Situation #001 (HELP ME WRITE MY BOOK!)

I was so focused on punishing parents who spank their kids, that I forgot about those kids as adults. Y'all, because you grew up that way, there are certain "issues" you are going to have in life and because of those "issues" you will find yourself getting in the same kinds of situations over and over again. Don't worry though, I am going to teach you to the best of my ability how to deal with them.  

This first situation is one that I struggle with often, and that situation is influenced by my inability to tell someone "No." It isn't that I don't know how to use the words; it is that I come up with a reason "Not" to say "No". 

Well, the truth is, angels, you don't need one. You can say "no" for any reason and offer no justification or excuse. No is enough. 

It doesn't matter who died, who is sick, or how "important it is to them".

It doesn't matter how free you are, or that you "don't have kids", or if the answer to the question "What else are you doing", is "nothing".

You can just say "No."

 Now, some people will ask for an explanation. And you don't have to offer one. Those people cannot be your friends because they don't respect your "No." They expect you to say "Yes". This is why they are upset that you are saying "No".

What you usually do is give a long, drawn-out explanation and hope they eventually catch on that you mean "No", but they don't. Why? Because they see you as someone who will always say "Yes."

Although this isn't always true, sometimes they see you as someone who "wouldn't lie to them". Sometimes in your relationship, you cannot tell, and that is why I created the concept of Situation #001. Tell your partner that there are times where I feel like I can't say "No," and when we are in those situations, I don't realize it, but I know that you do because you always ask me "am I sure" and I truly don't know.  

So just ask me "Are we in Situation 001?" instead, which will remind me that it is ok for me to tell you "No". 

Unless you're in a relationship with someone where it isn't or you think that you can't...You know...like people in positions of power...Psychiatrists...Therapists...Presidents...

The reverse is true as well although some people don't like to recognize it. I know that if I ask you to help me, some people will say "yes" because they want to and some people will say "yes" because they don't feel like they can say no.

Luckily I created an easy way to test for that.  Do you want to help me write my book? Yes or No?

If Yes, tell me who you said NO to today :)

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