wineaboutit / [#50] Patreon Bonus

I didn't notice that tbh. I think their dynamic this episode was great

Jaspuhh.

2024-03-19 14:51:08 +0000 UTC

My mom died, too. I’m in my early twenties now and it hurts so much that I can’t talk to her. I don’t think it ever gets less painful - it’s been 10 years and I still cry like a child about it. Also I don’t think it’s irrational to be angry by triggers at all. You had one of the most unfair things happen to you in life. Sending love ♥️♥️♥️

octoberdancing

2024-02-22 16:46:09 +0000 UTC

I love this podcast so much, my dad died 5 months ago and it's been so nice to hear about grief and mental health.

Sunshine

2024-02-18 18:57:56 +0000 UTC

What’s with the r’s I don’t hear it

Njoy

2024-01-13 16:35:33 +0000 UTC

hearing Maya & QT talk bout emdr therapy was very helpful & reassuring because I never know how to explain it to people & makes me feel less alone!

Jazmin Lopez

2024-01-04 16:46:06 +0000 UTC

Hello I am the one Mormon( raised Mormon unsure about it now) that listens to this podcast!

AbaftUser

2023-12-22 05:56:05 +0000 UTC

26:20 there was like a perfectly sycned "yeah" between you two lol

tetrischemist

2023-12-18 01:02:13 +0000 UTC

“i know i should talk less shit, but i like it” this my fav quote ever now

Carmen Ramirez

2023-12-16 14:29:17 +0000 UTC

That turkey was beautiful.

sometimethyme

2023-12-09 00:53:22 +0000 UTC

I need that turkey time table qt

StormLaney

2023-12-07 21:11:10 +0000 UTC

this made me question if we are all in a cult. we are in the maya and QT cult 😭

lubriKate

2023-12-06 20:35:56 +0000 UTC

The smell memories maya mentioned are so real. I have lotions I can’t ever use anymore because of it

Cameron

2023-12-06 18:18:43 +0000 UTC

QT can you share the turkey masterplan on twitter please i would like to know the secret of cooking turkey

Haihan Lin

2023-12-05 21:34:47 +0000 UTC

qt i also keep thinking "tw" is twtlonger in posts i am so glad to not be alone in thinking this

Matty B

2023-12-05 20:39:17 +0000 UTC

Ranking cults would be hilarious

Aidan C

2023-12-05 14:43:25 +0000 UTC

@qt please post the absurdly long turkey instructions somewhere

GabbysANinja

2023-12-04 18:35:18 +0000 UTC

It's important to keep sharing ideas between different groups of people, otherwise they can turn into echo chambers and breed extremism. And talking to people with opposite views is really good for practicing your communication skills. Talking to someone with the same values and opinions as you is too easy :P

Experimental Cyborg

2023-12-04 00:23:22 +0000 UTC

As time goes on and i talk to more diverse groups of people, i increasingly worry that the movie "don't look up" will end up being a documentary. Except in many ways climate change is worse than the killer asteroid that represents it.

Experimental Cyborg

2023-12-04 00:15:06 +0000 UTC

lmao hearing QT talk about her psycho conservative family makes me so glad I don't interact with anyone like that in my family. I don't give a fuck how much DNA we share, you mean nothing to me if you're gonna be an insane piece of shit.

Edwin Solis

2023-12-03 06:57:24 +0000 UTC

Def time to start putting the garbage cans in the garage or backyard when you’re gone QT 🥲

Kayloox

2023-12-02 23:35:39 +0000 UTC

I’m starting EMDR soon too. Kinda scared ngl

Mary

2023-12-02 06:47:47 +0000 UTC

I’m from Washington, lived here my whole life and I do not talk like QT with my Rs. My dad who is from here talks like that though!

Happyotter

2023-12-02 02:13:57 +0000 UTC

funny that Qt thought she pronounced her R’s weird because she used to have acid reflux

Mitch Mitcherson

2023-12-02 01:57:24 +0000 UTC

dude I know what you mean, my grandma says "god willing" at the end of every sentence. I'll say goodnight see you in the morning and she'll say "god willing"

Angel Macias

2023-12-02 01:20:24 +0000 UTC

My environmental science teacher was from eastern WA and she spoke like Qt. Her accent was more intense though, she pronounced Washington as Worsh-ington lmao

Angel Macias

2023-12-02 01:04:44 +0000 UTC

My housemate had an old housemate who's family was part of the gwen shamblin cult and it's a crazy story. But it's so wild because the cult is based in America, but this family lives in Australia. Goes to show how the internet also helps cults have a much further reach.

Isobel Nixon

2023-12-01 22:43:06 +0000 UTC

i pushed off watching elemental because of just hearing it was bad, but damn.. it was pretty good

spella!

