How Massage Can Change Your Sex Life

Massage is an art form that has been around forever and has been used to treat all sorts of ailments. Massage has that kind of staying power because it’s super effective. There isn’t much that will help you reach deeper relaxation, increase your mindfulness, and help you feel as embodied as massage will. 

Yet, most people think that massage is something that you should reserve only for special occasions. Maybe you get a massage on your birthday each year or plan a spa day while on vacation. But getting a really good massage has so many benefits that can improve your quality of life, one of which is that it can transform your sex life. And no, it doesn’t have to be an erotic massage. Even a good old-fashioned back rub or foot massage can amp up your and your partner’s levels of arousal. Let’s talk about how. 

Massage Improves Connection

Getting a massage takes a little bit of trust. You’re allowing your partner access to your skin, and you’re hoping that the experience will be calming. They are trusting you to give them feedback about what you need throughout the experience, whether that’s adding more pressure, avoiding a certain area that’s injured or uncomfortable, or taking a bathroom break. From the start, you’ll both need to communicate with each other about what feels good. Spoiler alert: this skill is something you’ll need in order to have good sex, too. If you can get good at communication during a massage, you can use that ability during sex to help them find the right spot. 

The physical act of massage can strengthen your relationship bond as well. When babies are first born, doctors always let parents know that they need lots of skin-to-skin contact. The idea is that it enhances brain development and confidence by signaling a strong bond with the parents. But the truth is that adults need skin-to-skin contact as well for both their physical and mental health. Without it, they develop something called skin hunger, where your overall health suffers because you’re not getting enough of those feel-good chemicals like oxytocin from hugs and caresses. A massage helps you reconnect on the tactile level with your partner and can help keep skin hunger at bay. 

It Seriously Ups Your Relaxation

Massage can help you relax, which can improve your sex life in so many ways. For people who don’t live with anxiety, relaxing during sex may seem like a breeze. But for others, it is a nearly impossible task. Some people have performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction (which is sometimes anxiety-related), body image issues, or other complications that keep them from experiencing full arousal during sex. If your to-do list pops into your head as soon as things take a turn for the erotic, it might be due to stress.

Massage effectively counteracts stress. There are so many studies that verify this that it’s a rather well-documented fact, and even health professionals recommend it as a way to relax. But the benefits go beyond relaxation: massage helps you reduce stress, increase energy and alertness, and lower your heart rate and blood pressure. 

These health advantages bleed over into your sexual health, as well. If you can feel better inside your body, it’s much easier to focus on your body during sex. Concentrating on the sensations you’re feeling is a part of mindfulness, and when you’re mindful during sex, you can have better orgasms—and an easier time reaching them. That’s because you’re not having an orgasm despite the chaos going on inside your mind. Instead, you’re clearing out the turmoil and replacing it with relaxation, and your mind is then freed up to focus on the erotic sensations your body is feeling. This heightens arousal in the most amazing way. 

Massage Can Also Improve Your Senses

We know about the five senses: taste, touch, hearing, smell, and sight. But we have many more lesser-known senses than that massage can boost. One of these is body awareness, also known as proprioception. 

Body awareness is the ability that allows you to understand where you are in space even with your eyes closed. It’s the reason you can clap your hands or unbutton your shirt without having to look to see where your hands are. And it helps you move more gracefully and without inhibition. Without it, you feel a bit clumsier and may bump into people accidentally. 

With better body awareness, you can be better in bed. Not only will you have better control over all your parts, no matter how complicated of a sex position you’re in, but you’ll also be better able to touch the parts your partner wants to have touched—and avoid the spots that cause pain or irritation.

In the Mood for a Massage?

I’m a skilled massage therapist, and I’d love to give you a massage. I can also guide you through techniques that will help you become a better massager, too! Contact me at AliceLittle@TheAliceLittle.com. I always personally respond to my emails.