How many physical fights have you been in?
Added 2024-02-23 02:19:31 +0000 UTCThought it could be a fun community building thing to discuss some 'get to know you questions' every once in a while. Let me know your answers in the comments, I wanna read!
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I'm the oldest of 12, ten brothers and a sister. I can relate.
Jaime Barry
2024-03-03 05:12:55 +0000 UTCShe was in a wheelchair and thought she could roll her ass away from us
Lianne Conroy
2024-02-24 12:17:50 +0000 UTCJesus Lianne, I’ve told you not to be so blunt with people 😅 seriously though, I hope you’re alright 💜
Jen 🦙
2024-02-24 12:16:27 +0000 UTCHomeless lady just came in throwing bricks at us. Guess it counts🤷
Lianne Conroy
2024-02-24 11:13:22 +0000 UTCIt really sucks that out of all places, home is the one to not feel safe. That's incredible that you stood up to him and stopped it. I'm sorry you had to go through it and witness it with your mom 😢 you're right, I'm glad my brother didn't go through it. It sopped after a certain age, but the insecurity was seated, and it's probably why I feel stressed often. I "lame" cried a few times in front of people. It takes a long time after those small things add up, but once it starts, it's really hard to stop it, it feels almost physiological, like I can't control it. I'm just glad I can be alone at that moment
Nina L
2024-02-24 08:30:55 +0000 UTCYou’ve heard of fight or flight, I’m definitely flight I run or walk away. Coward maybe but I think sensible. If we’re talking siblings I’m the youngest with two older brothers I would simply call Dad and I won. Shit of a kid really😂
Ceeah
2024-02-24 02:59:33 +0000 UTCI have never started a fight and I can't say that I have been in a physical fight either. I'm really sorry to hear all the things that u guys have had to go through 😔 I'm sure some of the stuff made u mentally stronger, but I'm sure those left a mark on u guys too. Have a great weekend 😊💙
JustSomeJK
2024-02-23 22:38:36 +0000 UTCThere was only me and my mom, and he was “fair” about it unfortunately
Adina
2024-02-23 22:09:52 +0000 UTCI do get angry, but I am unable to express it, so I end up crying, which makes me even angrier, because I feel like the lamest person. I at least had the satisfaction to fight back when I turned eighteen and he tried to hit my mom. That is basically my answer to Joel’s question, the only physical fight I’ve been in. He never dared to do anything to any of us after that, and I did feel stronger for it in the moment, but it didn’t stick with me, I feel like a lot of my insecurities as an adult stem from all those years of being afraid at home.
Adina
2024-02-23 22:02:03 +0000 UTCYeah, the way I see it, blood doesn't always make you family 🤷♀️ I do feel I'm better off without her but it still makes me sad sometimes... I'm doing okay, but trying to move which is always stressful 😅 Hope all is well with you and yours 😊
Leah Miranda
2024-02-23 21:14:41 +0000 UTCIt's interesting that my brother doesn't have a problem being assertive, but I don't recall him being raised this way.. my favorite phrase was "it's not fair" for a while 😅 before I got tired of it
Nina L
2024-02-23 20:47:36 +0000 UTCThank you Adina, I'm sorry if you had to go through it too. I remember being told that if I fight back, it's gonna be worse, but not at all what was it for. Now I think it was to teach me to be compliant. I can feel irritation, but not anger
Nina L
2024-02-23 20:23:56 +0000 UTCNone really big deal real ones (I don’t count some arguments/small fights with my cousin). I had couple very uncomfortable situations with men but thankfully there was always someone random near me who was very eager to help and save me 🙈 As for the verbal fights I better stay quiet about that 😅
Helga 🦊
2024-02-23 19:15:46 +0000 UTCOne
Michelle Pearce
2024-02-23 19:01:47 +0000 UTCSorry you went through that, it leaves marks that you realise much later
Adina
2024-02-23 18:56:29 +0000 UTCIt’s funny how violence coming from a parent makes one non confrontational. If I were to believe what TV series about crime told me I should have became a serial killer.
