Sluttiness is really just defined as “having extra fun.” If you think it's ugly, maybe this isn't your tribe.

This is the kink scene. Sex positivity is sacred ‘round these parts. We don’t shame people for having 300 notches on their bedposts, and we don’t refer to STI status as “clean” or “unclean”. We don’t put a discount on your value for having an orgy or letting women stick pencils in your penis.

These are the customs of this website. Not everyone follows them, but the locals understand that your kink isn’t my kink and that’s okay. It’s our own little idiom, and it’s arguably the one that keeps the sex-positivity engine rolling the smoothest.

We don’t yuck yums.

This is not the Catholic Church. We don’t get our values from the Old Testament. We’re making a new culture here, and it’s a lot more fun than Sunday morning service.

If you think sex work is a sin, you reject a huge proportion of us. You can become one of us if you like, but it will require you to develop some sex positive traits. What’s sex positivity? Well, I thought you’d never ask.

Oxford calls it “an open, tolerant, or progressive attitude towards sex and sexuality,” but what it really is is a cultural and philosophical movement that’s changing cultural norms around sexuality. If it’s consensual, it’s okay. There is no moral failing in being poly… or slutty… or asexual… or kinky. There’s no moral failing in shagging 10 men in one go, even for money. There is nothing ethically problematic about having an Only Fans account.

Exhibitionism is not disgusting. The human body is a beautiful thing. Sharing it does not diminish your value. There is no morality to be found in nudity. Your convent’s lessons about masturbation and contraception were bunk, and sex is a natural part of being human. Porn isn’t morally reprehensible, just mostly crap if you ask me.

Nobody moralises about Sarah’s preference for garlic snails or Frank’s taste for raw carrots. Food tastes are considered a natural part of the human experience, and nobody’s policing the spices you put on your plate. I like chilli so hot it makes me cry. Nobody thinks I’m worthless because of it.

Sex is just a bodily function like eating, so sluttiness is really just defined as “having extra fun.” Extra fun is excellent, but if you prefer people to have less fun, maybe this isn’t your tribe, and your judgment is best declared to a priest.