2023-12-01 22:02:07 +0000 UTC

I secretly feel the same way. But then I remember that they're just going to blame it on the gays

Jenny Lyons

2023-12-01 20:10:50 +0000 UTC

Qt's turkey table would be 10/10 patreon content. I bet people would join just for that

Jenny Lyons

2023-12-01 20:07:45 +0000 UTC

When I hear stories about people insisting that climate change is made up I secretly hope they get hit by an extreme weather event someday and the society doesn’t help them because It’s all made up anyway in their world. Just don’t argue it’s a waste of time most of the time. And if that makes me a bad person so be it.

soloPFL

2023-12-01 08:11:06 +0000 UTC

Your nieces might like Imagine Dragons bc they used to be Mormon. My family in Utah claim them in a weird way even though they’ve left the church and renounced it (I think)

Parker

2023-11-30 23:07:45 +0000 UTC

pls drop the turkey recipe!!

Camryn Simms

2023-11-30 22:12:12 +0000 UTC

Wtf? That’s wild! I’ve been there when my driver pulls up and never seen then get out but maybe every now and then they do.

Jose Marin

2023-11-30 19:47:55 +0000 UTC

The service that picks up my garbage, recycling, etc. (Waste Management) records the actual dumping of the can into the truck lol I once accidently put something in the recycle that should have been put in the garbage and they sent me a letter with a picture attached and when I logged into my account, there was also a video!

Hannah

2023-11-30 19:44:03 +0000 UTC

Put a note on the the trash can ask to dump the recycling

S Quayle

2023-11-30 18:51:13 +0000 UTC

Hi QT and Maya! Not a Mormon but my family practices Hinduism. I’ve unfortunately laid both of my grandmothers to rest and YES there is a very similar concept to the veil situation with your mother. The oldest child was responsible for doing a lot of the ritualistic things with their bodies despite the spouses being alive. It was pretty traumatizing to witness so probably much more traumatizing to be the oldest child. And also, TW!!!!!!! for death because this is rough, in our culture (and maybe more specifically our country!! because we were in a different country for their funerals) cremation is a big deal and we, as a family, put their bodies (in a coffin) on the pyre and lit the fire, watched the pyre catch fire and blaze, and went back the next morning and watched their bones get crushed and added to the ashes. I’ll never forget it. It’s fucking traumatizing.

emmy ★彡

2023-11-30 17:48:08 +0000 UTC

19:36 I feel that HEAVY especially around Christmas time. What also triggers me is when people say ITS GODS PLAN like SHUT UP

Kevin Jimenez

2023-11-30 14:18:46 +0000 UTC

I like to call my shit talking “telling the truth” because if you told me something or im retelling a story… then I’m just telling the truth

Maria Touw

2023-11-30 13:36:44 +0000 UTC

forsen

Klav

2023-11-30 12:15:16 +0000 UTC

I just happened to watch that Twin Flames doc a week or two ago and it blew my mind!!! It was fascinating and insane, highly recommend.

CrungoCass

2023-11-30 09:02:29 +0000 UTC

I've got a manager who I've learned is a shit-talker. I also learned this manager has adhd. So, I've tried to be forgiving that maybe they can't help it and for some reason aren't able to process that talking shit about some co-workers to other co-workers creates an absolutely horrible environment. I'm learning to try and be understanding that shit-talking is probably as QT said a "stream of consciousness."

Ridorana12

2023-11-30 08:04:50 +0000 UTC

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

FullPlaid

2023-11-30 07:34:38 +0000 UTC

i'm the same with drama lol i always want to discuss it for hours even though the next day/week i won't care anymore

izzi

2023-11-30 07:15:23 +0000 UTC

Many groups hold the dressing the dead differently, but for those who lower the veil it is determined ahead of time by the family who the ones to do it will be. Most often it is a spouse, but I guess your family decided the children should do it

Cole Landis

2023-11-30 07:01:16 +0000 UTC

but then doesn’t the water from washing dishes get treated and reused? or at least evaporated into the atmosphere

catherine rose

2023-11-30 06:56:31 +0000 UTC

Anyone else notice the perfectly synched "yeah" at 26:20

Zay

2023-11-30 06:09:37 +0000 UTC

love thy neighbor

parappathenot

2023-11-30 05:52:13 +0000 UTC

Producer please put the QT turkey recipe on Patreon thxx

Alex Blythe

2023-11-30 05:22:29 +0000 UTC

I too had the gender/pronoun conversation with family during thanksgiving, it alwasy goes down to "well I don't think it should be taught to kids!"

ntGonzo

2023-11-30 05:01:50 +0000 UTC

Not super pro tip but you can call your trash company and let them know when that happens and they'll pick it up with the trash truck instead of the recycling truck. Had the previous owners fill all my recycling and yard waste bins with trash when I bought my house and the company was chill about it

Chase

2023-11-30 04:00:58 +0000 UTC

Hey QT! I’m not ex-mormon but my husband is. I talked to him and did some research about the veiling you mentioned. According to what I found, until 2019 church doctrine stated that an endowed woman’s face had to be veiled by a person ordained by the bishop. Luckily this has since changed and the veiling is now optional, though some families still practice it as tradition. According to ex-mormons i’ve talked to the veil is supposed to indicate that the deceased is ready to enter the presence of god (his presence is also, coincidentally, too holy and strong for women which is why only women wear the veils).

