The birth of the warrior is like the first growth of the reindeer’s horns. At first, the horns are very soft and almost rubbery. . . . When a reindeer first grows its horns, it doesn’t know what to use them for. It must feel very awkward to have those soft lumpy growths on your head. But then the reindeer begins to realize that it should have horns: that horns are a natural part of being a reindeer. In the same way, when the human being first gives birth to the tender heart of warriorship, he or she may feel extremely awkward or uncertain about how to relate to this kind of fearlessness. But then, as you experience this sadness more and more, you realize that human beings should be tender and open. So you no longer need to feel shy or embarrassed about being gentle. In fact, your softness begins to become passionate. You would like to extend yourself to others and communicate with them. When tenderness evolves in that direction, then you. . . cannot help opening yourself to what takes place all around you.
CHOGYAM TRUNGPA RINPOCHE