Adina
2024-02-23 18:55:53 +0000 UTCSometimes the right thing is getting rid of the toxic people in your life even when they're family. Hope everything is going well now 🤍
Bua (mintteafortwo)
2024-02-23 14:32:18 +0000 UTCMwuhahaha, that was my plan all along! (To be fair, ita stuck in my head now too!) I did get a bit deep there buy hey, my whole adult life has been a car crash and if you don't laugh...I
Hayley
2024-02-23 12:36:53 +0000 UTCOh, Joel you mentioned bullying in grammar school. I wonder if this simily? In kindergarten I was chased the most of that year by (I think 6) 3rd grade girls all the way home. They yelled the whole way, "The red head is dead!". It took almost the whole year for my older brothers to notice I was coming in the house winded. I am number 11 out of 14, but I didn't have an older sibling to walk me to or from school. Even after that. My brothers talked to the girls, they only bullied me on the playground. ✌️✌️✌️❤️❤️❤️❤️😂😂😂
Gayle
2024-02-23 11:59:25 +0000 UTCSorry, I cut myself off. When the guy realiti had put myself at eye level. He stopped at, looked at my balancing act,put his head down. Started to laugh, then he apologized and told me we were going to go out. In my head I said, "no,". I proceeded to try my best to avoid him. The last one over the pay discussion. I was fortunate to have another guy there not only agree but was laughing with me. He told the guy to cool off and walk away. ✌️✌️✌️❤️❤️❤️😂😂😂
Gayle
2024-02-23 11:28:40 +0000 UTCZero here. That hair is a ten though 🤩
Mona
2024-02-23 11:08:23 +0000 UTCMy younger sister was actually my bully and always started fights with me, and they did get physical. Of course, when we were younger it was the classic stuff like hair pulling hair, but one time when I was 17, she really tried to fight me. Couldn't tell you what it was about anymore (probably a guy) but she came at me full on swinging and I remember throwing myself backward onto the couch, rearing up my legs, and just mule-kicking her away from me at full force into our coffee table😅 Sadly, she went down a dark path and to this day still acts like a child, (I let her and her 2 kids move in with me several years ago and it ended in disaster) and I had to cut her out of my life. The last time I saw/spoke to her was at my grandpa's funeral a little over 2 years ago and she caused a disturbance even then that ended up with her punching my glasses off of my face in front of my aunt. After that day my family finally realized that I was never making this stuff up. 🤷♀️
Leah Miranda
2024-02-23 09:25:06 +0000 UTCWe fought with my sibling, both verbally and physically (though not really), but then he got angry, and I had to run for life 😅 don't know what the reason was other than too much energy. Also with friends or cousins, we'd sometimes push each other as much as we could to the pile of snow and things like that. The closest to a real fight was with a girl I didn't know who tried to attack me with nails, that actually scared me, but she was stopped by a friend who was there too. It's not really a fight, because I couldn't fight back, but for me the most traumatizing part of growing up was when I was physically punished by my mom and even given the choice about it. It's funny that I don't remember what it was actually for. I try to avoid fights as much as possible, I also feel like I would be fought over easily, so I keep my distance.
Nina L
2024-02-23 08:16:57 +0000 UTCPhysical fights.. zero.
♠️ Aslyn Jobry ♠️
2024-02-23 07:17:58 +0000 UTCGlad you’re well Joel & are keeping up with daily uploads 😊 proud of you, they’re really good. Q1: I’ve been in one physical fight and that was at school, I was 14 this girl was saying horrible shit to me so I went up to her and punched her in the face 😂 I suffered the consequences, Which were harsh consequences but I learnt from that experience. I’m a lover not a fighter, but if I really had to I would stand up for myself because I’m not a pushover. Q2: I only will drink beer I don’t like anything else and I will usually have 2/3 max. I can’t drink a lot t sits heavy on my stomach. I’ve never been drunk either 😅 I wouldn’t want to because I don’t like feeling not in control.