Nikola Wright

2023-11-30 03:39:26 +0000 UTC

"QT SAID SHE WOULDN'T TELL ANYONE THAT, WHAT!?" I can hear her now :P

FrostWolf

2023-11-30 03:37:45 +0000 UTC

I relate heavy to not wanting to see your family member in an open casket; I didn't go to my brother's open casket and I even (regretfully) couldn't bring myself to be around him often when he was on hospice because he looked so much more different than the brother I knew.

AlliSinned

2023-11-30 02:50:18 +0000 UTC

qt looks like legolas ( im high tho so idk )

theholyspirit

2023-11-30 02:29:56 +0000 UTC

Hey QT, one of your LDS viewers here. I think some of the funeral stuff may be older traditions that your family decided to do. I'm sorry you've had so many bad experiences with church members that seem to lack empathy and maybe aren't understanding enough. I am a huge fan of your and I love all you do. I love watching you with Maya because I feel I've learned to understand Trauma more and it's helped me be more understanding with my wife. Thank you for all you do!

Zach Naylor

2023-11-30 02:24:36 +0000 UTC

it cracks me up knowing QT uses the "Love thy neighbor line" cause it really does work on the religion obsessed people LOL

Erika

2023-11-30 01:38:51 +0000 UTC

"oop- that was an inside thought" is so good! I wanna use that!

Shai

2023-11-30 01:31:36 +0000 UTC

QT I appreciate you not keeping quiet about lgbt+ issues with your siblings and trying to present it in a way they can rationalize/understand it. I think your approach is the right way to do it! I'm thankful I don't have anyone in my life I would need it for but that's the approach I'll use if I ever do need to. Also great Turkey Maya.

Robert Craig

2023-11-30 01:31:21 +0000 UTC

In for a cult tier list i think its funny. I promise i dont join one.

ForstHeld

2023-11-30 00:50:35 +0000 UTC

I’m really sad that this is on Patreon, because no one can clip it and send it to fanfan. Because, that reaction is a need I really didn’t know I needed until now….. but it is very real.

Peter Kviz

2023-11-30 00:38:09 +0000 UTC

man QT is so patient and kind to try and coach people into reconsidering their bigotry/close-mindedness. can't imagine having that much kindness/care/patience even for my own family, its a bit inspiring for me to try harder w/ ppl.

def

2023-11-30 00:23:09 +0000 UTC

Conspiracy theory: They have X-Rays and can see inside your can!

77katz77

2023-11-29 23:38:25 +0000 UTC

I can relate to so much of what QT shares about therapy and trauma. The details are different, of course, but for me personally, it is a very healthy conversation to listen to, and very much appreciated.

ApplesOranges23

2023-11-29 23:08:48 +0000 UTC

This is an inside thought

Haley Welch

2023-11-29 22:52:26 +0000 UTC

I heard this phrase once and now I whip it out anytime conversations like the global warming one happen with family: "Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but not their own facts."

VancityRen

2023-11-29 22:10:35 +0000 UTC

growing up just means learning how to use your older relatives' beliefs against them in order to make them better, more empathetic people lmao

Julie Tran

2023-11-29 21:59:00 +0000 UTC

maybe specifically Utah mormons. that's who I grew up around

Treyden Talbot

2023-11-29 21:58:12 +0000 UTC

Okay glad that imagine dragons being like every kids favorite band is not just my imagination. It’s a very unfortunate choice.

PoshRat

2023-11-29 21:57:49 +0000 UTC

oh my god, at my thanksgiving they were talking about movies doing bad because of "they/thems" and forced lesbians relationships too...

Murkus

2023-11-29 21:57:33 +0000 UTC

attended to many Mormon funerals and I've never seen anybody do anything like what qt described. also the way mormons are anti-grief is so sad. it feels like you're not allowed to be sad, you're only allowed to be hopeful about seeing them again

Treyden Talbot

2023-11-29 21:56:05 +0000 UTC

im telling yall she isnt real i refuse to believe someone that crazy exist

Armando Peralta-Camilo

2023-11-29 21:43:39 +0000 UTC

but fr those conversations with family are some of the toughest and most uncomfortable but I also think they’re crucial

cierra

2023-11-29 21:36:50 +0000 UTC

the global warming conversation you had with your family was too relatable. I can’t even mention the mf weather in front of my family without them turning it into a “own libs” moment lmaooo

cierra

2023-11-29 21:35:45 +0000 UTC

This is gold

Dieter Roebert

2023-11-29 21:35:41 +0000 UTC

Glad this was the Patreon episode! We def got a better episode woohoo! I was a little confused which house qt was talking about but I’m assuming the trash fiasco was in Washington and messed up. Our garbage man left us a note once about recycling but no clue how they knew it was us because they use the claw to pick it up One chip challenge is exponentially worse than the jelly bean! I did it once on an empty stomach and almost drove to the ER thinking I had a hole in my stomach Not sure why elemental got a bad showing, it turned out to be a cute movie. There is a non binary character and the interracial relationship I’m sure freaked some folks out