Missing the stage

My last stage performance was in October. This photo was one of the last photos of the night. I brought my friend Tonio on stage for a group lap dance at the end of the night and it was magical chaos, ha!

There are many ways to give a lap dance and depending on where you are, it can be fun and exciting or not so much. Setting ourselves up for success is the name of the game at my shows. Generally I will select an audience member in advance. Sometimes it will be someone I know, sometimes not. Either way, I approach this person and ask them if they would like to receive a lap dance and sometimes they say yes. If they say yes, I tell them exactly what I need from them, I make it simple and direct. “I need you to sit up straight, hold my hips, as I balance on your lap. Please do not let go and do not surprise or upstage me, just be my perfect prop.” I tell them when my song starts and when I will approach them during the song.. Once I have their consent on everything I maintain intermittent eye contact with them through the show and routine. And it usually works out beautifully. But what if they say no? You ask someone else… just keep asking till you get a solid and excited yes. Some folks are shy and that’s ok. Remember that we are asking for consent and must respect their choice. Never pressure anyone into anything. That’s what things go wrong.

But what if things go wrong? If someone touches you inappropriately that’s what security guards are for. Always security and pay them enough to take their job seriously. The pay depends on the show, town, country, etc. if you are assaulted or touched inappropriately, that person gets kicked out immediately. No question. If someone disrespects you or your dancers verbally, we kick them out immediately. Honestly it’s incredibly rare. But if you are worried, just plant a friend in the audience and have them be your dance partner. That way you can have plenty of time to practice this stunt beforehand, which ever move you wanna make whichever chair dance you wanna do whichever lap dance you can have time to practice it together before. I always recommend doing this with somebody you know just because it’s more comfortable and more reliable, but some of us work clubs across the world where we don’t have friends in the audience all the time. Be aware of the customs where you are. In certain places, these type of moves will be highly inappropriate and other places that will be celebrated. It’s up to us as performers to know what the laws are where and why. Where do we need to respect the blue laws? What are the laws in each state province town or country? You don’t wanna find yourself in jail… Unless you want extra publicity. Then make sure you have somebody ready to bail you out. Remember safety first then teamwork! I’m sure you have questions, feel free to ask them now.❤️