Elle Quinn
2024-02-23 07:17:08 +0000 UTCWell, that was an emotional rollercoaster Hayley! 😅 But also, I’ve now for Kelly Clarkson stuck in my head so thanks for that! 🤣
Jen 🦙
2024-02-23 07:08:15 +0000 UTCOh Marissa, I could write a book! But we move, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and all that..xx
Hayley
2024-02-23 06:58:18 +0000 UTCFor me, as an emotionally bullied kid in primary school, I was very guilty of bottling my feelings and when things got too much and taking it out on those I cared for, aka siblings and close friends. Not very proud of some of the abuse I projected, for example, one time I pushed someone full force against a solid wall head first because it all got too much (the person was thankfully very much ok after the initial stunning) but I’ve learned to deal with my emotions now and actually get the fear of physical fights now. Think I must’ve mentally scarred myself that much from my actions that I’m good for life! 😅
Jen 🦙
2024-02-23 06:25:13 +0000 UTCno fights for me! I am always the mediator. i also know i would just be a runner because im not trying to get hurt, haha but watching my older sister and younger brother fight was always entertaining, because my sister knows how to handle business. one time, my brother had a plastic light saber, walked up and hit her in the back, all she had to do was turn around, and he ran outside soooo fast, so she just locked him outside.
Sarah
2024-02-23 05:01:54 +0000 UTCyeah. my whole life has been intense lol.
Candyland20bp1
2024-02-23 04:52:37 +0000 UTCYikes 😱 that’s intense!
Marissa
2024-02-23 04:49:59 +0000 UTCThanks! 😂 true, my ax is still with me, unused. Only after I quit I realized how messed up that situation was 😳
Marissa
2024-02-23 04:48:40 +0000 UTCTwo, both of them as an adult. One was on a train, some drunk guy was harassing a teenage girl and I stepped in. He hit me a couple times while I got her out of there, then just fell asleep. The other time, someone forced his way inside my home when I unlocked the door and I had to fight him back outside and call the police. I am definitely the kind of idiot who would fight for their phone/wallet, but that's terrible advice, don't do it!
GaelleRx
2024-02-23 04:47:33 +0000 UTCLove the golden girls reference 😂
Marissa
2024-02-23 04:45:20 +0000 UTCNever been in a fight that I can think of... I definitely didn't start anything. But my sister definitely would like... fight me. But since I didn't do anything, it was just a beat session hahaha! She's much better now. No worries haha
SpyroShurtagul
2024-02-23 04:45:15 +0000 UTCOmg you’ve been through so much 💜
Marissa
2024-02-23 04:44:00 +0000 UTCJust kids’ stuff, I guess. One time, I was at the neighborhood playground with some other kids.. I don’t remember what (why it) happened, but someone punched me in the gut, knocking the wind out of me. One of my younger brothers (I’m the oldest of 4 kids: me, my sister, then my 2 brothers), inside the house, threw a baseball/softball at me. Luckily, I quickly ducked into my bedroom and the ball hit the wall, instead. He was a pitcher on his little league baseball team…when he wasn’t playing in left-field. Except for a joking slap on the back or a joking punch in the shoulder, I don’t think I’ve ever actually been in a physical fight. I was shoved into my locker once in high school. I was always the very quiet, shy kid, who would ask the other kids to “please not cuss around me”…I was brought up going to church twice on Sunday and on Wednesday nights, and each night during a revival, and went to church camp each summer. Well, as far as the cussing goes, you wouldn’t be able to tell that about me now…I “cuss like a sailor” now…especially when I’m mad. When I get mad (which is usually at work), I don’t want to get into any altercation with anyone, but I do _want_ to: scream and cuss it out ( it, being my anger and frustration) and I want to throw things. Which I don’t…the most I do in cuss loudly.
Melissa Rogers
2024-02-23 04:36:48 +0000 UTCI think I've only ever been in one physical fight and it was more funny than anything. There was a group of us day drinking and one of my friends started bugging the DJ so we got turfed out of the bar but somehow we ended up in a scrap with the doormen. Whole thing was over in 5 minutes and we laughed about it for the rest of the night. Now my ex could be quite volatile and I spent many nights pulling him and his friends off people and watching from the safety of the sidelines while they tried to prove their masculinity! My ex could be pretty stupid after a drink- he once threw a pint glass at me then tried to set me on fire 😅 (It's not as traumatic as it sounds, he was very drunk 🥴) I was weak and scared to stand up for myself in my youth and was verbally abused and slapped about once or twice and actually assaulted at knifepoint once and didn't fight back but now- and I'm not glorifying violence at all- I'm not scared of anyone and if I need to I'll fight but I won't go looking for it. It's the Mum in me, I'm fiercely protective, like a lioness 😂
Hayley
2024-02-23 04:31:25 +0000 UTCThe hostile bunny image in my brain 🤣😂
Expired Coupon
2024-02-23 04:18:48 +0000 UTCStephanie I can so relate to that, same thing happened to me. Unfortunately the mother who gave birth to me never changed and stayed toxic and abusive. She also enabled others to abuse me growing up. We havent spoken in like 7 years. I'm glad things are better w/you and your mom though 🙂
Naomiskyyy
2024-02-23 04:17:48 +0000 UTCSo, the only physical fight I've been in isn't one that I got physical, but was bullied in 2nd grade (7 years old). I got pushed onto the cement at recess and ended up with a broken arm. I don't start physical fights. I just don't feel like it's worth my energy and doesn't really solve anything. I tend to be a people pleaser too, though, so a lot of fights don't usually come my way anyway, lol.
