My Biggest Regret After 10 Years Living in Japan
Added 2025-02-23 12:10:29 +0000 UTCHey everyone, I hope your weekend’s going better than Connor’s did in our ill fated train episode.
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Now, I assumed people would be outraged at the psychological and physical torment I inflicted on him—but no. The real controversy?
I didn’t cook a steak properly.
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So, Where the Hell Have I Been?
It’s been a quiet start to the year publically, and you might be wondering why. The truth is, no—I haven’t been kidnapped, and I haven’t run off to join some weird rural cult that worships vending machines.
Over the past decade, I’ve been bloody lucky to traverse every prefecture of Japan, climb Mount Fuji twice, and consume a truly formidable quantity of FamilyMart fried chicken. But the one thing I have consistently failed to do?
Master the Japanese language.
Now, to be fair, my Japanese isn’t entirely terrible. I can read around 2,000 words with relative ease. Hell, I can order a fine meal in a rural town, converse with the locals over sake and then fall down a ditch thereafter.
But here’s the problem:
📌 I still can’t read an entire book without wanting to cry.
📌 My public speaking in Japanese makes me sound like I’m a possessed sat-nav.
📌 And worst of all, I’m missing out on amazing opportunities to produce documentaries via hindered interviews.
It's consistently been my only real regret living in Japan. That I've never become fluent to a native level. I've had plenty of time in between everything I've done to achieve it. There's really no excuse.
So, in the past few weeks, I’ve finally buckled down to sort this out. Not just to pass a JLPT test (which I might take), but more importantly, to rebuild my confidence in Japanese.
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How I’m Studying (It’s Painful)
Now I realise this isn't the first time I've declared this. But this time, I'm announcing it over one month in to my studies. It's actually happening!
So far, progress has been good, mostly because I’ve forced myself into a daily study routine. I’m using SRS (spaced repetition software)—which sounds fancy but is basically flashcards on steroids.
🔹 The process? I get a sentence with a missing word, and I have to fill in the blank.
🔹 If I get it wrong, I get slapped in the face with it repeatedly until I remember.
🔹 If I get it right, it smugly disappears for a few days before coming back to test me again.
This brutal technique is insanely effective, and I plan to grind through 4,000 words this year. On average, I’m reading 300 to 500 sentences a day, which takes about an hour of my life I’ll never get back.
(FYI: It looks like this)
I then go out and use the new words in conversation, usually with Natsuki or Ryotaro, both of whom will feature in upcoming videos.
Speaking of which…
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What’s Next?
We have a huge Natsuki road trip video . While I won't reveal what our ridiculous goal was just yet, we ended up crossing five prefectures in two days in my beloved kei car, which—until recently—was about as roadworthy as a shopping trolley on fire.
Shockingly, Natsuki fixed it.
Yes, he spent $1,000 replacing the battery, windows, and air conditioning—which means that the repairs officially cost more than the actual car.
This is not how capitalism is supposed to work. But I'll take it!
The Jurassic Park clip at the top was taken amidst the shoot as we passed through Fukui.
As for Ryotaro, I'll keep that one under wraps for now. Suffice it to say, it's a really cool mini-doc that I've been wanting to shoot for a long time.
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The Grand Strategy for 2025 (Or: How I Plan to Make Life Even Harder for Myself)
I haven’t fully figured out what 2025 looks like yet. But here’s what I do know:
✅ More documentaries—covering serious topics and intriguing stories
✅ Less travel content, more challenge videos—I still want to travel Japan but under the guise of undertaking certain quests with a purpose (like our next upcoming video)
✅ More creative risks—because I've been doing the same thing for almost 12 years now
I’ll be honest—I feel like I haven’t been incrementally improving as much as I used to. However, on the most recent Wacky Weekend, we experimented with new color grading, and my god—it looks stunning.
ALSO shoutout to Marcus, our editor, for some top-tier animation work on the Japanese history and myths section.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how YouTube has become a landfill of forgettable content. There are millions of videos being pumped out every day, most of which will be watched once, if at all, and then discarded like a used napkin.
My goal this year is to avoid becoming part of the content landfill.
I want to make videos that stick with people, that actually mean something.
Even if that something is simply “god help you if you take me to Okinawa to do water sports."
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Another reason I’ve been a bit quiet?
I’m writing another book. That's right, I’ve decided to put myself through another publishing deadline. God help me.
But that’s a story for another day.
For now, I’m heading back to editing the Natsuki road trip video. Have a great weekend, and thanks as always for the support!
Chris
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Comments
Which SRS are you using?
rafa UGM
2025-03-12 17:00:14 +0000 UTCExcited to hear there is another book! Also, Fukui!! We're going in June!
