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Journal #8

Phew, boy. Came to a lot of realizations the past week. Trying very hard to give it my all and fight for my worth and happiness.

The comparisons (that others and myself make) are leading my brain to want to self-destruct. I’m trying to find unique ability or character in me and I’m just not liking what I see.

In comparison to the people in my life I’m nothing special and I don’t understand why I even have a boyfriend or friends? Realizing I’m not athletic anymore, I’m not good at video games, I’m not the light in people’s lives because my depression is so strong that I suck the energy out of people, I almost had an asthma attack after running a mile today........ over 10 minutes to complete it. I’ve been hating my voice. My brain is everywhere and I can barely focus to read a page of a book. I don’t feel pretty; I don’t feel worth it. I don’t feel fun or good or... anything. Comparing myself to Tyler I feel like garbage and I want to run away. Genuinely.

You know that quote “comparison is the death of joy.” Well, yes, I can attest.

Here’s to making it through another day, trying to put the anxiety and self loathing into action and hopefully tomorrow I’ll feel better :) Just needed to get this off my chest.

Love you guys ❤️

Comments

I think Stephen Fry said it best: "If you know someone who is depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do."

Jake

❤❤❤

MrAtalon

Remember there is no such thing as universal happiness, just find you and your center. You are allowed to have bad days. If you want to run again, start slow and build up. This is a toll we have to pay with age. One last thing, you are magic. In the past year, your voice, your laugh have gotten me through the night to make it to the next day, and I am a complete stranger. Those around you must feel it too.

I really love this quote from Jordan Peterson: "Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today." Wishing you all the best! Xx

Mitch Connor

You know, just the relaxation alone that you provide to all of us and for no price at all to everybody on YouTube is enough to value you far more than anyone who doesn’t. The perspective that we gain by comparing ourselves to each other is only counteracted by our own contexts for the comparison. What I mean by that is if we were to compare you to the people who you’re using as your rubric, we would compare you favorably. The context that we are using for our comparison is from what we get to see of you. I would argue that it’s even more unbelievable that you are able to pull yourself up and continue to do all of this in the face such extreme adversity. Just remember that for every time you feel poorly about yourself, there are hundreds if not thousands more who feel equally as enamored, and is grateful for you being who you are.

Chase Frankel

At the end of the day, I’m writing these for me. While it absolutely helps and encourages me, I’m sorry peoples words are not enough to change my past, my brain chemistry, my depression, etc. I’m working very hard to get better, so I apologize you feel helpless. Not my intention. Just trying my best.

FrivolousFox ASMR

That's just depression messing with your thoughts, none of those things you're thinking are true, and you have over a MILLION subscribers that would agree with me. You're beautiful, you're worth it, you're fun and we love you. ❤️

Mike

I believe in you, unconditionally and without a single doubt in my heart. I'm going to keep believing in you, and one of these days, somehow, I hope you can catch a glimpse of the incredible goodness I see in you. And once you see it, it's just a matter of time until you drag it back into the light and know for yourself that it's true. I won't give up on you, and I'll do everything in my power to help you not give up on you.

Jess W

Love, you are barking mad. You are one in a billion. I don't think anyone cares if you're actually good at games? It's the energy and fun you bring to it, which you DO. I don't understand how you manage it at all tbh with what you're going through inside. Your empathy, your courage to soak up everyone else's problems and feel them with them, is incredible. There's so much warmth to your ASMR, it feels like being cared for by a kind friend. Some artists are so mechanical. That said, you don't have to be the best in the world. Just be yourself and that's enough, that's OK. I want to make copies of your positive affirmation videos for you because they say EXACTLY what you need to hear.

Alexis Lee

I dont know what to do but know this i will try my Best to Convince you that you are wonderful even if you will hate me for it !!

Red Velvet Kitty

Or Tyler or anyone for that matter.

