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Family of Origin Work (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about family of origin therapy.

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Lazy Healing, Hiccup Conversion, and Sex Exploration

Bobcast! Patron emails!

00:00 PiS in public

01:56 How do you achieve secure attachment despite internal resistance? 
08:28 What about needing therapy makes Bob sad? 

10:32 Why may psychological echoes occur when starting therapy?  

16:03 What constitutes childhood sexual exploration vs. abuse?

34:42 'R', 'Sydney', 'Carl' OPP

39:25 How do you help clients that are in relationships that aren't serving them


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Internal Family Systems (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about Internal Family Systems.


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Email: 2025-09-02 11:00:04 +0000 UTC View Post

Bob's Mom Died

Bob talks about his mom’s death and his grief

00:00 His mom's decline

03:51 Do Bob's siblings validate his experience?

11:04 How does Bob feel about her passing? 

23:33 Did Bob's parents ever apologize? 

39:05 Bob's anticipatory grief

43:02 Dr. Kirk's book is done!

48:42 Am I experiencing empathy or shame? 


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I Fell In Love With My Psychiatrist - Therapist Reacts

Dr Kirk Honda reacts to the viral TikTok series “I Fell In Love With My Psychiatrist”.


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The Psychology of Amanda Knox (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr Kirk Honda talks about the Amanda Knox case, the social forces present, and the research regarding false confessions.


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Email: 2025-08-28 11:00:08 +0000 UTC View Post

Trolley Problem Debate

Dr Kirk and Humberto debate the trolley problem dilemmas.

00:00 Future deep dives

01:06 Clarifying questions of the trolley problem

03:51 Would Humberto pull the lever in a classic scenario?

11:58 Would pushing someone change the equation?  

16:37 Where do you draw the line? 
19:57 What if there was a child on the track? 

28:35 Would Humberto self sacrifice? 

32:52 What if there was a violent criminal on the tracks?

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The Psychology of Roseanne Barr (2019 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk and Humberto talk about the psychology of Roseanne Barr.

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Cheating, Birthing Songs, Alien Movies, and Spock Psychology

Dr Kirk and Humberto respond to patron emails.

00:00 PETA acknowledgement

05:15 What bass does Berto own? 

07:13 What is the feline situation at PIS? 

10:34 What is the line between good friends and emotional cheating? 

21:37 Should I hold onto guilt as the other woman? 

28:24 What music should be on your birthing playlist? 

37:36 Gripes with the Alien movies & power scaling in movies

1:19:29 Does Spock's emoti...

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Premenstrual Dysphoria, Jung Shadow, and Declining Therapy Quality

Rebeccasode! Answering patron emails.

00:00 Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder and comorbidities

05:22 Atsuko Okatsuka & Asian-American comedians

12:57 How would you define Jungian Shadow work?

25:00 Can you experience countertransference in academics?

30:40 Why is it so hard to find a good therapist?


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Psychic Retreats (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about the psychoanalytic concept called psychic retreats.

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The Psychology of the Menendez Bros (Chapter 8 - Your Emails)

Dr Kirk Honda and Humberto read follow-up emails to the deep dive on the Menendez Bros.

00:00 What might life be like for the Menendez Brothers post prison?

26:00 Could generational abuse have affected the brutality? 

35:03 Dramatization of the story & other details

44:40 Self-rehabilitation work in prison

46:51 Final words

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Please submit your questions/comments for us to read during our 17th Anniversary Live Stream!

(Patrons/Members exclusive)

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Projective Identification (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda replies to a patron email about projective identification.

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Email: 2025-08-19 11:00:05 +0000 UTC View Post

Gaza Generational Trauma

Rebeccasode! Answering patron emails.

00:00 How does trauma affect a population? 

13:02 Could Rebecca have been socialized to have a different opinion? 
18:49 How do clinicians process trauma? 

30:19 Strom Thurmond's daughter

33:52 Can a marginalized person have awful opinions? 

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I finished my book!

(I just had to tell someone.)

After 11 years of writing, researching, thinking, listening, experiencing, learning how to actually write, thinking more, crying... I finally finished writing my book on grief.