Courtney Walker
2024-02-23 04:14:41 +0000 UTCI wanna preface this novella by saying: I come from a very outspoken, multicultural, and close-knit family. So when we had beef with one another, we didn’t do the passive-aggressive or pretend-everything’s-fine fake shit, or even the disowning or silent treatment stuff that a lot of other families did (or might still do?). Oh no, if we had a problem, we got it out of our systems and did the conflict-resolutions right then and there. Sometimes things escalated and turned into fighting, but then we always hugged it out, apologized, and moved on with our lives. Okay so.. Picture it: Sicily, 1912… When we were younger (circa 1990’s), my sister, cousins, and I did fight occasionally. And I mean hair-pulling, punching, ball-kicking (yes, male cousins too), biting, chancla-beating, throwing-the-nearest-object-in-self-defense, sometimes being sprayed with the water hose in the front yard in order to split us up, FULL-ON fights. Some Jerry Springer stuff. Yeah, I know, real classy shit. 🙄 Look, I’m not proud, but it is what it is. And even though it’s a fight with relatives, it still counts! I can’t remember who usually started it. I wanna say it was never me because I was always the shy quiet one back then, and I was the baby 😇🤭. But if I’m being honest, we each had to of taken turns and had our fair share of being the instigator. 😈 Right? It was a looong time ago though, definitely before any of us brats turned 18. We were young and dumb and didn’t know how to communicate, and hormones were going crazy, and on top of all that, we didn’t exactly have the world’s best or most educated parents as role-models (in retrospect, I recognize that they did the best they could at the time, but that’s a whole other convo/therapy session). I never got into any fights with people outside of my family though. Go figure. I guess maybe because family was always regarded as “safe” and I was comfortable to lose my filter (even if that meant risking getting my ass kicked😅)? I knew my family would always be there and love me unconditionally? Anywhoo. Dysfunctional family and fist-fights: they build character! 😅🤗
Expired Coupon
2024-02-23 04:14:09 +0000 UTCYeah it sucks but you learn how to deal with it. Takes me longer to understand things, I need to be taught step by step when learning something new. Like with my job it took me a while to understand the procedures for things, but once I get it I'm good at it. Just getting there is a challenge at times. Hard to believe I've been with the DHS for 6 years now.
Naomiskyyy
2024-02-23 04:13:42 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry you went through that.gross people like that are not worth getting the ax bloody,and I'm so glad you're ok.
Candyland20bp1
2024-02-23 04:09:33 +0000 UTCI have 5 sisters...I'm not even going to pretend I kept a tally.
Dannielle O'Neill
2024-02-23 04:07:43 +0000 UTCI'm also 5' but a very feisty little shit when attacked.people always tried to overpower me because they thought small=weak.they were very wrong and I never lost.not condoning, just how I was raised by my dad.
Candyland20bp1
2024-02-23 04:05:05 +0000 UTCI've been in way too many to count. I was taught not to start fights, but I sure better be finishing any that do happen.I fight back most of the time, except the last one because I wanted the guy to go to jail so I allowed hime to sprain my colar bone and give me a concussion when threw my by my throat into a car.I still called him a little b word even with my trachea partially collapsed lol.my neighbor thought it was low key funny that I apologized for my body hitting her car and all worked out in the end, I guess.
Candyland20bp1
2024-02-23 03:55:36 +0000 UTCFor me it's two - one in high school against the school bully (she kicked my ass) and one in my 20s with a cheating ex (he may have been in the wrong but I still wish I'd handled it better looking back). I'm only 5" so I learnt to de-escalate things early as a perceived "easy target".
