Boxcast episode 2
Added 2023-08-07 01:57:52 +0000 UTCtoday's topic : different culture and relationship
interesting topic!
i do talk about this a lot with you guys
but it was interesting to hear jinny's thought and also her community's thought
i think it does take a lot of effort to date korean woman lol
it's not easy definitely
what's your relationship culture in your country and how is it different with Korea?
also if you have a chance, would you date Asian woman? lol
Comments
I would call financial difference as not coming from the same social status, as people from a certain social status we usually make friends/go to places with others from that same or kind of similar status and usually having intimate partners and potential wife/husband from that circle (not sure if it could count as a western idea of financial difference or my own). I would not say that it's extremely important but it still have some importance even today, that kind of financial difference looks to my eyes even more important (or some could say exacerbate) in korean society (and probably in other asian societies) Parents here don't really say anything about us finding someone who has more money or anything but it's implicit that they would prefer for their children to meet someone that make good money to have a decent life (who wouldn't ?), on the finding someone you can learn from it's interesting because I'm interested by many things and want to meet someone that share that curiosity too, a very good relationship chemistry. That's also what my sister said to me, she was trying to find someone, this special person that he's curious and like to talk about those stuff with her, with also the same status level than her (and she actually found him and married him last year, they got their honeymoon in south korea btw). I don't really make a connection between the ability to learn from someone with their potential income level. Making a decent amount of money is good but if that's just what that other person can provide well that's not enough, there's a need for something else beyond just the job/income, this little plus to make it like yeah I want to jump to the marriage life with him/her. I know the 100 day mark is something important in buddhism and wonder if there is some kind of historical connection to that in those korean celebration things for couples (I know there is the 100 days celebration for kids right?) (not sure if I have answered at least partially the question or completely missed it)
Olympie
2023-08-14 19:50:43 +0000 UTCSomething which i don't know is a trend or some kind of new dating tactic because I can only go by own experience. I usually don't talk about personal stuff. Some girl I want to say i was seeing. But she would always say we're not officially going out. Well the convos we had on this subject got complicated and to me because we were basically sleeping together every night & going out doing stuff. To me it rated calling us being together. There was an imbalance being in the military. She had so many choices and she was about one of the prettiest in our company. So I think with that she leveraged it to get away with alot of things. Beyond that, years down the road I think theres like this hesitancy to make things official. So not knowing when things have changed from friendship to romantic relatonship can get disheartening. I wouldn't want to carry on thinking a girl thought we were talking and pursue someone else. The way I see it the more girls I talk to the better chances I have find someone. That can sound bad but I'm not a slut. I say this to say I'm not sure whether its me that seeks these type of relationship or I somehow attract this. Or it could be its how it is now and I'm out of the loop. For insstance every guy sending dick pics surpised me and it seems that how dating culture is nowadays even if girls say they don't like it. (this does not have anything to do with any recent relationships this was like over ten years ago(about the time in military))
H2O
2023-08-14 05:19:59 +0000 UTCIt mostly pressure to marry. While still studying in schools there was higher expectations like they have to have a clean background no bad reputation good health & education and get along well with family. But now its just "find someone make babies"
H2O
2023-08-14 04:48:04 +0000 UTCi also didnt' know arrange marriage is also thing in wetsern culture. i thought it was only asian thing lol
툥이 tyongeee
2023-08-14 01:56:16 +0000 UTCthank you for the idea!! i wanna know what is the idea of "financial difference" in western culture? for example in korea, parents always say 1. find a man who are little bit more rich and better than you, so you can learn from him so even tho someone has job and make money i guess, but if it doesn't meet my standard or better than my standard, i wouldn't consider marrying him, although he has his own job also thats why Korea has this application where you insert your info, yoru partners info, and date of starting to date, and then it will calculate all the 100 days and stuff, and will let you know lol
툥이 tyongeee
2023-08-14 01:54:50 +0000 UTCoooh good topic to talk about "what happen if you dont do certain things to korean woman lol"
툥이 tyongeee
2023-08-14 01:51:33 +0000 UTCGoing to add while I just remembered that relationship that were arranged by friends or family didn't work. Somehow something about them makes me want to wander. Theres a feeling like was I limited by other people's decisions and sort of makes me want to rebel. Now I'm in more of a I don't care mood but I'm more comfortable not being tied to someone. I had thought I had gotten rid feelings of jealousy but last year 🤣proved me wrong. Women are crazy when they want to be.
H2O
2023-08-09 00:36:27 +0000 UTCWell from experience I can say that I have always been more interested/attracted by people with a different culture than mine (french-corsican-mediterranean), it is definitively more work to overcome those differences and communication is even more important to avoid any misunderstanding, and yes the physical appearance of someone is important, how you interact with each over at first is by your look, but it's of course not everything. A little bit of jealousy is normal in a relationship, if my girlfriend was meeting one on one with a male friend of hers, I would not be against it but still feel a little bit jealous (but it depends a lot on the context of this meeting obviously). Asian parents getting involved with their kids relationship would be something I would struggle with since I'm like my parents don't really have a say about mine because that's my life not theirs (big cultural difference there), that use to be something parents would do here long long time ago but not really anymore especially in the generations born from the 60's like my parents. I sucks at remembering birthdays and stuff so I can imagine the result would be... not great if I was in a relationship with an asian girl lol, but I'm not against the idea if I meet someone I'm attracted to, what a challenge it would be 😂. The financial stability is understandable, I don't think I would go with someone unstable/with debts, what's the point of a relationship if you're always gonna struggle with money and be miserable ? Better stay single then, also who would like a downgrade of their quality of life.
Olympie
2023-08-08 11:54:48 +0000 UTCill wake up might delete
H2O
2023-08-08 08:24:37 +0000 UTCIt seems like when dating in Korea you have be like hyper aware of etiquette. But how bad could it be? What potentially could the girlfriend do if she gets mad. Would they be able to discuss it first. Kind of confused about the 100 days but I’ll watch again. OOF! 😲 strict parents on marriage. Good info talk around 45 min Its important that each others family approves. Its just avoids all kinds of bad situations in the two families interacting in the future. Business, religion, and some other aspects that deal with making agreements so things go smoooth…. yeah like when you choose someone you are also choosing their family too like it comes with the package and everyone has to read the fine print or they can get stuck with something bad or bad deal. (that sounded bad when reading it but I’m too sleepy now to reword it) Had a relative marry someone like in private without letting the rest of the family meet them. They felt we would not approve. Years later they ended up in fanancial trouble needed help. Well then after some years they had even more struggles with money. It didn’t end well and we are still dealing with it, and of course their family and ours will continue to be on terms no matter how many times we sort of tried to get together to make peace. A marriage is just too much trouble. Thats my feeling towards it. Bottom line meet someone find if you can get along at least and make sure that its not just for love or for not wanting to be alone. There has to be progress in both lives. The marriage should be beneficial to both not hinderance to the success that both would want. cute is better than sexy, oh god there was always insecurity that every dude was trying to talk to her If I had chance yes. To date an asian woman. Would it work out slim chance. Korean are more conservative than mines. relationship culture where I live idk I think asian women are beautiful but so are women from other countries. Hope I don't sound like I'd some kind of passport bro. Good-luck aunty
H2O
2023-08-08 08:18:28 +0000 UTC
