Mistake to avoid: Tips For Dating Apps

Mistake to avoid: Get to know her in person, not online

There's such a thing as spending too much time getting to know women on a dating website. The point of a dating website isn't getting to know her through endless e-conversation. After all, they're called "dating sites" for a reason. What you want to do is get her to go on a date with you. So rather than spending lots of time chit chatting about what was on television last night, spend your time trying to move her toward saying yes to going on a date with you.

Mistake to avoid: Poor Grammar

It might not seem like a big deal, but it is. You should proofread your profile. Look for simple grammar and spelling mistakes. A lot of women won't respond to anything you have to say if you say it with poor grammar. Just spending a few minutes here can make a big difference in terms of both the number and the quality of women you have responding – and contacting you in the first place.

Bad Profile Pictures

Women aren't quite the visual creatures that men are. That said, you need to have good pictures on your profile. You don't have to be the best-

looking guy on a website or app to get the best-looking girl to go on a date with you. In fact, it's not so much what you look like physically in your photo as much as what kind of guy you look like.

You want to look like a fun-loving, outgoing type of guy she's going to want to spend time with. Your conversations should also be moving toward this. But just like your attraction to her starts with a photo, so does her attraction to you. Be the one that's going to get her interested in who you are, wanting to know more and wanting to spend time with you.

Not Revealing Enough about Yourself

There are two parallel mistakes you can make when crafting your online profile. The first is being overly secretive about yourself, or not elaborating enough about who you are.

Think about it: On the one hand, if you don’t reveal anything about yourself, you can look sketchy or even fake. However, if you reveal a little bit, but not very much – or not any of the more interesting parts of your life, anyway – she’s not going to have any reason to respond. No matter how awesome the pictures of you look, women are going to want to know what sets you apart from other guys before they respond to your message.

Revealing Too Much About Yourself

And then there’s the parallel mistake – the other side of the coin. Sometimes guys reveal too much about themselves. They overshare. In particular, they come off as bitter, talk too much about exes or have a long list of things women must have or must not have.

It’s OK to have standards, but it's good to keep things positive on a dating website. Remember that you want to put your best foot forward on dating profiles. Don't muddy the waters with negativity or bitterness.

Building a profile means presenting the best part of yourself that you can. Here are a few things you can try:

Put up no more than three pictures.

One picture with an animal has been statistically proven to work well for apps and online dating sites.

Don’t put up pictures where you’re with exes or other women you're sleeping with.

Put up one picture that show you’re participating in something like travel, a hobby, or a vacation.

Use proper grammar and punctuation.

Looks are important for online dating – choose photos where you're well-groomed or well-dressed if possible.

If there's a text portion of your profile, write something that will make it easy and fun for them to contact you.

"Just looking for a Netflix password."

"Trying to find someone with a cool dog/cat I can hang out with."

"Looking for the missing half of my broken amulet."