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TToB: People with intense negative and positive emotional responses are more happy. Tough or Bluff???

Boundaries

Dr Kirk Honda lectures about systems theory, boundaries, routines, feedback, cybernetics, differentiation, etc.

00:00 What are boundaries & limits?

21:40 Co-opting respected terms

28:01 What was the original purpose of trigger warnings?

37:08 The rise of the self-help realm

42:30 Where did boundaries come from?

53:32 Does the concept of boundaries exist in modern therapy?

1:02:35 How does differentiation apply?

1:06:37 Does Dr. Kirk feel saf...

A local magazine interviewed me about Love Is Blind.

The author was a  joy to talk with. I feel honored. I also cringe at some of things I said  - but I'm 99% sure that I'm just being weird about that.

Link: https://www.seattlemet.com/health-and-wellness/2024/02/love-is-blind-kirk-honda

12 Ways to Overcome Anxiety (2015 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about ways to overcome anxiety.

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Oppositional Defiant Disorder (2013 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk talks about oppositional defiant disorder and emotional parenting.

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Deprogramming Abuse, Kirk Dreams, and Codependency

Dr Kirk Honda responds to patron emails.

00:00 How can I open up in therapy?

10:07 What am I feeling?

30:30 Is there a way to separate without leaving?

34:11 r/Therapist meme

43:19 OPP

44:24 Kirk dreams

1:01:54 Can someone have multiple personality disorders?

1:04:29 Can you heal a parentified sibling relationship?

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Touching Therapists, Butlers, and Immoral Kirk

Bob and Kirk answer questions from patrons and YouTube members.

00:00 Safety in therapy

03:30 Boundaries in therapy

09:41 Is it ok to ask for physical touch in therapy?

40:15 Recognizing and accepting your needs

1:08:42 Is it ok to go to therapy without a goal?

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TToB: Less than 1% of divorced couples remarry each other. Tough or Bluff???

Love Is Blind Survey

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(The survey will be closed Wednesday morning.)

Alena Interview

Alena Honda discusses their initial experience in grad school to become a therapist.

00:00 Introducing Alena

04:07 Why did Alena want to become a therapist?

16:55 What does Alena hope to do in the future?

20:43 When did they decide to go to grad school?

34:02 Starting work on the podcast

40:08 What other factors influenced Alena towards therapy?

42:52 What has grad school been like so far?

49:54 Does Alena have any hopes for the profes...

Narcissistic Personality Disorder - Chapter 2 (Deep Dive) (2018 Rerun)

[Rerun] Part 2 of Dr. Kirk’s deep dive on NPD. 

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder - Chapter 1 (Deep Dive) (2018 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk does a deep dive on narcissism.

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Sex, Porn, Therapy Discharge, and Ethics

Bob and Kirk answer questions from patrons and YouTube members.

00:00 Sexual attraction with safety

02:19 Cheating monologues & overt conversations

15:35 Blindsided without closure in therapy

25:04 Can a therapist wear too many hats?

34:21 Is it normal not to do intake paperwork?

40:45 Are fast and loose ethics helpful?

56:12 Is there a wrong reason to be a therapist?

1:05:14 Couples Therapy

1:12:55 Recording with Bob

1:17:11 Gif...

Dr Kirk featured in a Time article on Love Is Blind

Projection and Jung

Dr Kirk Honda interviews Dr Ann Blake about projection and Jung

00:00 Introducing Dr. Ann Blake

03:54 The everydayness of projection

14:29 CG Jung's definition of projection

16:12 Identifying markers & breaking a cycle of projection

21:35 Polly Young-Eisendrath's definition of projection

25:14 An exercise in projection

33:06 Negative projection

39:18 The importance of tone

47:27 Jungian synchronicity

50:14 The good news of projec...

TToB: People in countries that adopted the internet faster are less happy overall. Tough or Bluff???

Rebecca - Weird professors and other things

Rebeccasode! Kirk and Rebecca talk about weird professors and a few other things.

00:00 Weird interactions with students

13:48 What's going on in Texas?

15:07 What is the professor's responsibility?

20:38 What does being professional look like?

25:45 The weird Star Trek sound

27:50 Rebecca's mom, memorials, and Mr. Blowhard

45:34 What does it mean to offer mentorship?

48:06 What does it mean to be too much in your head?

1:08:54 Why did som...

Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) (Deep Dive) (2017 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about emotion focused therapy (EFT).

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Perfectionism (Deep Dive) (2018 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda does a deep dive on perfectionism and impostor syndrome.

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Interviewing My Mentor

Dr Kirk Honda interviews his mentor, Dr Paul David.

00:00 Dr. Kirk & Dr. Paul David's history

28:20 Taking over the program & work at Antioch

40:48 Dr. Paul's diagnosis & assisted suicide

48:43 Acknowledging death & Alzheimer's disease

1:04:55 How does it feel to know when you will die?

1:11:28 Does Dr. Paul believe in an afterlife?

1:15:04 Did Dr. Paul tell his clients?

1:22:20 How would Dr. Paul like to be remembered?

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What are some of Humberto's common phrases?

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Interviewing My Dad (Chapter 2)

Kirk interviews his dad.

00:00 Who was Dr. Kirk named after?

05:18 Childhood stories about Dr. Kirk

19:17 Alan's career path

43:56 Has Alan always golfed?

49:30 Alan's modeling career

51:31 Were the internment camps talked about?

1:05:14 Racism growing up

1:08:24 Alan & Sue's relationship

1:28:10 Reaching out to apologize

1:35:50 Final thoughts

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TToB: 67% of Tinder users are currently married or in a relationship. Tough or Bluff???

Interviewing My Dad (Chapter 1)

Kirk interviews his dad.

00:00 How did Alan grow up?

05:46 What lessons were learned in sports?

32:29 How is family prioritized and valued?

40:41 Was Alan ever worried for Dr. Kirk?

54:59 How did Dr. Kirk choose a college?

1:06:43 When did Kirk start singing?

1:10:28 How did Alan feel when Dr. Kirk started making music?

1:16:42 Alan's perception of parenting

1:24:46 What is the secret to a happy marriage?

1:28:04 What has Alan learne...

Dark Tetrad (2016 Rerun)

(Rerun) Dr Kirk Honda talks with Humberto about the dark tetrad - or the dark four personality traits.

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The Psychology of Bill Cosby (2018 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks with Humberto about the psychology and development of Bill Cosby.

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The Psychology of Neo Nazis - (Chapter 12 - The End)

Kirk and Humberto analyze the psychology of Neo-Nazis.

00:00 What do you say to a Neo-Nazi neighbor?

02:44 Why might someone become a Neo-Nazi?

17:22 How does trauma motivate someone?

34:40 The perpetrator of the Charlottesville car attack

53:01 Holocaust denial on the internet

48:53 Developing a schema leading to white nationalism

58:40 What can In-group/out-group bias lead to?

1:03:18 Are cult techniques used?

1:18:52 The Fox ...

Natalia Grace Survey

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The Psychology of Neo Nazis - (Chapter 11 - Secret Societies)

Kirk and Humberto analyze the psychology of Neo-Nazis.

00:00 Violence motivated by racism

12:07 What factors contribute to Neo-Nazism?

29:17 What did Americans think of January 6th?

37:09 What elements are common in fascist nationalistic movements?

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TToB: People with preoccupied (or anxious) attachment are less satisfied with Tinder. Tough or Bluff???