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Storytime: Friend Drama in MEXICO

Storytime: Friend Drama in MEXICO

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just catching up on the storytimes! but i dont get why shes pressed about not being invited on other holidays you go on and i totally understand the "sometimes it isnt giving you" LOOL because certain friends bring certain vibes on a holiday or certain friends might not gel together if you introduce them on a holiday abroad. I think the issue was her not having many friends so when you were abroad and busy she felt a type of way which defo isnt your fault! she needs to find more hobbies

Leen M

“I can show you the world” lmao

Elaz07

Regina must have thought you were Aladdin expecting you to show her the world lmao

Rainbow

I literally had a friend that got mad at me for keeping it real with her. Didn’t talk to me for a whole month w/o telling me a thing! Then addressed it to me talking about it was making her wonder if i even cared cause i didn’t check up on her….GIRL we are grown, you have an issue TELL ME. You wanna have a tantrum and stay mad IMA LET YOU 🤣😭

Maxx Amour

to address the "relatable" thing, i don't think every story u hear from everyone u meet has to be relatable to u, i think it's very interesting to hear dif life experiences ppl may have always seeking relatable things would be kinda weird lol, so thanks for these vids dee! i love em

saba_nana

Even though I can’t relate to that exact situation I totally can relate with the family aspect. I make no where near as much as Dee does lol not even close. But being the first and only one in my family thats going to college and that works in a suit and tie, family members all of the sudden become leaches and only reach out for their personal gain or start acting funny saying things like I act boujee because I no longer have the same mindset that they do. It’s pretty annoying and thats why it’s not wrong to cut old friends or family members off.

Cesar R🇩🇴

Preach! Who's supposed to be in your life will be in your life. That's been my motto lately and it's brought me a lot of peace when friendships end. But yeah I said I would talk about Keyana in a different video lol

Dee Shanell

Wait quick question, was this supposed to be originally about Kyauna or am I slow 😂 I’m known to be a lil slow sometimes but I thought the Regina backstory was the appetizer to what happened with Kyuana BUT it’s really weird how people can be. I am by nobody’s estimation wealthy or doing well, but I’m in a much better place than where I was back home in Ohio in the hood. And I’ve lost so many friends over the past 10 years since I’ve moved to the west coast. Some of it is distance and that’s fine, but as soon as I started enjoying my life and doing better for myself people really felt some type of way, and I’ve always been the type of friend to wish everyone nothing but the moon and stars. Like coming from where I come from and knowing the struggle, I want ALL of my people to win, even if I don’t fuck with you, I want you to win, full stop. So to see how that same support wasn’t given to me was wild for me at first. And I’m grown, like that some weird ass HS behavior…in my big ass age of almost mid 30’s why are we behaving like teenagers?? But yeah, after a certain point you just learn to let go. What and who’s for me will be for me and what and who’s not won’t be and that has nothing to do with me I’ve learned.

Devron Love

You make a good point because I’ve gone through the same thing with people of color that make less than me. Granted I grew up very differently than most black people I know as I grew up in the burbs but I have been trying so long to bond with people of my race (outside family) and we always fall out due to their insecurities. I think it’s unfortunate because we are all the same race and we should be united and not hate each other - like my successes shouldn’t be a hinderance or trigger, just like the way Dee lives, it shouldn’t be an impetus for bitches to get jealous and angry.

ZZBEN

Literally anywhere. I've made a friend at the grocery store before lol all you gotta do is talk to people and see if you click with them

Dee Shanell

Yeahh this is why I don't loan money at all lol

Dee Shanell

Tripadvisor or Expedia. Pick activities and restaurants that seem appealing to you

Dee Shanell

unrelated buttt Dee I’m going to Italy soon and I saw on ur insta stories u went. It’s me n my 5 girlfriends do u have any recommendations we should do see or eat ? we staying for 2 weeks 🤎

Destiny

I am only replying to the intro, mainly about family. People feel so entitled to what you have. They feel like if you have money, you must be able to loan it. This is so stupid cause you are just looking at your income and not at the person. You'll loan them something, and when you need them to loan you something, they are nowhere to be found. But the good thing is that you can pick your friends, not your family. I hope you surround yourself with people who love you for you, and even if their family sometimes you gotta cut them off.

RedWolf

YESSS I LIVE FOR THESE VIDEOS HAHA

Gonzalo M

Where are we making all these friends.I know go outside but…what else.I’m genuinely tryna learn lol

Jay jay

Thanks so much, appreciate this! And yes, you're totally right, some people will actually be able to relate to situations like this in friendships. I was just referring to people who were confused as to why this keeps happening to me and trying to understand why I keep encountering these type of people, implying there's something I'm doing wrong lol so that was what that intro was directed at. But you're absolutely right, even people who improve their lives in any way and have people switch up on them as a result would be able to relate to this as well. Thanks for pointing that out ❤️

Dee Shanell

Only replying to the intro. cuz thats how much i've seen so far. I feel like even though situations may not be the same, the undertones of the situation can still make it relatable. like sure we aren't all filthy rich but i think most people deal with shit like this. Get you a nice job where you no longer have time to go out as much as you did before and watch those party friends disappear or swear you actin different. People will be people, always looking out for themselves first and unfortunately to the most extreme takes. Sorry asshole people decided to find you and befriend you. Realize mosquitos are drawn to light; and you are the light.

