THE LOVE DOCTOR IS HERE 💘
Added 2026-02-08 03:22:30 +0000 UTCComments
Hey Wish its been a while since Ive interacted with one of these I hope your doing amazing. I have a story and asking for advice/WWWD in my situation. So this might sound embarrassing but I havent been a relationship in 8 years, and I havent even been on a single date with a girl since either. The girl that I dated was a close friend I knew for years in HS and we ended up dating by our senior year (2017). We ended up breaking up after a little less than a year and Ill admit that I was mainly to blame bc I wasnt the best boyfriend but after about a year later we reconnect and she says that she's been going through a lot and was depressed bc she was dating someone who eventually cheated on her so I showed compassion and we ended up being close friends again. At this point I still had feelings for her and she knew it, but she always said she didnt want to ruin our friendship. Looking back at this I should've stopped trying with her and moved on but it wasn't easy. She dated other people in that timespan while I stayed single just doing my thing in college. Just a sidenote during this time (2019) she was going through a heavy toxic phase where she would date/kiss a lot of people and purposefully cheat on them and would drink a lot and smoke weed and vapes(I didnt know this at the time). Another sidenote she made this a bad habit yo this day and would smoke in front of me when we would hang out in my hood she knew that I dont do that stuff and that I have people who look up to me (Im a 🏀 coach/trainer) so I dont want to be associated with that. What gave me hope that we could possibly get back together is that when we always talked and hung out she would say that she admired that I was dialed into my basketball career and that I always was there for her. We also never unfollowed each other on social media to this day. One time during COVID she texts me and says that she loves me and is gonna see me soon with a heart emoji and I respond to flirt with her and she does it back. We end up hanging out and she eventually confesses that she missed when we were dating and wanted to get back together. I was totally down for it and we start flirting through text and using heart. Eventually she started to lose interest and said she needed more and wasn't interested anymore. She only reached out to me after bc I just graduated college and felt guilty (at least thats what it looked like). We made up again and she was still giving signs. I remember I posted another girl bc it was her birthday (I remember I put a caption saying Happy Birthday to a special Queen which I do for a lot of my homegirls) and she sent me snaps saying that I was trying to make her jealous and that she makes out with other people and would say that she loved them to try to get me jealous, I just looked at it and at her weird. Eventually she wanted to see me again to explain and I told her the girl I posted was a friend I knew and wasn't someone I was dating. I then asked her why she got jealous if she said multiple times she doesnt want to get back together, she responded with that she still loved me in a way so then I asked if she wanted to be in a relationship again. Surprise: she said no and wanted to stay friends (P.S. to Wish and all those reading this Im sorry my dumbass didnt know any better😭). So I go about doing my thing and I shouldve just left her and the idea alone; however, she wanted to hang out again and she was saying how she missed how things used to be; I left it at that. A couple of months later she tells me she has a boyfriend and says he doesnt feel comfortable us hanging out anymore, which I admit hurt bc she was still my close friend which I still had some feelings for. A couple more months goes by and she hits me up on my birthday and we end up having a argument bc I'm like why tf you hitting me up now after all this bs. We eventually come to terms and are cool but then she ghosts me for like 4 years which again did hurt bc I would see her and her bf take trips on her social medias, but I got to a point where I was like forget it all Imma just do me. Funny thing is I was with my people ballin at a park in my town one day and I get a message from her. It was a photo of me in the distance; now I though I noticed her staring at me in the distance but I didnt believe it was her. I didnt acknowledge her either way bc thats some stalker shit and if she wanted to say something in person she would've. A couple years go by and just like clockwork on my birthday she wishes me a happy birthday and apologizes for disappearing. She explained that her bf forced her to stop talking to me and that I was the root of alll their arguments bc she didnt want to do that. She described their relationship in a toxic way and said that they lived together and she regretted doing that. She was asking me questions about my dating life, which I was single this whole time like I explained but I lied to her bc she didnt need to know. Honestly through those years I would doubt myself a lot and still do bc of my dating inexperience and seeing friends and people I know date for years and get married while I still couldnt get over the hump of talking to a girl. I feel like bc of that whole experience I lost all my confidence in finding a gf and also bc of social media and seeing people that were in relationships for years experiencing it all while I was single the whole time. I tried dating apps but it didnt feel geniune and right to me. I feel stuck and feel like Im not gonna find one bc of my inexperience and the fact I invested so much into her alone. I would like to know your thoughts on this whole situation and what next steps I should take. Thank you for reading this whole prompt and I hope all your wishes come true pun intended
Jason Rodriguez
2026-02-09 18:26:54 +0000 UTCHello Wish, fingers crossed you’re having a pleasant week! I LOVE these interactive posts & I’m so excited to hear everyone’s comments + your answers! I was going to add more about my friend/worker watching me pee through her car window(FYI we’re close friends btw) but I changed my mind last minute. Instead, it’s about this: my ex & I broke up in Aug. 2024 , initially it was mutual & all good. We’d still act all romantic/flirt but after a couple months things changed. She dates one of her friends friends who she hated initially. Things go downhill & she unadds me on socials before Thanksgiving. Fast forward Dec. 2025 after one year + of no contact in any way shape or form she requests to follow me back on IG. I accepted after sleeping on it. Haven’t messaged her since & she hasn’t messaged me either. I know they broke up through social snooping. We knew each other for 4 years, 2 as friends and 2 dating. WWWD???
