Thoughts About Ballerina Farm?
Added 2024-08-05 17:47:31 +0000 UTCMy mukbang video is going to take some time and research, but in the meantime I'd love to hear your thoughts on my upcoming video topic: Ballerina Farm. Do you have any perspectives on this topic you feel other creators have failed to address? Personal experiences with the "trad-life" lifestyle? I'd love to hear your input!
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The whole ballerina farm has me really conflicted. On the one hand it seems like this guy took advantage of and continues to take advantage of a woman he stripped of her dreams and aspirations. But on the other hand, a dark and downright nasty part of my brain is like: she’s dumb for ever giving up her dreams and if this is in fact a case of abuse she made her bed she should lie in it. Because she really gave up a spot at Juilliard, a program that only like 12 people a year get accepted, for a some guy. I’m not someone that ever wanted a partner, like it would be nice sure, but it’s not a necessity for me to live a fulfilling life. I guess a simpler way of putting this is: I’m just baffled at the series of decisions someone else made for THEIR life. (Which is just typical internet rage -_-) But the thing that really bothers me a that end of the day is that a person having to give up their dreams is a tale as old as time. It’s not a unique story or scenario, it happens all the time. But the fact that she ‘chose’ to give it up just adds an extra layer of salt to an already gaping wound. Most people can accept situations where they had to set aside their dreams because sometimes it just couldn’t be helped: like a death in the family, sudden illness, financial instability. But it’s hard to accept something when you were the one who ultimately decided to give up on your aspirations and all the effort and years you spent. I hope all the negative possibilities are wrong (although it doesn’t seem like it), and it really was a case of a woman finding peace and love in raising a family, because the alternative is just really really sad.
slcucumber
2024-08-21 17:09:07 +0000 UTCI have lived 56 years on this earth blissfully unaware of Ballerina Farm. You're going to rob me of that bliss, aren't you?
Michael McGrath
2024-08-16 00:04:22 +0000 UTCGenuinely think he snatched her up and killed her ballerina career on purpose, not that she doesn’t have any fault in this- I mean it’s 2024 and women need to be more self aware. But she was so young when they met and he’s rich af so the naivety is understandable. I genuinely think she’s being pressured into not using Meds during birth and into having that many kids. It’s obvious from the gifts he gets her that she’s no more than a baby-maker and a maid to him but he’s her whole world. It’s sad…
Ammatile
2024-08-06 17:22:32 +0000 UTCI personally haven’t heard a lot about ballerina but this is my opinion on trad wife’s in general. I think they are all pick me girls. If they were traditional they wouldn’t have cell phones telling people to respect the patriarchy. As of now women are being stripped of their rights that we have fought for decades now. And for these “pick me girls” advocating to take the right to vote away, to stop give reproductive health is just insulting. I also understand that we all have differences, but it is not right to brainwash a bunch of people into thinking that this is the correct way of living. There is no correct way of living.
Maddie McCrosky
2024-08-06 14:35:34 +0000 UTCThe fact that she rejected him, and then he BOOKED A SEAT NEXT TO HER ON A FLIGHT WHERE SHE COULDN’T GET AWAY while she was on her way back to Juilliard in New York is what gets me extremely creeped out. His father owned the airline, and he “pulled some strings” to get her trapped into a date that she never even wanted to begin with. That was the first move on his part to gain a power over her, in my opinion. You want to make a completely valid choice to not go on a date with me? Well, me and my daddy aren’t gonna let you! Now you have to be nice to me or he could control basically every flight you ever take! HMPH! Yeah, even if she can say she does love him now, he created his life for her completely on his own, and after she tried several times to take her own route. She was still not wanting to get married until at least a year, and they got married right away. She wanted to be a ballerina now and a mother later, and he impregnated her as she was still trying to continue her education. Knowing that she did not want ANY of those 3 things until he played them off as a sign of devotion and love is sickening. She did not want this life while it was being made, though in my personal opinion, I think she convinces herself she does now because how can you look at your farm with 8 children and not feel despair? Even if you love your children so much, which she definitely seems to, how can you ever be honest with yourself and grieve such a big loss? A professional ballerina at Juilliard is a once in a lifetime opportunity. LOVE ALWAYS WANTS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU! Love supports your dreams and is there by your side to cheer you on, not behind you tying you to a farm with 8 kids that you said you didn’t want right away. I can’t imagine if my husband saw how I want to be a physician and just steered me in a completely opposite direction of being a mother first without even hearing me out or understanding that he’s being selfish. If I told my friends this, they would tell me that he doesn’t truly understand me or my interests.