SpokenWolves

PREACH! And that's such a great point about weight loss, I've heard many people speak negatively about someone when they lose weight. Like how you hating on someone wanting to improve their health?! Lmao insanity! But so true, just gotta keep doing you and cut those toxic people out your life

Dee Shanell

Not dick sucking at all 😂 thanks so much! <3

Dee Shanell

Great, highly recommend lol

Dee Shanell

Chipotle is definitely a hit or miss, depends on who's making your burrito! lol

Dee Shanell

What you said about people switching up is so true! I couldn’t believe how many people started acting funny towards me the second I started losing weight and making more money, to the point I was always cautious with anyone new I met. In addition to what you said about people viewing others as a reminder of where they want to be, they also start grouping you in with any unsavory people that are in a position like you. Start making more money? “You’re a snob.” Get fit? “You think you’re better than them.” Buy yourself something nice? “You’re showing off.” That being said, it’s much better to have them reveal their true colors rather than keep it hidden. Despite other people’s bs, you’ve just gotta keep doing you!

reylt

Re: the intro/context: you’re real ass fuck and that’s so rare nowadays. I hate an envious/jealous person omg. Not tryna suck ur dick but that’s genuinely why I fw u

Ok

Dang that's rough, sorry you went through that! I've sadly been having troubles with my friend group just before the pandemic. Learning to set boundaries, and letting people earn their "friendship" status (like I try to do) helped me temper my own expectations and vet out those that don't meet MY standard. It's helped me not take things personally or open up too much too quickly, and its given me peace of mind. You're totally right about jealousy, sometimes people don't even realize/accept that that's how they're behaving, which is more sad since they could work to achieve their goals. Hopefully, that realization of people's motivations will lead to less dissolving friendships for you 🙏🏾

Eyeram Harvey

Yeah I didn’t hear that last part. I was eating so I wasn’t fully focused tbh. I was too busy fucking that burrito up (am I the only one that feels like chipotle is always on & off for me), but… you prolly right. 🙃

Mazin

She addresses that at the end. Rich friends aren't just falling out of the sky, I'm sure it's not easy finding someone you click with that makes a lot of money. The rich are in the very small minority

Sachiii

how was it traveling solo? i've been thinking of traveling by myself but i don't know if i will like it.

masonlawn

ooooooooooo YESSIR… I been waiting on more Tea w Dee 😂 i been tryna find something entertaining to watch on my off time after writing those long ass essay assignments 😭 i really like what you said in the beginning about it being lonely at the top, reminded me of what rod wave said “all day my phone ring ever since I been famous, everybody got the perfect scheme to get us some paper tryna make it seem it’s best for me & it ain’t no favor, if it wasn’t for favors they’ll never call you”. It really be lonely at the top, good thing I like my alone time so when I’m at the top I won’t be complaining about being lonely 😅 Yeah anyways Regina crazy… good thing you fell out w her. Ngl, you need friends that make more money than you 😂 that’s how u know there’s no jealousy involved.

Mazin

I hope stuff like this doesn’t deter you from wanting to even be open to making new friends and stuff Dee, it really sucks.

Ben Turner

I also think it’s because we are told to never forget the people that were around you during your come up but again like you said that soooo much to ask of a person and it’s unrealistic because people are going to grow apart with massive changes in lifestyles if the person isn’t evolving with you!!! I’m a new sub (to the Patreon I’ve been watching you on YT for years) but in loving the content and sorry you’re going through all this drama on trips that are supposed to be fun 🫶🏻

Frankie

Love for that, i feel most of your friends you fell out with, just shows their true colours.

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Yeah I'm not about to let a few toxic friends make me travel solo forever lmao I've had way more amazing trips with good friends, so wouldn't make sense to let anyone ruin that for me. But thanks, I try to be understanding and have patience with people close to me

Dee Shanell

Exactly! You never know what connections someone may have or what knowledge they have to share, so burning that bridge due to your own insecurities is wild smh

Dee Shanell

If i was falling out with a lot of my friend on vacation. I would just go solo or bring my relatives with me lol. Love that you tried to be nice and understanding. Shows how real you are.

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That was the most ridiculous thing ever lol even though I invited you, it didn't count because I didn't mention the airport to fly into? Girl bye

Dee Shanell

That's interesting, never thought about it this way but I can definitely see how this issue can be more prevalent in black friendships since a lot of us grew up struggling financially. I've never had a non-black friend so I have nothing to compare it to unfortunately lol I usually am in black environments so I've just naturally only made black friends, but I need to go out of my way to make friends of all races. Not even just because of this but to also be more well-rounded and open minded, it would just make sense to expose myself to other cultures

Dee Shanell

Keep mowing the lawn Dee! I've never understood acting spiteful and nasty over someone else's success. Whether you (Dee) became a well-known youtuber and achieved your success or not has no bearing on how these ex-friends' lives go which clearly doesn't click for them. It pays to be humble and kind because maybe those successful friends could put them on to also reach new heights but they'll never know because they have a nasty spirit.

Brandon Frazier

the way i let out a big “BITCH” in my dee voice when she said that you didnt tell her what airport to fly into 😭 thats how you know bitches dont be well travelled bc you can only fly into accra ugh i hate a hating ass hoe like girlll move from by me

Naeem Hartley

I will say, hottake, I find that black people from all cultures unfortunately have a tendency to get more weird about money in this way than others, and I think it’s about the fact that it’s often very ingrained in black cultures to attribute personal worth to financial success. You hear it all the time in how we diss each other by calling each other broke (myself included) and how money is spoken about within black cultures. I think it’s a result of a long history of economic inequality and oppression but I find it very sad to see how it has woven itself into the fabrics of our cultures and materializes in even interpersonal relationships today. Random tangent but I thought of this when watching the preamble of this video.

Ryan Haile

Love the message at the beginning!

Brycen Mclaurin

Hate that you keep going through it but we love seeing Dee in BOSS MODE. We LOVE when Dee drags people. Know we all love you! If you ever need travel buddies or new friends, know that all your Patrons like me will never switch up on you.

ZZBEN


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