Tacitus_Kilgore
2026-02-09 04:48:17 +0000 UTCHey Wish, hope your well! I've got a couple situations I'd love your take on, one's pretty general, the other more personal. Firstly, I'm finally starting to feel more confident and want to start dating again but I don't know where to start, I'm not a particularly sociable person for the most part but am more than willing to put myself out there, I've thought about dating apps though I'm still unsure, but other than that I don't know what else to do. The second and slightly more personal question is about when the right time is to tell someone your dating about health complications, I have multiple chronic health conditions and it feels both wrong to hide but also to dump on someone to soon. Although I've learnt to live with it I also appreciate that some people don't want that baggage. So, when do you think I should tell them. Finally, thank you for such incredible audios, keep up the amazing work :)
SadBoyHours
2026-02-09 00:07:54 +0000 UTCI'm very wordy, sorry about that lol
Demonpanther290
2026-02-08 14:24:22 +0000 UTCFine I'll bite, I have a college dating horror story. This girl and I were going to stop at a local art store for her to pick up drawing supplies, and then get food from one of the restaurants in town. It was a college town in the upper peninsula of Michigan so the recent snow fall and cold had killed my car battery, thus we ended up just watching movies and cuddling in my dorm room. After a couple of hours my roommate gets home from class with his friend Chris and the four of us end up chatting in the main part of the room (beds were in separate rooms and the little main area had sinks and closets and stuff). As we are all chatting me being closest to the hallway door, hears a women say "please help me!" in a somewhat muffled voice. I look out the peephole and see a man dragging this girl by her arm, so without thinking I open the door and ask if she's ok. She turns around and has clearly been hit by this guy a few times, she was crying, bruised, and bleeding from her face. Opening the door must have shocked him enough that she gets out of his grasp and darts into my room where I have the girl I was with try to comfort her. The guy sees only me at the door and comes charging over saying I need to mind my business, but stops in the doorway when he sees the two other guys in the room. He then starts trying to say that it's a misunderstanding and she just fell cause she was drunk (she was intoxicated but wasn't stumbling around like that) and he was just trying to take care of his girl. I tell my roommate to go get the RA (person in charge of running our dorm floor), the drunk girl runs out of my room and of course the guy tries to give chase. At this point I was pissed cause I don't stand for that shit. I grab the guy by his shirt and start to escort him down the hallway to the RA's room. Part of the way down the hall he tries to choke me so I slammed him into the wall (left a dent in it too) and said I would beat him if he tried that shit again while cocking my fist back. At this point the RA and my roommate had rounded the hallway corner and were approaching so, like the cockroach he is, he tries to make it seem like I had snapped and just attacked him randomly. He was escorted by the RA to a separate room and I was asked to go back to my room and wait to talk with campus PD. As I walked back to my room I saw everyone opening their doors and peaking their heads out, which kind of irritated me cause no one offered help but sure were interested in watching. It took about 2 and a half hours for everything to get taken care of and the poor girl I was on a date with had a 6am class the next day. I felt bad and apologized for putting her in a situation where she was forced to stay much later than we both planned with her having to get up early, but she told me I was being silly and she would have been pissed if I did nothing, and I have to agree with her. To give a quick story end, the drunk girl ended up running to the front mail desk, was found and treated by campus PD. The guy had slipped a threatening note under my door a week later but I added that to the growing file that ended up getting him kicked from the wrestling program and later on expelled. Me and the girl I was on a date with ended up in a sort of weird relationship state where their was feelings but it was so close to the end of the year that neither of us really acted on anything (I was out of state for college so it would have been difficult). I never ended up going to that college again and I believe if I had me and her would be in a relationship right now, it truly remains one of my deepest regrets to this day, as I don't think I'll ever find anyone at this point in life.
