Leveling Up the Sharing Today
Added 2021-12-16 23:38:25 +0000 UTCOur recent vulnerability in this space really got me in the heart—I value so much being in community with ya’ll. For my day job I work at a local university and one of my favorite ways to check-in when I meet with folx is to use various conversation prompts…you know me and my love for questions and allergy to strained silences ;)
So I decided to pull out a card for this group. The card was chosen at random and this is 100% voluntary to participate :)
If you are up for it—the question is:
What would I do if I did not care what people thought of me? Would my life be different?
Comments
Bahahahah I love that re legs and also def agree with kid friend parents’
Megan Erickson
2021-12-19 19:28:23 +0000 UTCYes the mother guilt is this insidious thing isn’t it
Megan Erickson
2021-12-19 19:27:46 +0000 UTCThanks for sharing! I’m going to practice saying “no” next year and it honestly makes me nervous.
Megan Erickson
2021-12-19 19:27:13 +0000 UTCOoof I feel this one so much!
Megan Erickson
2021-12-19 19:26:31 +0000 UTCI grew up with a parent whose love was very conditional, so I learned to hide my inner self very well. As an adult I still keep my thoughts and feelings very private, even from those I love. I have a very hard time expressing anything negative to people I care about, even when it causes problems. Hell, my mom doesn't even know about half my tattoos and I'm 46 lol. I'd be more open about how I really think and feel. I'd disagree and stand up for myself instead of shutting down and nodding my head.
Elizabeth
2021-12-18 19:03:54 +0000 UTCIn general, I think I would have given myself permission not to try to please everyone, saying yes to everything no matter what. I like a lot of things about my job, but I might also choose a less demanding career in order to have a healthier work/life balance.
Antonina (Tonya)
2021-12-17 19:38:18 +0000 UTCMine wouldn't be massively different now, I think because I grew up in a HK Chinese household where I was constantly told to behave in a certain way, because "what would other people think" - I really fought this and think I've largely succeeded. I figured as well if people don't dislike you then maybe you're too vanilla? And that's not what I wanted to be in my life haha! HOWEVER, I do as a parent still struggle with the things I should be doing as a "good mother" and I'm not sure that's so easy to overcome.
Sarah @afternoonaasks
2021-12-17 15:28:57 +0000 UTCI try really hard not to let what other people might think affect the way I live my life, but the place I struggle most is around my kids' friends' parents. If it's going to affect how people see them it raises the stakes and I have a hard time just being myself. Also I would definitely never shave my legs again.
Lauren Cohen
2021-12-17 03:33:53 +0000 UTC🤔 no, my life wouldn’t be different. I’m the black sheep of our family, the weird one who moved to California 30+ years ago, cut most familial ties to save my sanity, and created a good life for myself, my husband, and our cats…who never ever ever tell me I’m weird. ❤️ to all this holiday season!
Madge Doty
2021-12-17 03:01:03 +0000 UTCWell put Jodi! Me too!
LauraPat H
2021-12-17 02:50:34 +0000 UTCI don't think my life would super change...but I would hope, like Laura, my self negative would be a lot less. It saddens me how much negative talk effects everyone so much. We are all AMAZING and I hope one day we will all believe that from the tip of our heads to the bottom of our soles (souls)! I love all of you and so grateful to have find this place!
Jodi Guira
2021-12-17 00:23:53 +0000 UTCThis is a great question. I actually paused "100 Days My Prince" to check out this post 😏 I know my tendency to ruminate over past mistakes/embarassments causes me at the very least irritation with my own self. If I didn't care about what people thought of me at those past moments, I could've saved myself a LOT of angst and emotional energy. Giving myself a pat on the back for all the good or clever stuff I HAVE done or said is hard and even as a 63 year old I still sometimes have to talk myself out of entering the negative thinking maze.
LauraPat H
2021-12-17 00:08:21 +0000 UTC
