Storytime: MORE Friend Drama...Lost one of my best friends
Added 2024-02-19 15:00:10 +0000 UTC
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I know I'm late to the party lol because I just subscribed but I think you handled the situation very well. I would want a friend to be real with me and tell me when I am doing something wrong. Listen, you never know what days is going to be your last because there will come a time when she could get hurt if she doesn't get that temper in check. If she doesn't want a friend (because you acted like a friend) then maybe the friendship ending is for the best. Anywho, really enjoying the content!
KnymsWrld
2024-11-11 21:07:05 +0000 UTCSound like she bipolar or not dealing with the issues she has inside her not defending her or nun but she prob needs therapy if she snapping like that bc don’t nobody wanna be around that consistently walking on eggshells around her it’s not anyone’s fault but hers hope she gets the help she needs one day before she crashes out
Ace_ 19
2024-06-13 20:48:41 +0000 UTCDee literally sent audio messages when she was talking abt what she thought was annoying etc so the only text excuse doesn't work
kareem 🇵🇸
2024-05-26 16:12:09 +0000 UTCLol I just realised you text almost exactly how you speak irl. Maybe it would have been better to have that conversation f2f. It’s incredibly jarring to have a mirror held to your face like that especially if no one in the past(I’m assuming) had not brough it up. if she was being introspective during that time which I think she might’ve been (obv idk her) she should have communicated that insecurity and ask for some time away from the friendship while she dealt with that. Friendship break ups are terrible, wishing yall the very best.
WeAre TechZA
2024-05-23 11:59:37 +0000 UTC7:54 I love that you reached out to you friend to address the behavior but honestly it would have better done in a convo rather a voice message because they can easily become a rant. I only say this because people receive Critiques hard enough so a 4 minute long message where a person is called snappy and needlessly rude, and listing all the times they been rude is a lot for a mentally well person to handle, and one can imagine that it would be hard for a friend who can easily be triggered to handle that message as well. Including you saying your thought process of “here she go” is a lot for a person to take not personally. No hate but in conclusion in messages like these ,which are necessary, it is important to know what kind of person is receiving the message
Kai Tann
2024-05-19 06:05:05 +0000 UTCIm late but i resonate with the drama with the friendships. My friend got sloppy drunk, danced around, burped in people faces, was yelling, and threw up on our food and table at a restaurant. The next morning i told him that it was embarrassing and dont do that again at least while im with him. His response was “i’m grown/etc”. Mind you i had to drive his grown ass home and i live a hour away from him😭
Kaydance P
2024-05-10 18:26:38 +0000 UTCWow, it's incredible how some people can be so full of themselves. Their ego is sky-high, making it impossible for them to empathize with your feelings or perspective. It's truly appalling, and you definitely don't need that negativity in your life.
Riffmaster78
2024-04-29 02:01:21 +0000 UTCThat sucks but you called her out nicely and privately. You weren't unruly or anything. She was wrong and you were being a good friend.
Ohemaa MaMokowa
2024-03-21 16:40:28 +0000 UTCI’m not perfect but I’m also a sassy friend with a mouth on me but I don’t snap at people. I’m very nice with my friends and sometimes I make slick comments ( not rude comments ) and be real sassy with them but if anyone ask my friends about me, they will say that I’m very sweet with everybody. That’s something I’m working on but honestly my friends don’t hold shit back if they have a problem with something they will alert you about it.And I don’t like fighting, im grown wtf do I look like fighting people. And like u said I don’t like people who would put there friends in harm’s way. Keep your head up and always speak up when something is bothering you. 🩷
Jj Bap
2024-03-04 19:19:15 +0000 UTCSo true. I can't imagine being complacent and not wanting to improve, really odd that some people have this "take it or leave it" nasty attitude smh
Dee Shanell
2024-03-04 15:24:59 +0000 UTCUnfortunately some people just don't want to hear that they are in the wrong. She probably doesn't want to change and will always be this person. I say this from experience as I had to let my friend go of 30 yrs. Some people grow up from live experiences and others do not and we out grow people in our lives. It will probably take her to get beat up from her being the way she is to realize that isn't the way to treat others.