Demonpanther290
2026-02-08 14:22:03 +0000 UTCPart 4 and final part: I continued my weekly school visits to see her but little did I know this was only making things worse, the final day I visited her it was a late afternoon she was waiting for her BF Jose to come out his 7th period class at school I sat with her and she didn't look good she was sick, after having some small talk jasmine told me I need to stop visiting as he is getting mad at her, the moment she said it immediately clicked in my head that Jose her BF was getting mad at her for my visits as much as I wanted to say something to this prick I didn't for it would made things worse, and rather than continuing to wait for him she ended up walking out feeling light headed, I walked her out the school gate I had to go one way she had to go the other, she looked at me one last time and went home she messaged me saying hey I'm sorry all this had to happen, tho you cant visit me anymore we can still text but even that wasn't true as that was the last text I got from her, she then kinda goes off the radar and disappeared only being active on Instagram, I was beyond heartbroken yet again that she was gone just like that, after everything I did for her and that heart necklace to make up for it all was all for nothing, a few months later a friend would show me pictures of her pregnant with jose being the dad, i was beyond destroyed I gave the necklace to a friend with me saying I have no use for this anymore i said crying, after learning she was pregnant jasmine then completely disappeared off social medias and apparently another friend told me I wasn't the only person she had to throw away, so telling me Jose probably told her abandoned certain people even me, probably seeing me as a threat, alot of friends came to help and apologized for it all saying it's bullshit she chose to go with an asshole like him then with a genuine friend who had strong feelings for her, last I heard about jasmine a friend told me she moved to Arizona I don't know if that's true or not but if it is whatever, years later I still remember this and I'm completely over tho it remains in my mind as one of the darkest moments in my life I lost my best friend and possible lover as if things continued to go smooth and that misunderstanding didn't happen jasmine would have been mt very first GF but that's all in the past now, well thats that and sorry if this was to long wish but I hope you had a good time reading it even tho this was a sad story love to hear your opinion about all this and again sorry if was crazy long thanks for bearing with me on this story much love to you as always wish❤️
Mika Shimada
2026-02-08 10:23:46 +0000 UTCPart 3: my weekly visits to go see her were only making things worse as now her friends started spreading rumors that I was stalking her which wasn't the case, and there was a moment I noticed this guy hovering around her named Jose who was part of the school baseball team a friend even told me and showed me a Facebook post saying hey you have some competition as he showed me a post from jasmine saying she took a liking to this guy and soon discovered they were dating I was once again defeated, 2 weeks would pass and I would hear that jasmine and Jose broke up, which made me relived as I could try again, I was told that Jose cheated on her and treated her like shit, me and small group of friends were hanging out at the park which jasmine was there, I immediately saw the sadness in her eyes I wanted to go comfort her but I was afraid nervous about making her uncomfortable or what she might say, she ended up walking home alone I tried to text her to check up on her but never replied, a week passes and i hear jasmine and Jose got back together which I was shocked to hear, apparently he apologized to her and she easily forgave him despite what he's done cheating and being a jerk to her where as my misunderstanding was still in the air, despite this happening I still had hope and tried my hardest to fix things and hoping things would get better but in the end that was just me liking to myself which I'll explain in part 4 the final bit.
Mika Shimada
2026-02-08 10:03:05 +0000 UTCPart 2: junior year was over and I was in my senior year me and Jasmine were still besties but that wouldn't last long, it was the end of a school day and me and some friends and Jasmine hung out after school having some fun and laughs, jasmine then headed home so I walked her out the gate and she walked the rest on her own, after like am hour I texted her asking if she made it home safely which she did, well I was texting her I was also texting my cousin and I texted Jasmine calling her arrogant by complete accident which that was meant for my cousin, I wasn't paying attention to who I was texting and when I realized that I panicked and told her it was a misunderstanding but she was already angered and annoyed by it, I was scared after that and tried to text her but she wouldn't reply, the next day I wanted to apologize but was to nervous on what she would say so I asked my friend if her could go talk to her, after a few minutes all he said was let's go get some food, at that moment I already knew she was gone I was depressed and bursted into tears as he said she didn't want anything to due with me and what hurt the most was he said she was thinking about giving me a chance, which after my friend saying that I just wanted to die and by hearing that she was probably considering on dating me, I was depressed nearly my entire senior year, after that day me and Jasmine didn't talk for months, my senior was coming to an end as there was only 2 weeks left, and we were on lunch break I finally got the courage walked up to jasmine and apologized for everything she for gave me luckily, but even after that apology things didn't get better the end of highschool came I graduated well she entered her softmore year I tried my hardest to make things right with her and repair what was damaged, since I was a graduate i would visit the school at least once a week to go see her and even went and bought her a 100 dollar silver heart necklace hoping that would make things right and was a sign i was still in love with her, but i held on to it to wait for a right moment which never came asi Will explain in part 3.
