If I knew that

So often questions get asked about sex and yoga. So many people write in and talk about how their intimate life is not going so well and how can yoga help them improve it. My answer is always about finding self love and body love.  Then comes the exploration process and also connection of sensuality with yourself and another. Sure crazy yoga moves can be fun but at the end of the day the best sex isn't seen in pörn or what it looks like. It is about how it feels. Yoga helps to have better sex because we become healthier and more connected to ourselves.

So today I wanted to share a little bit about sex from behind the scenes of an article I read of a director of Pörn. So many people compare themselves to pörn or can even ruin their relationships because they do not live up to such experiences.  However pörn itself is not the problem. It is more about the way we use and relate and compare to it.

Just like the internet itself is not the problem, it is just that 90% of us use it to scroll social media and watch pörn rather than educate themselves or use it to create better advances in our life. Or also as a personal trainer I hear many people say this exercise is bad but exercise itself is not the problem. It is more about how we use it or if it hurts we can also choose either just not to do this one but do another or learn a new way to do it and more skills we may need to be able to do it safely in our bodies.

So here is a few interesting details about pörn:

The problems start when viewers forget that these are fantasies and lose perspective. They have insecurities about themselves and their own sexual abilities. They start thinking things like, ‘I wish my penis was that big! I wish my girlfriend would do that! I wish I could be that....Well guess what?

The pörn you see on your computer or TV screens aren’t an accurate reflection of what happens in real life. I don’t just mean your life, I’m talking about the pörn actors creating all that impossible sex you’re watching. You’re only seeing a small fraction of what really went on.

For men who are worried they are not big enough because of Pörn and the Big Bratwursts that are seen. There are only a certain percentage of women who can actually handle and enjoy an abnormally large bratwurst. This director encounters situations like this constantly when I’m filming, and I see the signs when I watch others adult movies. That women are hurting and not enjoying it at all. So I edit those sections out. So again it is not necessarily big is always better.

Marathon sex - if lasting in the bedroom is an issue.

We have become accustomed to watching pörn studs pound away at their co-stars for anywhere from 20 to 60 minutes. What you don’t see is what happens before the cameras start rolling. Like the pill popping and penis injecting. In my experience, 95% of the male performers use some sort of erectile enhancement medication, and the ones who don’t are at the bottom of the totem pole. You only see the finished product, so you don’t see all the stopping and starting that happens during a shoot. The breaks to eat and drink, or catch their breath, or regain an erection, which could also mean popping another pill or sticking another needle into the base of the performer’s penis.

Änal - Many people enjoy änal sex and they get upset when their partners do not do it.  In these movies sex in pörn is designed to look spontaneous, but nothing could be further from the truth. Especially when it comes to änal sex. Before a scene, female performers have a lot of advance prep, from doing several enemas (you need to make sure that gigantic cock she's barely tolerating doesn't unleash a tsunami of fresh shit) to reducing or eliminating food consumption anywhere between 4 to 12 hours before their call time.  Because, well, there's nothing worse than shooting an änal scene with an actress who’s full of shit.

No sex drive--Some men complain about are partners having no sex drive and we see insatiable people in pörn movies the truth is.... Sure, there are female performers in it purely for the sex, but they are few and far between.

My experience tells me that the majority of women are in pörn for the money first, followed closely by the adulation, then the freedom, and then the sex.

Some of them don’t enjoy any of the sex. Some of them are strictly heterosexual and don’t enjoy other girls. Some are lesbians and don’t enjoy sex with guys. Some of them find many of the people they are asked to have sex with unattractive. But they do it anyway, and they do it well. They have learned to fake it. Directors ultimately don’t care as long as the performer has the ability to “act” as if she’s enjoying everything she’s doing, which the successful ones do.

Female Ejaculation - So many wonder about this. Female Ejaculation. There’s some debate about whether female ejaculation is even possible. (Go here to find out More Than You Ever Wanted to Know about Female Ejaculation.) But I can tell you that when it comes to squirting in pörn movies, what you see isn’t always what you get. For every genuine “squirting” scene, there are many, many instances where the girl is actually urinating, or we take a break from filming so the actress can fill her vagina with water using a turkey baster. Yep, that actually happens.

So here is a few things to consider about pörn next time you watch and maybe feel like you sex life or you aren't living up to it. Do not get carried away with linking it to your personal life and feeling it does not live up to those movies. Sure you can watch pörn it has been known to help us get turned on however please make sure you remember just like so much of life not everything is as it seems and comparison is the theft of joy.

The person interviewed here was Adam Glasser (aka Seymore Butts) is a pörn actor and director with over 100 movies to his credit.