Chantelle Cline
2024-03-03 00:15:55 +0000 UTCFalling out with close friends hurts more than a relationship breakup
tome
2024-02-29 02:16:36 +0000 UTCJust by the way you answered the phone like u can tell Dee is so nice, it was so cute! It sucks and ive been through similar situations but we move on and well be ok!
Bruno Duarte
2024-02-26 16:58:31 +0000 UTCAwww so nice to see Dee in her lovey dovey element😭😭…that “hi baby” was so refreshing to hear
Aniyah
2024-02-23 22:19:11 +0000 UTCyou handled that far better than me 💯 definitely made me reevaluate things with a current friend that i’m in the same situation with…. luv u
lil baby walter
2024-02-23 21:30:04 +0000 UTCExactly! We as people are typically biased when it comes to our character, so it takes someone close to us to honestly convey how we actually are. Which is a great thing because it can help us grow and improve. Being opposed to that is so strange, I can't imagine going my whole life pretending I'm perfect and cutting off anyone who criticizes me lmao like what
Dee Shanell
2024-02-23 21:14:43 +0000 UTCWtf lol that's wilddd
Dee Shanell
2024-02-23 21:08:11 +0000 UTCI'm not even 30 secs into the voice memo and I already appreciate how direct you were without being disrespectful. I'm the same way.
Lolothagod
2024-02-23 17:59:38 +0000 UTCDee you did everything you could like if we can’t hold each other accountable and receive/accept critics from one another then what even is this “friendship” it’s very important to any friendship/relationship that you’re able to be honest and upfront with each other which you are, it just sucks that she let (you expressing your feelings) get in the way of y’all’s friendship I don’t know you personally but from what I’ve just watched you’re a great friend and some people don’t know how good they have it until it’s gone I know she’s going to miss you bc now is she was to run her mouth to the wrong person and winded up getting dog walked she won’t have any help
Bobby🫶🏾
2024-02-23 15:45:59 +0000 UTCI had a friend like this. We went out to eat and she started yelling at the waitress for bringing our drinks a little late. It was a full house, and we dead ass only waited 4 minutes. Caused a whole ass scene. We ended up leaving early and I had tipped the waitress $30 just to apologize. That shit is embarrassing af fr. Haven’t went out with her since…
Midnight Star
2024-02-23 07:34:53 +0000 UTCGOODBYE 😭😭
Jose
2024-02-22 23:18:00 +0000 UTCIt’s good that you communicated your observations. Some people don’t know how to handle constructive criticism and it might be a soft spot for them. I’ve learned the hard way that I need to kinda chill with how I communicated my thoughts-I don’t have bad intentions but other people might reflect their inner thoughts and muddy things. Friendships should be light and you’re not their therapist, but it sounds like she needs some help dealing with the pent up anger. I would want to know, where is it coming from? What’s triggering this behavior? How can you catch it and make better judgement calls on what is rational response vs unproductive/waste of time? Regardless, this is something she has to want to change. You brought it to her attention, someone she knows and cares about so that should tell her something. If no action is taken then she might be set in her ways and she’s either going to pull herself out of it or let it get to a point where it’s deteriorating all of her relationships. Another assumption is that when she was younger people might have egged her on when she was sassy and it became part of her identity. So maybe she needs to identify with something else that’s not as combative. I hope y’all are able to hash it out-true friends will eventually sync up again. Sorry this happened and my constructive criticism for u is to ask people why something happened vs telling them everything they’re doing wrong. Ask if they think it’s a problem and if they want to change it? If they’re still popping off then just let them have it lol I don’t know everything and if my friend told me straight up what they thought I would appreciate that-but most people don’t have thick skin like that.
David
2024-02-22 14:23:57 +0000 UTCGood for you for standing up for yourself too and knowing you deserve better friendships 💕
Dee Shanell
2024-02-22 05:14:03 +0000 UTCFacts!