Mika Shimada
2026-02-08 09:47:08 +0000 UTCPart 1: this all took place during my junior year In highschool, 11th grade was coming to an end and I was moving to my senior year, me and all my friends were happy we only had 1 year left of school then graduation, there was this girl in our group named Jasmine who I had a crush on, I met her that same year early in my junior year, I was introduced by another friend, we immediately kicked it off and soon became best friends but over time I started to have feelings for her, everything about her was perfect, she had a great personality, really funny, and just amazing all around, moving back to the present I was on my final few weeks of my junior year in my JROTC class (junior reserve officers training corps) my Sargent major asked me if I was gonna go to the JCLC (junior cadet leadership challenge which is playing sports and competing against other schools) at first I said no, but then as the bell rang I was walking out my class and bumped into jasmine who was also in the JROTC club, she then asked me if I was gonna go the JCLC at first again I said now but she told me you should and convinced me, so I asked for a permission slip and decided to go, Saturday morning November 22nd 2014 I arrived waiting for Jasmine she arrived a little later, we soon got in the bus to head to The location where will be competing which was at another school, when we arrived I was kinda on my own for a short time, but later that day jasmine came up to me and this where it kicks off she was all over me, from cuddling to hugging me 24/7, pressing her cheek against mine and even sitting on my lap, my face turned red every time she did this after a long afternoon of hugging and cuddling and lap sitting it was time to go home, we board the bus to leave and we sat next to each other, as the bus left she told me she was tired looked into my eyes and rested her head on my shoulder and fell asleep I played it smooth and wrapped my arm around her as she did, another class mate tapped my shoulder and asked if we're dating which I said no, we arrived back at the school she woke up and hugged me goodbye, I got home and after everything that happened that day, I had to confess so I texted her saying I have a crush on you and that I'm in love with you, she replied saying I appreciate it I only see you as a friend I like you but in that kind of way, I wasn't hurt by it and we stayed best friends but months later is where it all started to fall apart (end of part 1 sad part is in part 2)
Mika Shimada
2026-02-08 09:09:26 +0000 UTCI'm really not trying to make the happy times and mood change, but I personally REALLY DISLIKE Valentines day because I always feel so left out... Got any advice for someone who feels like a jinx, and every time he gets with someone, one of three scenarios happens?... I think I've struck out 10+ times now... Cheated on, lied to, and used, mental abuse, taken advantage of, and I feel like it's always on me.... I really don't wanna believe in love anymore... kind of cruel... I know, but... whatevs :p Hope everyone has an amazing month, week, day, and everything else. Those who celebrate w/ a special someone or friends make them feel like the world revolves around them, make them feel like the most special person in the world, and feel deserved... I know what it's like to be on the other side... It's not fun. Happy Valentines day to those who celebrate it. You all are awesome! :)
AirStarJones
2026-02-08 05:32:07 +0000 UTCHot take: you DO have the right to judge others on whether you would date them or not. I'll elaborate - you should judge them fairly AND not diminish their value as a person. I'm gonna give some tough examples people may feel on the fence about or get outright defensive UNLESS you make it clear on why it's fair for both you and them. For example, you could say you wouldn't date someone you're not physically attracted to. Attraction, from what I've learned, isn't a moral choice - it's a natural impulse. Pretending otherwise means you won't just be unfair and dishonest to yourself; you'll also be those things to the person you're not attracted to. No one is owed romantic attraction. Another example could be that you would not date someone who engages in sex work. Forget morals - it's a fair judgement when thinking about personal boundaries. Everyone draws lines based on exclusivity, privacy, and emotional security - sex work touches all those things and maybe you're very uncomfortable at the idea. That's self-awareness, not prejudice, as some may worry. Expressing these respects your emotional limits AND their autonomy and career choices. To summarize, you have the right to judge on who you would rather date. Just don't be a prick about it.
Xeno250
2026-02-08 04:55:26 +0000 UTC
