My personal bubble
Added 2019-09-16 10:13:50 +0000 UTCI live a good life. No dancing around that fact. I'm luckier than lots of people and probably have more ambition. I have worked tirelessly for my entire adult life to create happiness and meaning. One of the consequences is that I don't spend time with low quality people. It has been a long time since I have truly had to deal with a terrible person, or a terrible person has had any control over my life. I removed those people a long time ago. Those who are left are 10/10 people.
While I'm proud of the life I have created, I do feel like it creates a bit of a bubble for myself. I feel like sometimes the problems men talk about in society or their relationships don't hit me at a personal level, like they would have years ago.
It's something I am always conscious of. If my life too different/unique to be able to relate to the problems of most men? I really hope not. My memory of my past struggles are still fresh in my mind and I work hard to make sure I am being objective in my analysis. I understand that I am privileged in a few ways that may make life easier for me than for some people.
This is one of the reasons I am so glad to be doing private consultations over skype. I've been doing them for a while now and it has been so valuable to hear from other men about the problems they are going through. I feel so much more connected to real struggles of masculinty and relationships since doing these calls. I feel like the impact on my channel's content has been very positive.
If you look back a year ago at the topics I covered, a lot of it was quite esoteric, the sort of thing I found interesting. Now I feel as though my content, while still an accurate reflection of my thoughts and beliefs, is more guided by the problems actually being faced by men.
I still live in my own personal bubble. We all do to some extent. However I am so glad to have enlarged my bubble so I can get direct input from everyday men and their problems.
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I find this is very true of myself as well. I also find it has an interesting impact in political discussions. As most of my friends are highly educated, somewhat well-off, and at least moderately ambitious (or at the very least willing to take risks for happiness), they seem to have a hard time understanding the average voter, as they project themselves onto everyone else. I've noticed most of my female friends think more like guys, and seem to struggle understanding the average female point of view. I've also noticed this with women running for office: they seem to think that every woman is ambitious and wants a high-quality job or to be president, when I imagine most women don't actually desire either and work only for the financial security it brings and because they are told that, like men, their value is tied to what they do (even though it's really not).
Ryan Stallard
2019-09-16 11:24:43 +0000 UTC