Dee Shanell
2024-02-22 05:12:21 +0000 UTC💀
Dee Shanell
2024-02-22 05:12:07 +0000 UTCfuck that hoe
ra
2024-02-22 04:06:31 +0000 UTC#deehiveforlife 🫶
Josh
2024-02-21 04:25:10 +0000 UTCHer response reminded me of that one scene from bgc “It is disrespectful-” “To youuuu”
Bloody Lemmon
2024-02-20 23:24:28 +0000 UTCLike why am I having to correct you, you’re grown
Bloody Lemmon
2024-02-20 23:19:57 +0000 UTCChecking/Addressing a friend gotta be one of the top ten most embarrassing moments
Bloody Lemmon
2024-02-20 23:18:24 +0000 UTCwell they say one of the ways to see who a person truly is, is to watch how they treat people who they feel can do nothing for them
Ron Snow
2024-02-20 20:01:24 +0000 UTCThat's good that you are able to see the good in this situation. I'll be sending nothing but positive vibes your way! And thank you so much for your content. 💖
Chelsea M
2024-02-20 14:46:48 +0000 UTCI went through something different with my ex bestie recently but what was common with ur story is the lack of accountability on her end. Im glad you stood up for yourself and were honest with her but sad that she couldn’t reflect on her own actions and grow. Your account makes me feel less alone in my situation too. Thank you
Lex Fuller
2024-02-20 02:39:58 +0000 UTCDee sending you all the love rn and just wanted to say you truly are the embodiment of if you bring your “friends” on holiday you’ll realise you really not ”friends” 😭🤣
Breezy
2024-02-20 02:29:01 +0000 UTCI knew someone like that when I was younger. She was a bit older than me, but being with her in public was infuriating. Every little thing was an issue. Sometimes we've got to let time do its thing. Hopefully your criticism helps open her eyes, and she does better, which she'll appreciate you for. But if it doesn't happen, then it is what it. It's not a bad thing to hold our loved ones accountable and NOT become enablers of their bad habits. It'll eventually come back to bite you. All the best to you.
Muffinz Okuurr
2024-02-20 01:07:01 +0000 UTCThanks Chelsea, I'm good though :) some friendships are just for a season. I had great experiences with her so I'm happy about that
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:22:55 +0000 UTCFacts! You hold that mirror up to them and they're terrified lol it's like, be a better person then tf
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:22:08 +0000 UTCOnce she gets her ass beat lmao she actually did before! Forgot to mention that, but she told me a story about how someone beat her up in college 😂 now I see why! She aint gon never learn smh
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:21:08 +0000 UTC😂 it's ok to admit that, that's why I upload them, for you guys' entertainment lol I'm at peace with these losses in friendships, everyone I meet isn't meant to be in my life forever, so all is good. Glad you're enjoying the storytimes :)
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:19:44 +0000 UTCAgreed! Whoever doesn't appreciate us don't need to have us in their lives period lol sending positivity to you as well! ❤️
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:14:25 +0000 UTCNo worries, I know it's coming from a good place lol thanks for your respectful feedback
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:13:25 +0000 UTCPeriod! And that's so dope, tell your mom I said heyyy lol thanks for your continued support, it means a lot ❤️
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:12:27 +0000 UTCAww thanks Timmy, really appreciate the kind words. I'm at peace with the friends I've lost so all is well :) grateful to have people in my life that I have good relationships with and grateful for supporters like you 💕
Dee Shanell
2024-02-20 00:11:13 +0000 UTCThis is such a shame because you seem like a cool person. Hate that you are going through this. 😔
Chelsea M
2024-02-19 23:41:52 +0000 UTCI can’t stand people who can’t be told things about themselves - in a constructive way too. People like that usually want yes people around them for their illogical behaviour. That’s why they’re only cool with you when you stay quiet. They’re usually the types of people who stay stagnant until they choose otherwise. A lot of people just don’t like seeing themselves for who they truly are.