Red Velvet Kitty

Does it even matter what we say or how much we Show our love for you ? You dont seem to belive us anyway 😕

Red Velvet Kitty

❤❤❤

Dima Horn

you think those things about yourself because you judge yourself harshly, but I know that your soul is unique and precious and we love you for being who you are. And you don't have to be the best in sports or games or whatever, we don't need you to be "the best", we just need you to be yourself ... (and you are the best without a doubt!)

Juan Ruiz

Depression overshadows the nice things and spotlights the bad things. It robs you of the successes and makes you eternally replay the failures. It's cruel. Just try to maintain some awareness of the ways in which depression is a lie. Ask anyone here and they'd be like, "She has a beautiful voice. She's the light of many people's lives. She's very pretty. She's one of the best in the whole world when it comes to at least one thing - ASMR." Those things would stand out to them. You probably know lots of horrible little secrets about yourself, and I'm not saying those aren't real. I'm just saying, so are the good qualities that other people see - Tyler and Randy and Slight as well as us. Nobody watches your videos or comes to your streams out of charity. Every single one of us likes you.

Charlie Jenkins

I wish you could see what we all see. I wish you could love yourself the way we love you. Until that day, we’ll keep seeing you for the incredible human being you are. We’ll keep admiring you for the strength you possess, the joy you bring to our lives, the life you breathe into all of us. You have made all of our lives better just by being you. We accept you for everything you are and we will continue loving you no matter what. Sending all the love and positive energy I can spare. Love you, Lauren❤️

Phillip Coe

Hey Frivvi, reading this struck a chord with me. I’ve been feeling this way as well, especially in the last few years when everyone around me is successful and really good at at least one thing - I on the other hand, am still searching for my purpose in life. I’m not even good at the things I like to do, haha. But I feel at least a sort of relief that I’m not the only one that feels this way. And although there are a lot of things about myself that I’d like to change, I’m slowly learning to accept it and make peace. After all, people around us can tell us how much they love us and how special we are, but if we don’t believe it ourselves it means nothing. Thank you for sharing this with us, and I hope that you feel better soon <3

We are always here for you if you ever need to vent. Keep working hard and hopefully each new day will be a little bit better than the previous. Sending hugs; you deserve to be loved and supported ❤️❤️❤️

unleashluis22

You may not be able to see your worth right now, but we do.

Tig

(Do we need to run your doubts over with another Level 5 Hype Train?)

Lambent Regret

Woo for surviving! <3 <3 <3

Tony XM

Proud of you for putting another foot in front the last, for trying to channel things. The next step is always the toughest. You know we all support you but will also argue every single one of those points you list. The struggles you have been through (and some still face) honestly make you feel more relatable for those of us who are doing the same thing. We're at our individually dysfunctional communal best when we all take care of each other, accepting the incoming support of our weaknesses and pushing each other to accept our supporting them through our strengths. You're right about that quote in that context. But... what can you learn from people you think well of? Remember what you've told us about people presenting their best selves, that we don't see their own struggles. You make a point to share some of yours with us, which takes real courage, and makes us feel better about our own. Much love. Charisma and Wisdom are your primary stats. There's only one Frivvi and we're grateful for you.

Lambent Regret

I always appreciate you being so open in these. I feel the same way pretty often and it really helps knowing I'm not alone in it. I'm wishing you all the best always. You have so many people that genuinely love you for who you are, myself included. Stay strong!

Love you Friv! If you need a pick me up I emailed your business email. ❤️

Jessica

Feeling's mutual Friv. If you need to vent, that's why a lot of us are here. We got this.

Stephen Lincoln

Self image is hard. You're not who you could be, sure, but everyone isn't in some way. You're more than you were before, and that's always something to celebrate.

Don

There are a lot of people who love you just the way you are.

Blain Eno

It's hard to see the positivity you spread to everyone that watches your videos. That shit is global, and you're literally making the world a happier place. You don't directly see it, but just know it's there. You make the world a better place, one view at a time. That's why we love you.

Don

I love you too, I believe in you <3

Asda of York

Glad you have a place to vent at least. Sometimes that’s all you need.


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