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Kaivalya Hariharan

This is interesting. Of course with #2 he's not the asshole for not wanting to help a guy catch a dog because he has to watch his kid, but saying "I already shoo'd the dog away" is kind of an asshole move. I don't think many people would disagree with this. On #3 I'm not sure, the kid obviously isn't dealing with it well and the parents aren't doing a great job at helping. But how is "we don't love each other anymore" fundamentally different from "we've both really changed a lot and don't want the same things". If the first isn't a satisfactory reason, how would de second be? The kid is being kind of an asshole about it, not in an unjustifiable or unforgivable way but yeah.

What I’m confused about is why everyone seems so absolutely certain that there MUST be some deeper, darker reason like cheating or secret lesbianism. It sounds like the parents are being completely open and communicative but the kid just doesn’t want to accept it. Why is it so hard to believe that two people can fall out of love? Demonstrates a real lack of understanding of how relationships actually work.

Christien

I don’t know, I think A) the parents are due privacy about their relationship B) there’s lots of good reasons not to say what happened because it could poison the relationship with one of the parents, and C) I don’t think the kid wants to know so much as they want to debate it with their parents in a vain attempt to reverse it. My evidence for the last is that the kid was, effectively, told the parents just fell out of love and refused to accept that answer. So her later statement that they could just tell her “we grew apart” and that would be good enough just flatly isn’t true.

Reade Bramer

I enjoyed this and would look forward to more

eaesthetic

i liked this format a lot!! and hard agree on the last one, i was already in college and living separately when my parents divorced and it still would have been infinitely harder to process if I didn't know what the actual cause was. And I think it's an interesting contrast to the first two, where the asshole behaviour was coming from fully grown adults. Sure, maybe the kid could have been a little more gentle, but "it's the child's responsibility to act maturely when their parents get divorced" is sort of a wild take, when they're clearly young enough to have a school counselor and be fully dependent on their parents. Not acting with enough "decorum" is something literally every teenager is guilty of, let alone one whose parents are getting divorced for reasons they refuse to explain lol

lettuce

I follow AITA too and the fatphobia is by far the worst part of the sub imo. It seems like all logic and compassion just flies out the window when a fat person is involved. There was a recent post where OP denied an overweight 9yo girl a second slice of pizza at a sleepover and the girl went to bed hungry. And though there was some debate, the sub basically agreed that letting a 9yo go hungry is fine as long as she's fat. "She's not your responsibility but might do her some good", they said. Fucking wild.

All-Natural Fig Jam

my disagreement with big joel on the 2nd one is just that big joel doesn't acknowledge the point that the guy is watching his kid and so therefore he cannot leave the kid to go catch the dog

I'm still sad that the bonus videos can't be going over that one toy story review.

Melody Williamson

All the OP said in that example was “no” repeatedly. And the person who lost their dog kept badgering them to help. If I’m kinda scared and surprised by something, I don’t think I’d be a jerk to just say “no” to a stranger’s request.

Alice

I think that's true in all three of these: it's not unreasonable to ask your sister to use different furniture if she's causing damage, or to refuse to help a stranger catch their dog, or to ask your parents to be more open with you about the circumstances of their divorce. But in all of these posts, it feels like the OP went out of their way to be a jerk about it.

Robert Phillips

Love it. Looking forward for the next one.

GallyGaxylly

Regarding the second one, redditors seem to have this thing where they're weirdly affronted at the idea of helping out a stranger.

helen sinning

his point specifically wasn't that the guy was an asshole for not helping though, it was that the guy could've just not helped without being kind of a dick about it

mo

I like it

I disagree on number 2. I got bit by a dog as a kid and have been a bit nervous around them since then. I think a lot of people might have similar issues, so you shouldn’t call someone an asshole if they won’t help catch a stranger’s dog.

Alice