naya 🧚🏾♀️
2024-02-19 23:26:11 +0000 UTCTum tum tum tum... Another one bites the dust! Lol I'm just playing, it happens! That's life at this point. Maybe down the road she'll remember your advice once she gets her ass beaten. Sounds like you did your best
Pape
2024-02-19 21:17:31 +0000 UTCI know these are real life situations and stuff. However, i’m sorry - these are some of my fav vids from you 😂 Love your storytimes
michael
2024-02-19 21:07:06 +0000 UTCDamn Dee, I def know how you feel and went through something like this almost two years ago now. My "best friend" slowly stopped talking to me, and whenever I tried to make plans she was always "busy" (yet I'd see her story and she would be hanging out with other friends) hurts and feels like (in my case) that you were never as important in their life as they were yours, but two years later I'm doing good for myself and only wish them the best! Sending only positivity and love Dee 🙏🏾
Ayeaka E Berkeley
2024-02-19 20:05:10 +0000 UTCI could totally relate to this there was a time that I fell out with a super close friend & we just stopped talking completely, we didn't try to hit each other below to belt or viciously attack one another because we still had respect for the history of our friendship but we did just grow distance towards each other, relationships that have that kinda history are hard to blow-up so easily especially if for the most part you've always had good experience's with said friend, lucky because we minimumed the casualties of how low we could go to hurt each other it made things easier when me & my ex-friend started talking again, & we truly talked things out & now we're cool again, everyone may not be able to relate to that same type of outcome but the fact that you & her didn't leave a path of destruction behind at least means it's not all lost, but time will tell I suppose, that if you truly care to of course.
Darian Diamond
2024-02-19 19:21:06 +0000 UTCHey Dee, love your reaction and story time videos. I don’t know the relationship dynamic between you and your friend. I think if you really feel like this is a friend you would like to keep or see yourself making up in the future, I feel like its worth to send her a text and be like “hey, I’ve been feeling like you’ve been trying to distance yourself ever since the feedback I gave you and if that’s true then cool, but I wanted to reach and express how I’ve been feeling.” I’m Just giving your friend the benefit of the doubt since we are all adults and we get busy and we often forget to follow up on plans. I understand that if she felt some type of way she should’ve expressed that to you as well, but sometimes pride can get in in the way and honestly sounds like both of y’all’s pride is keeping y’all from clearing the air. I know it’s unwanted advice lol but something similar happened to me and looking at it now it was tension that we didn’t express that made us stop being friends and could’ve easily been fixed by putting all cards on the table, but we were both too prideful to to do that.
Blueberriboy
2024-02-19 18:41:22 +0000 UTCI can’t stand when some people don’t wanna just take accountability, like it’s not that difficult to say “oh that was wrong of me and I’ll try to do better from now on”… she’s the one who ended the friendship, You were just being a good friend giving some criticism/advice… and that was for both of y’all safety cuz u never know who might snap on her and get you involved in something you had no say in. Good for you. Season 2 (2024) of Tea w Dea is already lookin better than season 1 (2023) 😂 Btw I showed my mom your fitness journey videos🏋️ and she loved it and got so motivated by it to where she’s now much more consistent with her diet and going to the gym (she was already going and on a diet but was never consistent and used to always cheat meals) she lost like 10 pounds (or 15 idk) so far I think. For the record… I’m Egyptian, so my parents are North African… they don’t care or keep up with any YouTubers or influencers and she didn’t think much when was first seeing this but she’s been really into it and motivated by it so thanks. ☺️
Mazin
2024-02-19 18:23:51 +0000 UTCAn everyday struggle 😂… I keep telling my therapist I should be able to legally sue the people who put or make me go to therapy for the sh*t they put me through … 🫠🤣…
Joshua Lewis
2024-02-19 18:10:34 +0000 UTCI'm sorry you lost another friend Dee, I don't usually comment but I love it when you share these stories with us because I view them as learning experiences. You're turning something negative that happened into a positive, and that's not to say losing a friend is ever a "positive" thing. I wish you the best of luck finding new friends in 2024 and beyond. If I must I will help manifest it for you 😂 because I hate seeing this happen to people who I think are genuinely pleasant in a world where "bad" people seemingly get away with so much. After all, you've been a positive force in my life since I started watching you while you were still with your ex. You are passionate, entertaining, funny, honest, inspirational, and so many other things I don't have the vocabulary to describe. You have opened my mind and given me new perspectives on life that I never thought of before, so again thank you for all that you do I will never take it for granted ❤️ #deehiveforlife
Timmy
2024-02-19 17:50:03 +0000 UTCIf i had a friend that snaps out on people, i wont be nice when i tell them they're doing too much becausse at the same time, STFU. Like stop snapping at people like a lil child. Thats just me.