Carla
2025-03-01 21:15:44 +0000 UTCLove your content Chris! In Tokyo right now and gonna stop by Lost :)
Cloud
2025-02-27 05:40:24 +0000 UTCThank you for writing about your 日本語 studies! That really resonated with me. I've been feeling somewhat shameful about not having achieved the level of fluency in Japanese I thought I should've achieved at this point, after all these years. Coincidentally however, I also restarted my Japanese studies about a month ago, and it's been great so far. I hope we can both keep it up! Please pardon me if you're already aware of this book, but I want to recommend Fluent Forever by Gabriel Wyner (the revised edition). It taught me some better evidence-based learning methods I wasn't previously aware of, and got me excited about learning Japanese again. I also recommend the YT channel Languagejones, who covered the book in one of his videos. Sorry for the long comment. Best of luck to you, and 頑張りましょう!
Santeri Edelmann
2025-02-25 17:46:18 +0000 UTCDefinitely N1 - I tried and almost passed N2 after two years of study. It was a bit of a gamble, as I could've just taken N3 and passed. But I thought I'd try my luck haha. I'd say I'm currently somewhere between N2 and N3 though.
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:40:58 +0000 UTCYeah I feel like I could have gotten much more out of my time with Ken Watanabe to be honest! (And the Emperor, haha). I've been using Readthekanji.com Honestly though, WaniKani is a better, more comprehensive language learning tool!
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:39:48 +0000 UTCThe first couple of months are brutal, I won't lie. And then one day, you'll find all the words that seem to keep falling out of your head ten minutes after you've learnt them start to stick in there. It's a bit like jamming everything into a sieve and letting it filter through. Good luck to you Teemu!
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:38:30 +0000 UTCWe've toyed with doing it for the original JAJ! It would be an epic undertaking but not ruling it out.
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:37:06 +0000 UTCCheers for the kind words Alex! Hope you make it to Japan - best of luck with those studies. N5 is a tough hurdle but once you've got N5 / N4 vocab out of the way it's pretty easy to have a good conversation in Japanese!
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:36:03 +0000 UTCIan's acting is top notch haha
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:35:15 +0000 UTCWaniKani came out after I was a few years in, but I know a lot of folks who use it and recommend it! A fine choice - best of luck in your studies.
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:34:34 +0000 UTCI think the issue is when you're outside a conventional Japanese work environment, you lose the day to day immersion and doing Youtube here, I've been able to get by on conversational Japanese pretty comfortably.
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-24 11:34:02 +0000 UTCIt's interesting to hear that even with conversational Japanese and living in Japan, it still takes real effort to continue to improve. Good luck!
Gradie
2025-02-24 08:10:15 +0000 UTCGood luck Chris! I've been using wanikani to learn more kanji and vocabulary so that I can read more. The practice sentences help, but THERE ARE SO MANY to learn.
Lauren Merchant
2025-02-24 06:51:40 +0000 UTCI do sincerely love that you produce content that is such high-grade quality. As you say, not just YouTube, but the whole internet can feel like a landfill. So, especially when you put in the extra effort you’re putting in, your content shines above the rest. You’re my reason for wanted to move to Japan, and your story and effort in trying to deliver quality content that leaves a mark is genuinely inspiring. I’ll always been supporting! I also really need to do more daily Japanese training - been a bit lazy 😂 only around N5 at the moment, and N1 won’t come around by itself will it? Much love, thanks for the hard work Alex
Alex Verri
2025-02-23 22:34:14 +0000 UTCLoved that quick video with you, Ian and Natski! Hilarious!
Jamie
2025-02-23 20:54:06 +0000 UTCSo seeing as you're trying to get better at Japanese and writing a book at the same time-- perhaps a sporadic project could be "Rewriting a small part of the book in Japanese"? I've found it always helps me to have an Actual Project when i'm learning something, since route practice never seems to stick, and maybe this could be that for you. For instance, I could never have learned to play guitar if I weren't also making music.
Kitsunelaine
2025-02-23 18:45:06 +0000 UTCNever regret things that once made you smile.
Ali Fareed MC
2025-02-23 17:52:18 +0000 UTCI love your docs and I'm super looking forward to seeing more of your deep dives! They're always fascinating!
Stacey
2025-02-23 16:44:07 +0000 UTCI am currently studying for n5. It isn’t much, but you gotta start somewhere. I put studying off for far too long. I would always start, do it for a few months, then stop after I get burned out and repeat the process 6-12 months later. This time, I really plan on getting fluent even if it takes the next few years
Fluffyspark7
2025-02-23 16:27:19 +0000 UTCI've been learning Japanese using SRS (WaniKani for Kanji/Vocabs and Bunpro for Grammar) for years and it's really a game changer for learning a language (or really anything, 80% of medical students at some university were using Anki for their studies IIRC). That and the focus on mnenomics to remember! Though while I do learn daily, I really don't spend nearly enough time to make significant progress, I should follow your example and spend an hour or more every day...
Blex
2025-02-23 14:46:34 +0000 UTCWhat JLPT do you aim for? I assume it's N1? And where would you rank yourself currently? JLPT N2? Between N3 and N2?
