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My Dress-Up Darling S2 Episode 3

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A lot of Japanese games include info on character birthdays (and other info like blood type). It’s a cultural thing.

Lunar

I think the reason humans instinctively shun people that stand out is because they're a prime example of how you get killed... Let me elaborate. Throughout human history, standing out and not being understood usually meant being exiled, imprisoned, or outright killed. Not in a pleasant way, either. Think witch hunts, but it could also happen simply because people didn't like you. The modern world is still very new, especially compared to the life people used to lead, and the society they lived in. One where you needed other people to survive, so being understood and trusted was how you stayed alive. Humans have lived dependently on social bonds for essentially our entire evolutionary history. A lot of things can be explained when you think of it from this perspective. Like, "why do I keep doing this when I know it's ridiculous?" Well, probably because for a very long time it wasn't ridiculous.

Iriza

Hopefully I'm not echoing someone else (opting to not read comments on this one) but for wigs, Japanese heat-resistant synthetic fiber with a bit of powder and the adjustable netting inside is SIGNIFICANTLY better than American standard wigs which do often look awful unless you pay obscene mula. I could buy a decent JP cosplay wig that's raw (uncut) for 15 bucks and cut it myself or get it styled at a cosmetology school or decent salon and it would still be cheaper and even look better than many of the expensive American ones. This is before Trump's tariffs tho.. so I dunno about now 😅 but it also depends how it's sewn, styled, cut ect. Where you seem to have a square-ish face, you probably need to style wigs differently than you think you need to (I also have a rounder, almost square face and so I did my Shugo Chara wigs bangs more forward on my face just under my cheekbones so the rest gave my face a oval shape to it and taped or glue it down for photos, which isn't what I would instinctively do, but it's what my JP friend who does vkei and has a big face told me to do lol. Sad I get the best fashion advice of my life from a man. He taught me makeup too cuz I did not have a single clue on that. Also not to say men can't be better at fashion and makeup, but rather it's sad I don't have a single feminine figure to help me navigate feminine things so I rely on the advice of a man who legit wings it. I'd show you his artistry if he'd allow me to, but you can look up visual kei and see how complex some hair and makeup get for that)

Chels

But I guess demanding communication compared to any other hobby is just more cynicism from my part regardless

Loro Lukic

I feel like cross dressing should be something that's communicated, idk. I don't think it's in the same sphere as DnD. I used to know a guy when I was in Uni who did it, so it's whatever - my man hard carried our projects rocking heels one day. But I wouldn't really resent one of my female colleagues for having that as a deal breaker in a relationship. Would it be rude/petty to have it as a deal breaker? Maybe. You could also say on the flip side a woman wants to "cross dress" and I'm guessing it'd be less of an issue, just a double standard that shouldn't exist? Of course you'd be nice about it unlike how it was shown - but yeah it's something you just move on if they're not okay with it.

Loro Lukic

Biology degree with an emphasis in Zoology here! To answer Wes' question on the evolutionary biological implications of being weirded out by other people's hobbies. You were pretty much on the nose with your theory. It's because it is something so different or other from what has been known to you and your tribe (family, friends, inner circle etc.) You keep your distance because it is a complete unknown. Think back to cave man days. If you came across something unfamiliar you have 2 choices: Go be curious and investigate and risk a negative or adverse event happening that could or could not lead to yours and your tribes death Or Yell and throw rocks at it in an attempt to scare/chase it away and in doing so protecting/alerting yourself and tribe Most go with the latter option because it has less risk involved and better self preservation. Bring this to modern day where we aren't as violent, for the most part, and you're left with people hurling insults instead of rocks and outcasting/ostricizing and othering people for their differences that they don't immediately understand. A little self reflection and reframing of the situation will go a long way in today's day and age. I hope this was interesting and helped answer your question!

JD


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