Patreon, R&P Q&A #229
Added 2023-07-26 21:52:33 +0000 UTCPatreon, R&P Q&A #229
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In my view, panic attacks are caused by anxiety, which is typically caused by a stressor, typically a single thing. It's not caused by schedules. It's probably caused by your lack of income. I meditate and I have found that practice to be useful for identifying the actual things that bring me stress. Your ego might tell you situation A is causing you stress, but in reality it's situation B. Meditation is a great way of finding out what that is. It takes a lot of work to get yourself there though and it's not going to happen anytime soon. But in any case, meditation is good for stress so it will help. I've had some crazy stresses in the last 10 years, stuff I haven't talked about here. I had a few panic attacks. I just observed it the way you learn in meditation, accepted it and then let it pass.
Dave
2023-07-28 18:57:01 +0000 UTCField Report. Real quick. Experienced some panic attack episodes earlier in the month. First summer I didn’t work. Middle school teacher. Do you think it’s possible that not having a schedule has something to do with this.??? Workout 3 days a week and walk 10 k off days. I’ll send out more elaborate field report next week.
Stone McKinley
2023-07-27 19:19:37 +0000 UTCField Report #3 Mostly calm on the home front through the weekend. Decided to deploy a strategy of manufactured outrage and observe what would happen, how long it would last, ultimate outcome, and what lessons to take away. My sleep schedule is generally 9pm-5am and 3 days a week the wife gets up at 4:30am to go to the gym. We woke up in unison on Monday and both headed into the bathroom to pee. I got there first, so she started nagging me about how she needed to go. I was tired & edgy, so just looked at her and said: “Next time you nag me like that at 4:30am I’m going to drop kick you through that window.” In hindsight, shoulda gone with a version of cocky funny / amusement. Maybe something like “oooh, that's hot, go squat on the sink so I can watch!” Anyway, she latched onto this opportunity to be pissed like a dog to a bone. I just laughed. After the gym she was still fuming (somehow) and clearly wanted to get me to engage with explanation, rationalizing, debating, and the standard bag of behaviors I would have used before beginning my MAP. Demanded I apologize...I laughed (not just as a tool for responding, but because it was legit funny to me) and ended up ignoring her moodiness and stomping around. When she left the next day I get a text: “Yesterday morning started with you yelling at me and threatening me and this morning started with ignoring me. This has to stop. I won’t put up with it.” Never addressed the text and all is fine now. Haven't tried to smash, but I wouldn't be denied. The whole thing has blown over and she's back to being pleasant. I'm consistently amazed with the fact that NOTHING matters. She's just a bundle of emotions ready to be unleashed and I'm just here to watch. Taking complete control / ownership of my lack of DEER'ing is actually becoming fun now. Two observations from this small attempt at manufactured outrage: 1) I need to find a way to come across as lighter when I communicate. I’ve noticed this at work as well. Particularly when I’m doing public speaking to the company. I've gone back and watched and I come across as more stern and serious than I'd like. This isn’t my normal disposition. I’m usually jovial and crack jokes, but the corporate setting has a strange influence where I clam up and need to be "on". It doesn't translate they way I'd like yet. Any tips on how to present more easy going in my day-to-day interactions and under the pressure of public speaking opportunities? 2) During the 24-36 hours the wife was reacting to my comment and making a big stink, I found myself kind of hating her (just a little as you say). Frustrated with why she has to be so annoying and isn’t fun anymore. Given #1 above, it’s likely my fault. She’s reacting to how I am coming across and matching that temperament. Which makes solving #1 even more important for not enjoying being around her. Side note: I've gone back and bookmarked every previous episode and have been working through the Patreon back catalog. Impressive to see how much you've progressed with production quality, tweaking the cameras, lighting, approach, content. It's been fun to see the improvements.
RUIN
2023-07-27 18:29:12 +0000 UTC