....
2024-02-19 17:49:10 +0000 UTCFacts! I'm a huge believer that everything happens for a reason. If someone is no longer in my life, they're not supposed to be. This perspective gives me a lot of peace
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 17:22:47 +0000 UTCDamn, glad you were able to reflect though and now you can appreciate that in the future
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 17:21:30 +0000 UTCPeriod! We shouldn't just ass pat our friends constantly, I think it's important to hold them accountable when they're in the wrong
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 17:20:34 +0000 UTCSorry you had to go through that, people have a habit of projecting what they're going through on others. I'm sure you'll feel less stress without them in your life, so a win is a win lol but yes, I'm trying my best to have patience with these heuxs 😂 it's a struggle!
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 17:19:32 +0000 UTCI'm confused by the question, I never witnessed anyone calling her out. I said my other friend noticed she was being weird that particular night and that's when I brought it to her attention. Looking back, her flaws still seemed minor in the beginning. Again, I only called it out when I felt it was starting to get out of hand. I would've still remained friends with her if she worked on her behavior, because it wasn't THAT deep. It's not like she was actually getting into fights or shouting matches with people. So yeah I wouldn't do anything differently and in hind sight, I still feel the same about everything. Didn't feel disrespected though, it's just a bit annoying when people speak on things they don't have experience with, and you came off a bit judgy lol but all good
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 17:00:44 +0000 UTCNot a black woman, no lol. A black man raised by an around them my whole life. I know yall quick on the draw sometimes sure. Though it's warranted most of the time. Though if not only you but other people/your friends(I'm assuming black woman aswell) have called out her tendencies was it really that minor a issue or not a bigger one you let slide because you weren't immediately possible collateral because she was cool to you specifically? Some things are seen differently when we really look back on them. Some flaws are bigger than we originally think. Though I'm just a nigga typing from similar situations lol. Don't listen to me 🤷🏿♂️. If you felt disrespected by my comment, my bad.
Shawn
2024-02-19 16:31:52 +0000 UTCNgl I have a feisty attitude too so this isn't usually a red flag LOOL this isn't easy to vet. As a guy, you wouldn't understand. So you should chill with the judgement assuming she's not doing her due diligence in selecting her friendships. As black women a lot of us are a bit sassy
Sachiii
2024-02-19 16:29:47 +0000 UTCI know how you feel … I just came out of a simile situation where a friend (or at least thought was my friend), I tried to schedule many times for us to meet up and hangout and just chill on my free days from work … Never got around to it … It would be to the point where they would tell me we’ll hang out on Thursday for example, I would clear my schedule, go to the gym early, and be ready for whatever, and then when I call and message I don’t hear anything from them … It was like that for a while until I called them out on it and their response was “Well, let’s not make plans” … Had a conversation about it few days after and thought everything was fine because them saying let’s not make plans really hurt my feelings ... Fast forward, they were getting a new position in the company I work at and they told me to tell them if there was any gossip, if anyone was taking about them, etc etc … They wanted to know what was going on so they can keep a look out for certain people and me behind a good friend told them some things in private about some people and what they said and just to watch your back and not everyone who shakes your hand is a friendly person … When I told them about the gossip and sh*t, they got upset with me and proceeded to take out their frustrations (personal issues they’re going through that has nothing to do with me) out on me … I was hella confused … I even sent them a funny poetry thing I saw online that was on some ghetto humor type of sh*t and their responses was that I’m being negative and filled with too much negativity … Mind you, I sent that poem to 10 other people that day and they were laughing their assess off … But with that, I even told them if it’s not funny then sorry and that whatever their going through has nothing to do with me and they shouldn’t take it out their frustration and anger on me … But yeah, I just decided to leave that friendship there and put it to rest and it made me really sad because I live in Iceland because my partner is Icelandic and he lives here … Already, I don’t have any friends here because all of them live in