Blex
2025-02-23 14:31:41 +0000 UTCGlad to hear you're back to taking a serious stab at improving your Japanese! It really does open more opportunities. And I can't imagine what opportunities you've been missing out on with all the great videos we've gotten! I've used SRS for kanji and word repetition, like Anki and Wanikani, but not for sentence structure. Would you mind sharing what you're using?
Steven Brown
2025-02-23 14:24:09 +0000 UTCWhen I attempt to speak Japanese I always try to evoke Toshiro Mifune (star of many a Kurosawa movie and overall badass) much to the delight and confusion of my Japanese friends. They say I sound like I’m giving some Yakuza underlings a dressing down when I’m just asking for directions to the restaurant I’m meeting them 🤨 but still with a Scottish lilt. They begged me not to use it with strangers though. An old professor of mine said that the best thing about speaking more than one language is that you can pick a whole new personality to go with the new language without being labelled as schizophrenic
Bergkattse
2025-02-23 14:24:07 +0000 UTCHi Chris! がんばって!!! Since I just moved to a new country I am learning their language and yes it is hard! But also so satisfying knowing more every day. So keep on going! It will be very satisfying in the end!
Koen Manusama
2025-02-23 13:28:57 +0000 UTCChris. Take it easy. Be a cat sometimes it's cool.😺💜
Putsies Mokies
2025-02-23 13:12:47 +0000 UTCBest of Luck Chris for all your endeavours in 2025. I always admire how much you push yourself to move forward and improve when you easily sit on your laurels and make the same videos in your sleep you are always moving on to the next challenge. Hope the Japanese continues to improve with all your hard work. Can’t wait for what I can only assume is the Natsuki Park Motion picture 🦖
Maureen Kerr
2025-02-23 13:02:32 +0000 UTCBest of luck to your language grind. I started mine just a few weeks ago and I'm trying not to get overwhelmed. I really loved your book and looking forward for the next! I can honestly say that you have been my biggest source of inspiration for my trip to Japan (in the unforeseeable future).
Teemu Laaksonen
2025-02-23 12:42:55 +0000 UTCSo excited to hear about your future plans! Loved the video (poor Connor). Glad you're leaning Japanese again as you were one of my main inspirations to learn myself (and I passed N5 recently!). Looking forward to seeing what comes of your new language skills 😊 Keep up to amazing work and take care
Pip
2025-02-23 12:36:43 +0000 UTChave you ever thought about going back and re-editing your old videos into one big video? like the journey across japan videos and maybe making a blue ray out of it?
Ivotron
2025-02-23 12:35:35 +0000 UTCGood luck on your studies and writing the book Chris! It makes me wanna push myself to accomplish more as well! I'm very excited you are planning more documentaries, they always stick with me. It's great to see all the effort and thought you put behind your content. Looking forward to where the channel is going 💛
Soll Stein
2025-02-23 12:31:57 +0000 UTCI love reading your notes: got me inspired to grind more! good luck on your journey Chris!
Isidora Jurjević
2025-02-23 12:22:33 +0000 UTCWow, you've been really busy. It's always a pleasure to see the standards you've been holding yourself and your work up to. Let me say, your videos are one of the few videos on YouTube I love to come back to and watch again. Just wanted to let you know that you're already far ahead of generic YouTube slob. Loved the shots in the last Wacky Weekend, makes me want to explore more of Kyushu myself. Good luck on your writing, learning and creative endeavors in 2025!
Saph1r0
2025-02-23 12:21:53 +0000 UTCThanks for the kind words Luke! Looking forward to making the Abroad in Japan Patreon community proud in 2025!
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-23 12:20:49 +0000 UTCThat's amazing to hear Chris! As someone who lived in a foreign country (Thailand) for two years and a half, one of the few regrets I have of leaving is how little Thai I have learnt. But to be fair, the language barrier completely burned me out and now that I moved to an English speaking country (good old Ireland) I saw how much happier I am even when I go out to get tea and I can have a lovely conversation with the people serving me. Good luck on your studies, I wish for your willpower to never falter!
Camilla Fontana
2025-02-23 12:19:36 +0000 UTCVery inspiring Chris, I admire how you are always pushing yourself and strive to produce content you can be proud of. You should feel very proud of what you have already accomplished. Looking forward to the new docs and opportunities that will come your way with being more fluent in Japanese. Edit: oh and that video above is a masterpiece 😂
Luke Beaman
2025-02-23 12:18:25 +0000 UTCAbsolutely! I've got a few video ideas planned for around Spring. I should do a whole day on the Cyclethon (4) speaking only Japanese too, haha.
Abroad in Japan
2025-02-23 12:18:06 +0000 UTCSounds like you have lots on your plate Chris! Really excited to see where the channel goes as always, and would love to see some content showing your success with Japanese language learning (maybe this could be a challenge video?). Good luck 🙂
Lewis
2025-02-23 12:15:45 +0000 UTC