I decided to have psychological ownership over this country back in 2001. 9-11 happened, after I watched the airplanes slamming into the towers, & got over the shock, & immediately thought of the Malcolm X quote, “the chickens have come home to roost”. I didn’t think about how emotionally scarring this event was & what it meant to have an attack on American soil. I thought about how America & specifically the George W. Bush administration were going to use it as an excuse to further militarism abroad & totalitarianism at home. These things are all facts, but the emotional vulnerability was lost on me. I felt righteous in my reaction but it didn’t sit right with me. I knew that some things are factually correct, but emotionally wrong. Being married has helped me understand this. That year I turned it around & started to relate emotionally as an American. Doing that has shifted my politics more towards the center, because I’m trying to work with the people in this country. I made lots of changes & got comfortable with the flag. Things have changed, America is different. It’s more open, more diverse. Going back in time is never an option. Love of the country, love of the American people doesn’t mean love of the government, love of the system or even love of America’s History. It doesn’t mean anything backwards, it doesn’t have to.