other countries so yeah, that made me sad to lose that friend but oh well … less drama and more me time I guess because people be weird and on some bullsh*t and when you try to talk to them in a nice and chill way, the claws come out as if you just attacked them … You can’t have conversations with certain people anymore without them feeling attacked when that’s not even the case … It’s become to a point where people are passive aggressive and want you to not say anything if there’s a problem in the friendship or if anything bothers you … Or they’ll just start moving weird with you until the cord is finally cut … Sorry for my long paragraph y’all, 😂 I just felt like I had to get that sh*t off my chest as Dee was talking about it … And I agree with you 1000 Dee, we can’t force people to fuck and vibe with us and be our friend … that’s some advice I gotta take for myself because I keep being too nice to people and getting heartbroken or crushed in the end … People want to be pacified for their bad behavior but will crucify you if you do the same bad behavior … P.S: glad that you’re doing well after that Dee and wish you nothing but the best and just overall good health in mind, body, and soul and also sending you patience to deal with these h0es 😂😂😂😂😂… that’s what I’m calling them from now on … 🤣🤣🤣…
Joshua Lewis
2024-02-19 16:18:47 +0000 UTCexactly. people be fightin demons and like you said, I aint nobody’s therapist pls go seek the help u need luv😂 I can tell your friend was the same way. was prolly never gonna change and you could tell by her response that she aint had too many people keep it real with her and that was the problem! she was uncomfortable with you telling her what she most likely already know but dont want to hear! oh well she will he somebody elses headache.
Dino
2024-02-19 16:15:05 +0000 UTCYou were being honest with your friend. I always tell my friends I’m not a yes man and I expect the same from them.
Cesar R🇩🇴
2024-02-19 16:11:03 +0000 UTCShe's gonna realize she made a mistake once she feels that void. I've cut off some real good and genuine friends who've only tried to help me, and years later I'm still kicking myself for it.
Sevn
2024-02-19 16:10:11 +0000 UTCThanks so much Jeremy, appreciate that ❤️
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 16:07:38 +0000 UTCYeah a lot of people do not wanna admit that they're flawed at all smh
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 16:04:33 +0000 UTCHad a similar situation, so I felt this HEAVILY. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season & it hurts when you think those people are meant to be there for a lifetime. There's a silver lining though: character development 😂😂
Mr. Quacadile
2024-02-19 16:04:20 +0000 UTC😂
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 16:03:50 +0000 UTCPeriod! Glad you cut her off, you were gonna end up in jail soon over her lol fighting as an adult is ridiculous
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 16:03:40 +0000 UTCThis wasn't a one time thing so asking her what was wrong wouldn't have done anything, there was nothing she was going through. I asked this woman how things were going on a regular basis, nothing was happening with her lol. Her being snappy was a character flaw and she just didn't like being called out for it. Simple as that
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 15:59:34 +0000 UTCNo, I'm referring to me saying some of yall be trying to give "advice" when you can't even relate to my experience lol as I said in the video, she would say "little" snappy things to people, so it was easy to ignore for a long time. Unfortunately most black women I know have snappy attitudes to some degree, so that's not necessarily a red flag. I'm gonna assume you're not a black woman lol so this isn't something you would understand nor relate to. Hell, I even have a snappy attitude to a certain extent, so how I'ma judge her too harshly for that? She was always super cool with me and we always had a good time. People aren't perfect, I'm not about to cut everybody off when they show the smallest signs of being a flawed human being, that makes no sense. It was minimal in the beginning so there was nothing to "vet", like I said, I only said something when it became out of hand
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 15:55:17 +0000 UTCI’m so sorry that you went through yet another loss friendship dee😕 you deserve wayy much more. honestly… your patreon supports are here for you including me!🫶🏼💗
Jeremy💕💕💕