I'm now sending the final draft to a few editors, including Bob. So, I still have more work to do. But 99% of the work is done.

For me, writing requires allocating several 12-hour days. I've probably spent 3000+ hours writing... oof. So, I now have a lot more free time...

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Immigration - Ch3 - Fighting Over Humberto Leaving

Humberto provides a deep dive on US immigration.

00:00 Visa Para Un Sueño

08:35 Immigration in Colombia

21:24 What would it take to leave Seattle?

23:23 Is it irrational to consider leaving?

29:40 What is within our power to control?

1:00:51 What does forming a plan look like? 

1:32:13 When do you enact the plan?

1:47:17 Should I care less?

2:01:07 Is there a way Humberto can plant his flag?


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The Psychology of Marlon Brando (2017 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda and Carey Burbank talk about the psychology of Marlon Brando


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Immigration - Ch2 - Terrorist Trump

Humberto provides a deep dive on US immigration.

00:00 Immigration Song 

04:39 A Nationalist movement 

07:30 Humberto's story of immigration

10:49 Federal measures & rollbacks

16:04 Federal funding & detainment centers 

23:31 The Alien Enemies Act

27:26 Birthright citizenship 

33:22 Stories from immigrants seeking safety in the United States

49:03 How does this psychologically affect vulnerabl...

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Conversion Disorder (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda answers a patron email about conversion disorder.


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Immigration - Ch1 - A Brief History

Humberto provides a deep dive on US immigration.

00:00 Immigration to the Americas

15:16 Socio-political structures in the Americas

32:23 How has immigration developed in the US? 

57:07 The Rio Grande and Christopher Columbus sucks

1:02:28 Why did so many people immigrate to the US? 

1:10:36 Immigration policy after 9/11 

1:12:23 Is there any relation to ancestry and psychology?
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Pedophilia OCD, Erotic Countertransference, and Movie Reviews

Dr Kirk answers patron emails.

00:00 How do you know what OCD you tend towards? 
04:03 Why was OCD removed from the anxiety section of the DSM-V?  
10:19 'L' OPP
13:06 Managing erotic countertransference 
22:41 'N' OPP
23:42 What is the 'insanity defense'?
33:24 Does substance abuse affect codependency?
37:28 Movie & TV reviews


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Mental Illness and Violence (2017 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda and Humberto talk about the connection between mental illness and violence.


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Email: 2025-08-07 11:00:05 +0000 UTC View Post

Ultimatum Queer Love S2 Recap

Rebeccasode!  We review Queer Love Season 2.

00:00 Did Rebecca like S2? 

07:49 Would a different host be better?

14:52 Defining sex & setting boundaries

23:33 Who would Rebecca be friends with in the cast? 

58:12 Sex positive podcast recommendation

1:00:03 Final thoughts

1:09:15 What is compursion?
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20 Tips for a Good Life (2018 rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk talks about tips for a good life.


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Ethical Quandaries

Dr Kirk answers patron emails.

00:00 Did this therapist break client confidentiality and trust?

10:22 Is it ethical to acknowledge a client's death? 

21:31 Should I report a would-be pilot's mental health?


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Done With Life and My Podcast History

Dr Kirk answers patron emails.

00:00 Are plateaus in life normal? 

09:49 Finding true north 

14:28 The history of PIS 

51:09 Has Dr. Kirk's approach to podcasting changed? 

57:35 Have the cohosts changed? 

1:08:53 Is there any advice to consider when listening to old episodes?

1:10:37 Have other patrons listened through the archive? 


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Misophonia (Fear of Sounds) (2016 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about misophonia.


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Weaponized Incompetence (Deep Dive)

Dr Kirk Honda provides a lecture on weaponized incompetence.

00:00 When did the term come around?

07:27 Is there a gendered double standard? 

09:39 What does the internet define as weaponized incompetence? 

25:59 Dr. Kirk's definition

42:00 What context influences weaponized incompetence? 

56:12 What isn't weaponized incompetence? 

59:03 Are these examples of weaponized incompetence?

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Gifted Children (2013 Rerun)

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks with Lisa Erickson about gifted children.


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