Aunt Boris
2024-02-23 03:50:28 +0000 UTC3 total. I haven't been in any physical fights since I was a kid. Once was with my sister, typical sibling rivalry, second was in 5th grade. The new girl disliked me for some reason, she was 2x my size. One day during recess she threw me into the wall. She left me alone after that. I guess she got what she needed. Lol. The 3rd one was in high school. This guy thought he'd try and overpower me in the hallway. He had new pinned against the wall, my feet dangling (I'm very short), he would've gotten the better of me, but I was in the right position to defend myself. Thankfully, I learned early on to verbally defuse tense situations. I never started a physical fight. I usually talked my way out of them.
Trisa
2024-02-23 03:47:25 +0000 UTCMy early 20s were kinda wild, lmao😅
Whit-EbullientShrub
2024-02-23 03:39:06 +0000 UTCDamn whit 😳
Shauna
2024-02-23 03:37:03 +0000 UTCI’m with you on having a learning disability and being held back (and also failing)…I was also very shy as a child.
Melissa Rogers
2024-02-23 03:12:01 +0000 UTCGlad to hear that things are better between you and your mom now 🤍
Bua (mintteafortwo)
2024-02-23 03:11:28 +0000 UTCI don't think I've ever been in a physical fight. Not once. I had always been a bigger/taller kid growing up. I am a bit quiet and reserved too, so I guess no one wanted to mess with me 😅
Bua (mintteafortwo)
2024-02-23 03:09:57 +0000 UTCTo be honest I wouldn’t know how to physically fight someone. 😆
Shiny
2024-02-23 03:08:31 +0000 UTCNope! Good old Princess auto 😂 😂. Have you been there?
Marissa
2024-02-23 03:04:57 +0000 UTCSo sorry that happened to you. Canadian Tire I expect :D
Cas
2024-02-23 03:00:14 +0000 UTCOh my, let's see...I've gotten into a couple bar fights. One was my fault, I'm not excusing it, but I was on edge as my father had just passed away. The girl provoked me and I escalated waaay more than I should have. The other was after I was knocked into someone in a crowded club and that person thought it was on purpose. She put her lit cigarette out on my arm and I hit her off of me. Honorable mention was the time my brother hit my best friend's car with his and we had an extremely heated screaming match. Memorable because I was trying on a very fluffy bunny cosplay costume(twas the night before an anime convention) while screaming and cursing out in the front lawn, lol. My bestie and I still laugh about that one to this day.
Whit-EbullientShrub
2024-02-23 02:54:24 +0000 UTCYeah I didn’t want to take any chances!! And that was just the tip of the iceberg at that job 🫠
Marissa
2024-02-23 02:52:57 +0000 UTCPeople in the real world zero. My mom abused me as a teenager so took many times to count. Things are better between my mom and I though 😊
Stephanie Bruso
2024-02-23 02:52:10 +0000 UTCDamn! Good on you for standing up for yourself. I work part time at a hospital and I have so much respect for all the things security has to put up with! 💪🏻
Marissa
2024-02-23 02:51:42 +0000 UTCOh interesting you work in security. I work in security at the airport But a different kind than you do.
Naomiskyyy
2024-02-23 02:50:47 +0000 UTCGood you let people now just in case something did happen. You can never be too careful.
Naomiskyyy
2024-02-23 02:46:04 +0000 UTCThat sucks! If it were me, I would have fought her later. Earn that detention, girl.
AnovaSig
2024-02-23 02:45:46 +0000 UTCI was in a few fights as a teen. I got picked on and eventually I got sick of being bullied so I would fight back. As an adult I worked as a subway train driver for public transportation and I had been assaulted quite a bit by crazy homeless people and have to fight back. And now I work in security and also have altercations with drunks when I'm trying to throw them out so I've actually been a lot of fights in my life
Lianne Conroy
2024-02-23 02:44:37 +0000 UTCI see nothing wrong with wanting quietness but yea i get it
Shauna
2024-02-23 02:44:15 +0000 UTCI feel you on that one! I only started being able to socialize normally in my early 20's. I also have a mild learning disability and was held back once too so that didnt help. Now at 36 I'm a little better socially, still awkward at times but not as bad when I was a kid. I'm careful who I trust and get close to.
