Frequently Asked Questions

Are you, or do you ever plan to go Full Time?

The longest I’ve ever stayed enfemm is 6 days. I have no intentions of ever going full time at all. To do that I would have to give up 99% of the things I enjoy in life. Even if I didn’t have to give up all that stuff I wouldn’t do it. Looking and acting feminine is fun but it’s just too much work to do all the time.

Who Takes Your Pictures?

I almost always take them myself using the timer function on my camera. The few times that I’ve gone to functions that had other cross-dressers present we’d swap cameras often and take photos of each other. My wife is starting to participate more often but usually prefers to see me as her husband.

Where do you get your Clothes?

My wife and I like to spend time together browsing the second-hand, thrift stores. That way we can each partake of our love of ladies' fashions without spending a ton. Usually we do so as husband and wife and I will sometimes bring women's clothes into the men's changing room to try them on.

Where do you keep you girl clothes?

I used to have a few boxes under the bed and a few more on a shelf in the closet. I always figured the kids would eventually find them as the were snooping for Christmas presents or something but the never found them or the didn't realize what they were looking at. Once my oldest daughter moved out we turned her bedroom into a closet for my wife and I keep my stuff in the walk-in closet we used to share.

Do you Share clothes with you Wife?

Sometimes. She lets me try on most of her things if I want to and she’s borrowed things from me a few times but I’ve accumulated enough clothing in my female wardrobe that I don’t really need to go into her stuff.

Where do you get your Wigs?

I've gotten a couple online but the ones that I wear most I bought at local wig stores. I felt awkward going in the first couple of times but decided to just suck it up and go for it. Once the ice is broken it has been really good experiences. It's really difficult to chose a wig without trying a few on. I was a fan of Raquel Welch wigs but and trying new brands.

What is the Make and Model of your wigs?

My favorites have been lace fronts by Jon Renau and Raquel Welch. I think the Jon Renau is called Miranda but a lot of them look similar. The longer RW wig is Spotlight, if I recall and the shoulder length one is probably Goddess. Since I usually buy them in the stores and not on-line I often don't ever learn the names.

What brand Make-up, Nylons, etc do you use?

I probably should pay more attention to brands but I usually don't. I don't buy top of the line or the cheapest stuff but I usually buy whatever is on sale in the middle of the pricing range. The shiny tights I have been wearing lately are Wolfords. My favorite eye-shadow is Bare Minerals. I often use L'Oreal or Maybeline foundation, Covergirl blush, L'Oreal contour but like to try different products for everything else.

What is your Height, Size, etc?

I'm 5-7, about 145lbs. I wear size 10 bottoms but need a size 14 for a dress if it doesn’t have much stretch.

Shoe size is usually 9.5. That falls just inside the upper normal size for women so shoes that size is usually stocked but it’s not one of the more common sizes so I can frequently find my sizes in the clearance sections.

Do you get Hit on in Public?

I’ve only been hit on a few times. Equally by men and women. I actually have met more women dressed as one than I ever did when I was single and went out in guy mode. Honestly, I don't think I give off the "available" vibe. When I am out in public I'm just there to have fun and I think that is evident.

Will you meet or date me?

No. I am happily married and not interested in anything like that. When in guy mode I don't consider dating other women and when in girl mode don't consider dating men.

How do I meet CD friends?

I first met other Cd's at conventions. There are many throughout the country and at different times of the year.

You seem to be dressing more. Are you advancing your femm side?

I still only dress a couple of times a month. It looks like more because I make the most of the time I do dress and take lots of photos in various settings and outfits and post them piecemeal over time. It kind of makes the time between opportunities to dress more enjoyable.

I Admire your relationship with your Wife. Any suggestions?

All people and situations are different so I can’t really give advice on how to get your wife to be accepting. All I can say is to treat her like a goddess and maybe she’ll overlook your strange hobby. And if not at least she'll have a caring husband that is the envy of other wives.

If possible, make sure she knows about you as early in the relationship as you can.

Besides your wife who knows about your hobby?

Very few people. I don’t fear people finding out but there’s no need to advertise it either. My sister caught me once when I was a teen but I was able to talk my way out of it being an issue. My daughter must have seen me once when she was little because she “joked” about daddy wearing a dress but her details were right on. Luckily, she’s kind of a joker and no one really took her seriously. I did come out to my kids recently and so far that has been a non-issue. My wife as told a few of her close girlfriends. Other than that there are just a few people that knew me first as Heidi that also know my true persona.