Bedtime nursing…

Feeding a newborn versus extended feeding of an older child is very different. It is far easier to breast-feed an older child. The fear of the delicate neck and small tiny newborn so fragile we hold when they are born almost fearing of accidentally breaking them with one small wrong move til they gain their strength and we finally pass the danger zone at the 18month mark where we can relax a bit more and not fear their precious sleep time as much. I hope I don’t have to spell it out. It was one of my biggest fears, raising two newborns. (my apologies I had of time for any run-on sentences or lack of punctuation due to ADHD)

Of course once we were out of the woods, we knew that we as mothers did a great job and we were careful with our newborns so that they safely journeyed into toddlerhood.

Once toddler hood hits, a lot of the fun begins. From their very first steps to their first sentences there a little milestones that are just adorable for us to experience as they grow.

Kids love to be silly and play and have fun. During our nighttime routine, we read a book, my daughter occasionally nurses, and it gets her into a sense of well-being and comfort where she can easily fall asleep.

When she falls asleep at the breast, I always make sure to wake her a little bit so we can brush her teeth and get all of the milk sugar’s off of her little teeth to prevent decay.

We are fully against fluoride. My older daughter, who is now seven has a lot of cavities. I used only fluoride toothpaste with her until I realized the dangers of it, and how it can actually cause cavities believe that or not. This made me dive into an educational journey about toothpaste and toothbrushes, healing cavities and the dreaded dental scams $$$ of dentists at times etc..

My second child never used fluoride and has not had one cavity. She is now five. We instead use nano-hydroxyapatite which can actually restore tooth enamel and prevent cavities. Autobrush for kids bubblegum foam is their favorite.

She still breast-feeds, usually at night, sometimes in the rising or during the day when she’s feeling sick.

These adorable pictures are of us having fun together before going to sleep as you can see she fell asleep comfortably in Mommy’s arms on the last picture.

Kids need the closeness of their parents to cuddle time, the book reading, the tucking in, singing kiss on the forehead etc so they feel comfortable and happy when they go to sleep.

I wrote a beautiful lullaby, called Flutterbye before my children were born, knowing that I was determined to be a mom and I couldn’t wait to sing this song to them every evening before they went to sleep. I was lucky enough to have two beautiful girls that I get the pleasure of singing this original song to every night as they drift off into a peaceful, happy sleep.

We have never had issues with nightmares or night terrors as mommy has always been close filled with happiness and love for my beautiful girls.

The lyrics to the song are as follows. I will share the song at a later date, unless you’ve already heard it in one of my YouTube videos. Here’s my original song lyrics:

“Angel butterflies twinkling in your eyes

Little Sandmen coming in disguise

The sun is setting for the day

Flutterbye as you drift away

let all your fears fade away

I’ll be here for you when you wake.

Fairies dancing in your dreams.

Another realm so real it seems.

Reach above nothing is too far

catch a dream ride a shooting star

Gentle slumber, hold you close,

Flutterbye you are loved the most

Your dreams can take you anywhere

just close your eyes. I’ll meet you there.

Close your eyes Flutterbye

Good night little Flutterbye I love you

Jai-

Then I wish them sweet dreams kiss them on the fore head, and off they go into dreamland. Their precious little sleeping faces make me smile 😊

I have, and will always treasure every single moment, while they are little. They do grow far too fast, and in the blink of an eye, they seem to be so grown-up.

A little five and seven-year-old acting like they’re teenagers already with their funny little attitudes big emotions and their cuteness. I am forever, grateful that I am raising two compassionate and empathetic kind human beings.

They are the sweetest little girls, and I am so lucky to be their mom.

Happy to report my five-year-old got straight A’s, and excellent citizenship on her report card!

My seven year old got A’s and B’s but due to some ADHD symptoms she’s working on her citizenship.

She’s just like her mommy and likes to talk a lot and make new friends.

I am so proud of them both.

Don’t forget to hug your child and tell them how much you love them every day! I promise you they will remember how much they were loved when they were little as they grow.

We tend to remember a lot of the bad things, and some of us have childhood trauma so it is up to us to create a safe space for our children, and raise them without any childhood trauma so that they can grow up to be the wonderful adults that they will become to change the world for the better for all of us.

I remind my children that my love for them is unconditional, and that no matter what, no temper tantrum no bad behavior, no misunderstanding could ever ever take my love away from them.

that I love them no matter what and I have been lucky to have such a close bond with my girls.

They are amazing and smart and my heart just melts every time I think of them.

Now that they are in school I miss them so much during the day but it has been a lot easier to get the house chores shopping and errands done so when they come home I can be super mom for them.

Unconditional love will help us change the world. Everyone needs unconditional love especially our children so when you’re feeling frustrated, mommies or parents when you’re feeling angry when you’re feeling overwhelmed, if your child is acting up or acting out just remember their prefrontal cortex is not fully developed yet.

This means that their little brains don’t know how to master impulse control or their emotions yet so when they have all these big emotions just remind them that you are there for them and that you love them unconditionally and when they’re ready that you will be there for them.

They don’t need spankings they don’t need yelling they don’t need harsh punishments. They just need understanding and love and patience. (We use consequences like losing some of their screen time or adding extra chores)

If this advice got to even one of you beautiful people today than I did my job here on this earth. I am here to teach love, to teach unconditional love, to teach kindness, compassion, and empathy.

I’m here to teach how to make this world a better place for all of us in it. Eradicating war and hate and hoping for peace, love and understanding.

May you all have a beautiful, wonderful, amazing day, and don’t forget you are the person that can most influence the lives of your children to become the best humans they can be. Lead with love always and peace be with you my friend.

TFM 💖🥰