. How much she wants to be good for him, to give him everything she has and even more, to push herself just a little bit for him. Two people that complete each other just wanting to please and pleasure each other in every possible way. Also, I am a the brattiest brat, always have been. I will talk back, I will disobey - being "put in place" is something that I definitely deserve 99% of the time, lol. As for being worshipped - it's not something that I ever thought about until meeting the man that is my husband today. 14 years later and being worshipped is still very very weird to me even though, deep down, I like and enjoy every single part of it. Hope this answers your question đ
Samantha
2024-04-06 23:08:31 +0000 UTCIâm very independent. Like, get out of my way, Iâll do it myself. To have a man take charge lets me relax and turn off my brain. I need that.
Cami
2024-04-05 11:17:48 +0000 UTCI am an eldest daughter. Iâm in leadership (work), I hold sacred space (passion). People have always looked to me, shit, Iâve always relied on me. I crave consensual dominance for the opportunity to surrender safely and fully slip out of my thinking mind. Unhurried attentive dominance softens me add a bit of sternness [Iâm no brat, more of a princess] and my muscles feel as though theyâre melting off the bone. Quinn opened me up to degradation *takes a deep breath* I love it. I donât have to be a perfect lady or [pretty] I can delve into my hidden desires and experience the full spectrum of myself. Worship makes me feel honored and cherished. (My first Patreon bio was âmultifaceted lil kitten, princess, Goddessâ). I lean into pleasure Dom over Msub experiences. Like a King praying to a Goddess. A man who worships the feminine and its many forms is so sexy. Reverence will bring out the light in me and helps me to experience that joy. I love the way you approach both.
Ria
2024-04-04 22:31:53 +0000 UTCWhy hello there - glad you found to way to the Medical Wing <3 [thx for the answer]
Ray Purchase
2024-04-04 19:52:31 +0000 UTCLike many women, I have spent my life juggling like 10,000 things at once. Always making decisions, always expected to be the "rock" of the family. A lot of masculine energy. A Dominant man takes all of that pressure from me, and allows me to be totally in my feminine energy ~ which I believe is what I was created to be in - I don't feel comfortable being in masculine energy~ I'm not a woman who needs to be a "boss babe" ~ it's been more expected/forced upon me. I know a lot of women cringe to read this, but I love being submissive, taking care of my man, and letting him make decisions. Especially when it comes to sex. I love a MAN - stern, strong, capable of taking care of me. And as we all know, in a D/s relationship, the sub really has the power!!! But it's FEMININE power! Gah.....hope this ramble made sense!
NashGrapefulGirlđ©·
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Catherine
2024-04-01 07:49:11 +0000 UTCTurning in my essay very late, in hopes of partial credit. Theoretically... Dominated â The idea of surrendering completely & being taken care of, nothing to worry or be anxious about. Brain off, pleasure on. Fully immersed. Yet all I have to do is speak one word and everything stops. Thereâs an important kind of safety in that. There are a few audios where the listener uses the safe word and the VA reacts immediately to stop everything, check in & start aftercare. (Naudioâs Donât Be Shy, I think?) As a fiery Aries/eldest daughter/worrier, currently the main decision maker/problem solver (with anxiety, control issues & I suspect, ADHD) I have a hard time getting my brain to turn off. [Likes running as much as I physically hate running. My sleep pattern is fucked. Shut up shut up shut UP.] It would be delightful to just lay it all down. It would be a big deal for me to trust someone enough to let them take charge & handle everything. Someone to take my chin in their hand, force me to make eye contact (itâs hard, okay!) & say, âI got you.â Seems like such a small thing but in reality, itâs massive. Worshipped â The goddess effect. For someone to sink to their knees at your feet, gaze up at you adoringly, pay tribute, take the time to admire and caress and kiss every tiny little area that seems insignificant but in reality is a hidden erogenous zone so it sends a thrill up your spine? Yeah. That. For someone to look at the parts of you that you canât bear to look at yourself, that you beat yourself up over every day for entire years of your life, and see only beauty? Yeah. That too.
jaymzangel
2024-04-01 07:23:23 +0000 UTCIâm very independent and have to be strong in every other aspect of my life, so the ability to let go of the control and have someone show how much they desire me is incredibly intriguing.
Sara M
2024-03-26 01:31:03 +0000 UTCLike a lot of women, I have some past trauma Iâm working through. Honestly, your [dom] work was the first one where I was like this feels safe. The breathing, the explanation, the âdefining of the play areaâ (it having a definite start and end with clear off-ramps) made it make sense to me. So thank you. For worship/praise, itâs the thing that gets me to calm the fuck down. Iâm (like a lot of women and femmes) on high alert and at high speed a lot of the time. Yes, mindfulness and yoga. AsĂ©. Yes, AND we all have different things that bring us to that stillness where connection can happen. I donât think you can be anywhere but in the present moment for real intimacy and connection. Sooooooo say some pretty words to me. And tell the truth when you do. (Youâre so good at this.) Remind me that you *see* me. Breathe with me. Read my energyâŠand remix it back to me in a poem. You know? For me, I love the way [worship] slows things down.
Kesa
2024-03-23 14:55:00 +0000 UTCDominated: as a girl with adhd my partners body is a playground and when weâre together my synapses are always firing wanting to touch, taste, tease more so more be better than myself than the last time make him see stars to keep it interesting and to keep my mind engaged. Being dominated, choked, forced into submission (cnc) whatever it is forces me to receive pleasure without my mind racing ahead of me. Like if they are going down on me but Iâm restrained or degraded or whatever it is itâs a lot easier for me to be in the moment receiving t the pleasure rather than thinking about the next delicious thing I want to do with them
Hannah_Joy
2024-03-13 05:04:11 +0000 UTC
