Quick question for my Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger readers 😏 What’s one belief or perception you had about sex or performance that changed completely after reading the book? 👀 The kind of shift where you can’t un-see it now. What was it for you? I'm curious!
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I am savoring this book like a fine wine! There is so much. I even have been reading the footnotes! I read a little and mull it over. I even told my wife why I ordered the signed copy. Hopefully, she will sit in next Friday for at least a portion of the Zoom call. She has a competing board meeting. Thank you for this monumental effort!!!
Photoguy77
2026-02-25 01:56:27 +0000 UTCThat's an interesting pov!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:45:10 +0000 UTCI really appreciate you sharing that!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:44:49 +0000 UTCAppreciate you sharing your honest opinion!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:44:34 +0000 UTCThank you so much!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:44:15 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:44:06 +0000 UTCThank you! You MUST. Order here: http://HBLSbook.com
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:43:57 +0000 UTCAbsolutely agreed!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:43:29 +0000 UTCThank you so much for sharing!
Lovely Dutta
2026-02-23 16:43:23 +0000 UTCI think it’s realizing that I have to communicate my desires to my wife or she won’t know what they are, or that she will get angry. We took your couples course about two years ago. It broke the ice and we have been exploring, slowly. This afternoon she tells me that she had ordered a new vibe. It arrived while I was out of town this week. She’s already used it and says she wants to use it with me tonight. Caitlin, I think she is trying to seduce me! She’s even listening to Dr. Casperson as I type!! I’m thankful you have prepared me to be ready. Every journey starts with the first step.
DavidD
2026-02-21 00:45:41 +0000 UTCSecond read through chapter 7 hit more than the first read. Its been years since you told me on a live stream, "You have to commit!" Trusting in someone else is a childhood trauma response that had limited me. I've had lots of breakthroughs over the years and still learning. First time Reiki session last weekend, something new! YAB-YUM has been new and amazing connections for hours. Who knew? I'm sure Caitlin was already aware. Thanks for continued teaching!
Chad G
2026-02-20 19:49:40 +0000 UTCThis thread is giving me so much life on a Friday!! Thanks friends, glad the book is having the kind of impact I dreamed it would!
Caitlin V
2026-02-20 19:33:13 +0000 UTCSorry, but it's all kind of retrospective for me. I'm kind of disappointed that some old erroneous tropes are still being incorporated in "correcting" attitudes /problems concerning male sexuality. Other than that, not bad (on chapter 7 now).
Grouchy Vince
2026-02-20 18:40:20 +0000 UTCI am on chapter 5 and am loving the narrative of this book . I feel that by the end of the book i will have a few life changing nudges. I really find the psychology of what happened on your firsts I know how this can really affect your thoughts about certain realities or truths that are born. Like the first time I had a wet dream and discovered masturbation when i reached puberty and didnt know how to manage my feelings, because I grew up inba very conservative Christian family that never talked about sex. Saw a woman naked in a magazine and then saw a porn movie when I was 15 staying over at a friend's place watching on satellite TV and oh my gosh I was like wow that's interesting. We had the sex talk in grade five like you discussed , no real education, just a big std and pregnancy talk and nothing about emotions. I definitely developed insecurities and lacked self confidence and didnt even have the courage to as girl out until inwas 21 and then had my first sexual experience with a girlfriend that I dated for a year . This was basically the beginning of my true sex education and oh my gosh what a journey, but also a huge contribution to some confusing things. Long story short, she didnt like oral sex and just wanted to fuck every day. After a number of girlfriend and a lot of confusing information I decided to start reading everything I could about sex , because i figured there was a lot to discover . I was right and learned a lot and ended up having a lot of fun doing all sorts of different sexual adventures. My only really issue that I had was getting rid of insecurities and thoughts about how maybe I wasnt doing the right thing and felt shame around sex , especially masturbation. For many years I didn't understand the benefits of masturbation or how to do it for enjoyment. I think that your book really is a great addition to other books i have read and compliments books like the way of the superior man and is helping me to understand more about the balance of energy between to people. I love hoe the book really encourages the reader to be more curios about finding out more about her wants and needs and finding that middle ground where lovers can meet and have the most amazing sex and orgasms . I honestly think that it may open other doors , as I know that a woman really wants and needs to feel safe and that you respect everything about her , so that she can give you her heart, body and soul. I love the way that you have written this book. I purchased the Audio Book. Great Job Caitlin V
Raymond
2026-02-20 17:51:06 +0000 UTCWithout a doubt, the biggest change is not about technique, or about ability, or even about knowledge. It's about courage. Courage to acknowledge what I am and what I need. Courage to say it out loud. And courage to handle the response. Courage to take up space. And courage to love the way I know I can.
Eli Israel
2026-02-20 15:53:48 +0000 UTCI should get and read the book.
CHRISTOPHER JOHNSON
2026-02-20 15:50:03 +0000 UTCThat sexual dysfunction is far more commonly a matter of the mind instead of caused by physical issues.
Photoguy77
2026-02-20 15:46:45 +0000 UTCFirst of all, it is a really good book and thank you for writing it and sharing your expertise. The thing that resonated most with me was the tie you made between sex and spirituality. I never considered BDSM and Tantra on the same spectrum.
Tony Ruiz
2026-02-20 15:46:24 +0000 UTC