2024-02-19 15:50:12 +0000 UTCLet me start with this- from her point of view receiving that voice message maybe felt like it came out of nowhere and she didn't expect you to reflect on her behaviour (as u said u have brushed her behaviour off before) so she probably felt a little attacked even though you did it in a nice respectful way as a friend. I think when it comes to these situations it's always better to talk over the phone at the minimum, at best in person so you can see how the other person responds and feels about what your emotions saying. Cos often times (I've experienced this a lot) text messages get misinterpreted and can come across as passive aggressive. However, with that said, even if it you spoke directly to her I feel like she just doesn't want to face the truth and try to improve that part of her and you trying to help her as a friend made her see that reality and she didn't like it. I think that's why she started being distant with you and avoiding you (which is so immature of her). She could have easily taken a day to reflect on what you said and discussed it with you (like she's a grown woman).. The excuses to not meet up are textbook tactics to cut someone off for sure. I had a similar experience with a very close friend who we've been close from a young age and we have been on and off for many years. Everytime I have taken the initiative to reconnect with them and it goes well in the first few months or so and then they start to pull away and put no energy and effort into the friendship. I cut that friend off officially a year or so ago after it started becoming a chore to try and be their friend. I offered this friend to help her with her final college paper but she basically couldn't speak with me over the weekend even though she was free and wanted to essentially book me for a day during the following week, for me to help her mind you. Meanwhile I'm pretty sure she made plans with other people. I said nah fk this. I'm glad you cut her off because we are not about to be desperate and be chasing these people everytime while they do nada. It's very hard to find genuine long lasting friendships nowadays so yh definitely focus on the people who are giving u the same energy back. 💕
Dimitar Dimitrov
2024-02-19 15:47:55 +0000 UTCThese people so annoying bruh 🙄 I had a friend like this who said she ‘hated conflict’ but really just hated being confronted abt her behavior
Luke Redgate
2024-02-19 15:46:08 +0000 UTCUnrelated but dee got her a bri'ish man. Period
RedWolf
2024-02-19 15:45:55 +0000 UTCSo you think it's just another case of jealousy of you? Sure, very possible. Also, by "signs" I meant her temper. People who snap on everybody like it's a job ain't gonna take well to being called out for their behavior. Accountability is pretty much nowhere to be found with them. Just a general red flag imo from similar experience.
Shawn
2024-02-19 15:44:13 +0000 UTCI just dealt with the same type situation with one of my close female friends! I addressed it like you did, basically saying you have to be more mature and not put me in these situations over shit that aint worth that kind of energy…. the response was “if you dont like it you dont have to fwm”. I didn’t even respond. blocked! We too grown I dont got time for none of that I hate a disrespectful mf! and her she so hot headed, has fought multiple girls and I had to step in. mind u that cause hella chaos now im almost havin to fight the niggas getting into it and I dont think certain females be aware that you really puttin my life in jeopardy. ppl out here killin niggas left n right like wow you really gon put me in that situation? nahh im cool off that these mfs do not just fight nomore.
Dino
2024-02-19 15:43:11 +0000 UTC😂
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 15:43:00 +0000 UTCIm not saying you were wrong for voicing your concerns but I can tell she took your concerns as shade on some everybody out to get me type shit lol Next time something like this happens, try asking whats wrong or how are you feeling instead of outright voicing your concerns right away Once you get a guage of how that person feels then voice your concerns about said person actions and go from there. I been there with alotta ppl I considered friends and thats sumn I learned along the way
lilrickyfrm51
2024-02-19 15:42:50 +0000 UTCDefinitely! I've dealt with these issues in my family also, people do not wanna acknowledge that they're doing anything wrong smh
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 15:31:15 +0000 UTC🙄 go watch my last storytime, I addressed this at the very beginning. There were no "signs", me and her never had an issue
Dee Shanell
2024-02-19 15:26:32 +0000 UTCAt this point dee....it gotta be something in the water. It's definitely a running gag at this point lol. Idk if you gotta up your vetting process or you too forgiving because the signs clearly been there, no Mel Gibson 😭
Shawn
2024-02-19 15:17:46 +0000 UTCDee looked so happy when her man called❤️😭. I knew getting ts Patreon would benefit me but yeah I dealt someone like this mfs don’t like to be called out on their wrongs then they make it seem like you were the one being weird
Foster Nyekan
2024-02-19 15:17:10 +0000 UTC😂😂
Giovanni Joseph
2024-02-19 15:15:50 +0000 UTCSame 😂😂
Tyra Lee
2024-02-19 15:13:31 +0000 UTCi swiped fast asf to watch this tea😭😭😭
Zion
2024-02-19 15:03:28 +0000 UTC
