Do Over
Added 2021-12-14 16:57:06 +0000 UTCI’m listening to tomorrow’s podcast deep dive and really appreciating the vulnerability of my co-hosts—plus they are hilarious. You can expect some fairly deep discussions around the ideas of regret and things we’d do differently.
So I bring the question here—if you could do something differently (but let’s pretend it doesn’t have to mess up your present unless you want it to be so)—what would it be and why?
-Lia
Comments
I'm so sorry that happened to you--and yes it's so vital for people to have that understanding young because abuse can take so many forms and can feel so normalized. Thanks for the reminder to start those conversations more intentiojnally with my own kids. ANd I'm so glad you found the right partner--and get to have a Noona romance to boot xxx
Megan Erickson
2021-12-21 20:50:09 +0000 UTCI spent 7 years in an unhealthy relationship and wish conversations about what abuse and intimate partner violence looked, sounded, and felt like, took place long before I reached adulthood. It worked out, I am no longer in that relationship and now spend my days working with women who have experienced trauma. Also my current partner is 7 years younger than me so I think of that time as waiting for the right time to meet him.
Alison D.
2021-12-21 14:37:50 +0000 UTC🌻🌻🌻laughing at self (but with compassion not meanness) helps me daily lol
Megan Erickson
2021-12-16 20:42:15 +0000 UTCWow yeah I feel that one deep ❤️
Megan Erickson
2021-12-16 20:41:15 +0000 UTCIf it had been available in the 80s-90s, I wish I could have had proper, effective therapy for childhood trauma much earlier in life so that I could have chosen better relationships and been kinder to myself and others. Thank you all for your reflections--I can relate in my own way to so much of what you have shared. {{{hug}}}
Antonina (Tonya)
2021-12-15 16:07:58 +0000 UTCI would unlearn the habit of overthinking every thing and let go of perfectionism. And if anyone has figured out how to stop cringing at past dumb-things-I-said-or-did, (and REALLY see those dumb things as lessons or something), tell me how!
LauraPat H
2021-12-15 00:20:11 +0000 UTCI want to add that this is a long one at an hour and twenty five minutes! -Megan
Megan Erickson
2021-12-15 00:17:18 +0000 UTCI'm soooo excited for tomorrow, should I get tissues ready because I'm getting teary eyed with just the comments here...I love everyone's honesty and truth being spoken! For me, definitely getting my positive self talk under way in like my teens instead of in my 30's.
Jodi Guira
2021-12-14 23:48:57 +0000 UTCi really love the imperfect loveable nature of those Reply heroines--and in pod we def. all touched on that cliche of youth being wasted on youth--because now looking back we can see how much we were enough
Megan Erickson
2021-12-14 20:10:10 +0000 UTCwow yes that responsibility can be heavy--and hearing the positivity and gratitude for what you do have and also the sense there are other dreams that are on backburner.
Megan Erickson
2021-12-14 20:09:11 +0000 UTCI’d just be kinder to myself. I was way prettier, skinnier and sorted than I thought I was in my Uni and 20’s. So much time wasted comparing myself to people and finding myself not up to scratch! In a KDrama link - as I’m making my way through the Reply series I just love the heroines of all 3 and think if these had been my role models rather than the insanely beautiful, demure and saintly heroines that were my HK & Western Dramas it might have helped!
Sarah @afternoonaasks
2021-12-14 19:43:33 +0000 UTCFinish college. I have a good job, great benefits, and I can support my family (barely, but we make it and have enough for some fun sometimes) but I'm about 180 degrees from what I actually wanted to do with my life. However, now that I have a child, I can't take the risk of going back to school and changing careers, so here I am. Until retirement. 15 more years.
Elizabeth
2021-12-14 19:35:47 +0000 UTCI love all of this -Lia
Megan Erickson
2021-12-14 18:52:23 +0000 UTCOh I feel that one deep -Lia
Megan Erickson
2021-12-14 18:52:07 +0000 UTCGet treatment for social anxiety sooner. Medication can be life-changing.
Lauren Cohen
2021-12-14 17:51:05 +0000 UTCMine are things I am still learning how to do: be honest with myself and others, communicate in a kind and open way, take the time to figure out what I really want instead of just doing what I feel is expected of me. Wouldn't want to change the life and family I have now though, I think it would just be nice to look back and not cringe. Hahahaha 🤣
Grace
2021-12-14 17:22:27 +0000 UTC