Naomiskyyy
2024-02-23 02:43:56 +0000 UTCWe deserved each other. I’m sure I was unbearably annoying with my old lady “turn it down!” self too.
AnovaSig
2024-02-23 02:42:46 +0000 UTCI was in 1 fight. Some girls in middle school wanted to show how tough they were (I am tall) so they shoved into the lockers in the gym locker room and tried to instigate me. I didn't fight back but another girl said we were fighting so I got detention anyway.
missysue4851
2024-02-23 02:42:15 +0000 UTCMe and my brothers have tried to murder each other many times. I can't imagine you criticising someone about their bag! Either you've changed a lot or you're a really good actor x
Snoodle
2024-02-23 02:41:31 +0000 UTCShe deserved it 🥊 JOKES
Shauna
2024-02-23 02:41:19 +0000 UTCI’ve been in ONE fight. College. In an elevator. We had a disagreement on noise level and just had it out. I don’t really like being physical in a violent manner. Stress and sleep deprivation helped that along. We ended up fighting for 16 floors. I felt as if the all of the anxiety, fear, and meekness was just evaporating from me with every blow I landed. It was exhilarating. I shouldn’t feel that way but that’s exactly how it was. I studied all day, and well into the night and this chick was an undeclared major in love blaring Keyshia Cole at UNBEARABLE decibles. (Love…IFYKYK 😑) Welp we both got in trouble, both had bruises. We never really got a chance to apologize to each other. Not that I would have. I was 19 and still a kid sort of. I still hate that song.
AnovaSig
2024-02-23 02:39:13 +0000 UTCThe next day I told supervisors to look at the security footage and I had my coworkers keep an eye out!
Marissa
2024-02-23 02:38:26 +0000 UTCEw f that guy
Joel Berghult
2024-02-23 02:37:52 +0000 UTCOh wow that’s scary 😨
Shauna
2024-02-23 02:36:17 +0000 UTCI haven’t had to actually fight… yet, but when I was in my late teens/early 20s, I worked at a popular Canadian tool store and a lot of the customers would harass the female staff so I purchased a camping axe and kept it in my car. Then one day as I’m finishing up my shift I’m making conversation with a customer saying how I’m off in like 10 mins so I was happy to go home or whatever, so after I clock out, my work keys and everything are already in my bag and I walk out the back of the store towards my car. A truck pulls up and I don’t pay any attention because I think it’s a coworker getting dropped off, until he is blocking the way to the staff lot. He rolls down the window and I recognize him and I remember thinking whether I can run fast enough while taking my car keys out of my bag to make it to my car and grab the axe. Thankfully he was just sleazy and handed me his number, but that was probably the closest I’ve gotten to physically fighting.
Marissa
2024-02-23 02:35:10 +0000 UTCI always got verbally bullied or weird rumors spread. Why i hate people :D jkjk
Shauna
2024-02-23 02:34:56 +0000 UTCI'm happy to hear the videos are doing really well! Only been in like 3 physical fights, none of them I started! More like older gals in elementary school bullying/pushing me because I was a scrawny 1st grader so I defended myself. Was always kinda the loner had social anxiety as a child, got picked on because I have eczema. Kids can be cruel. I always try to avoid fights, I believe in effective communication skills rather than taking swings, but if I have to defend myself I surely will🙂
Naomiskyyy
2024-02-23 02:31:39 +0000 UTCI have never been in a physical fight. Lots of arguments but nothing ever physical. I do beat myself up mentally all the time but I don't think that counts.
Cas
2024-02-23 02:29:30 +0000 UTCI haven’t been in serious physical fights. When I’m angry or provoked I tend to yell or curse. Anybody who has played games with me can attest to that lol
Alle Engdahl
2024-02-23 02:28:01 +0000 UTCThe amount of times i have told someone off LOL
Shauna
2024-02-23 02:27:21 +0000 UTCNone.. I don’t think 😅 verbal however… (and didn’t know which comments to answer in 🫣🤷🏼♀️)
Airyckah Lane
2024-02-23 02:24:53 +0000 UTCElementary. She said she could fight me I said no you can’t, she knocked me down .__. I was 4? Or 5? Lol
Shauna
2024-02-23 02:24:38 +0000 UTC