Star Orrick
2024-08-06 13:29:38 +0000 UTCWhat is a ballerina farm do they like...grow ballerinas...?
Pocket Possum
2024-08-05 22:27:57 +0000 UTCI have no idea what this is, but that just means I should look it up and learn about it.
Marlee Gould
2024-08-05 21:42:55 +0000 UTCfor a minute my brain confused Ruby Frank with Gypsy Rose, and that made me think of a whole separate (but comparable) situation of abusive relationships.
Cleo McKeever
2024-08-05 21:16:36 +0000 UTCI'm not sure how much I can offer about the ballerina farm thing itself (I'm passingly familiar from mentions by other video essayists but not that interested in watching the videos of the BF personally), but I have plenty to say about being, by many metrics, a "trad wife" myself, except I'm also a raging feminist--it's all about the CHOICE to be stay at home or not (with all the socioeconomic and familial factors that go into that). As others have pointed out, the "trad wives" who say their only interest is in cooking/cleaning/etc for the family are lying through their teeth when they're also taking so much time to create and edit the videos and other content about their alleged "homemaking only" lifestyle. The only difference between them and me (aside from my "respect for any kind of life women choose for ourselves" part) is that they're making bank off their content, while I have yet to break through to the capitalism-friendly side of things to make money off my content, thereby keeping me relegated to "youtube as a hobby" (no matter how many hours and real dollars I've put into making my stuff). You can be a trad wife and a feminist, the key is, for the third time, respecting that not every woman will make the same decision, and that's totally fine. A last note, I have no able bodied family living nearby, and it is ROUGH. I get basically no breaks from childcare, except when I leave the kids home with my husband so I can go to karaoke by myself or something for a night, which means coming home to him in a nasty mood because he's tired from his "real" job and the kids would drive the most patient person in the world up the wall. To be a happy trad wife requires, on top of the financial stability of having only one "working" parent, a support network to also help with the kids. That, or angel children who never require constant supervision...if those even exist.
Cleo McKeever
2024-08-05 21:14:11 +0000 UTCI don't know a whole lot about the case but from what I have Heard that from the start it was pretty much coercion as he used his Father's money to pretty much force a date with her after she first rejected him and from what I've seen in interviews it seems like she isn't completely happy with the situation. (Granted I don't have the best memory so do the research) I believe in one interview I heard they asked if they were going to have any more kids and she said she doesn't know and he immediately piped up saying they were. From what I understand, the barn was supposed to be a ballet studio for her that he basically forced her to turn into a classroom for the kids. It seems the whole situation is his dream and not hers
Val cremeens
2024-08-05 20:18:14 +0000 UTCOh one criticism I've seen about calling this situation is that we don't know them personally so how are we to judge there lives, we don't know for 100% if it's a toxic relationship, My come back to that as someone who's been in abusive relationships in the past, It's better to call it out and be completely wrong, then never say anything at all and let the possibility of abuse to continue I think we see this most within the Ruby Frank, while on the surface it didn't look all that bad in reality it was terrible what that women was doing. So I think it's better to call it out then stay silent.
TheTinyArtist
2024-08-05 19:23:03 +0000 UTCThankfully I don’t have experience being a “tradwife,” but that IS what I was raised to be. My parents raised me with the expectation that after school I was to date ONLY with the expectation of marriage, and once I was married I was to be a wife and mother with all of the traditional feminine roles, and my husband would be “in charge.” If I hadn’t gotten out and found my own mind, that’s 100% where I would be right now. I honestly think that is what happened to her. She was finding what she loved and was *excelling* at it, but if she was raised with the same/similar expectations as I was, it’s not surprising that she was drawn back in. We don’t know if she had been pressured by family or friends to get married to this guy, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that was the case. When there’s multiple people telling you what is the right thing to do, you’re eventually convinced and also believe that.
Skylar-Blu Starmer
2024-08-05 18:08:13 +0000 UTCI think this one will be very interesting! Personally, I would like to hear a queer content creator talk about the Olympics in general. However, I totally get that may be a frustrating path to take. Either way, I'm really excited for whatever comes next!
Amiri
2024-08-05 17:52:01 +0000 UTCThat man looks like a dollar store Josh Hutcherson
DumbassRex
2024-08-05 17:49:49 +0000 UTC
