Cuck Talk (#1: Intro)

You know what time it is? It’s stonedy bunny sharing cucky thoughts time. So saddle up, because I don’t know what’s gotten into me lately but my mind has been wandering to some cucky places.

Now it’s important to note that one of the reasons why I’m obsessed with cuck dynamics is because as a queer switchy mindfucker I find all of the angles to be extremely hot. I don’t use the term cuck in a derogatory sense, just as a practical term.

For those who need a refresher, cuck dynamics usually refer to a situation where someone is watching their partner get fucked by someone else. In a typical cuck dynamic you have the person who is watching (cuckold/cuckquean/stag), their partner (sometimes called a hotwife, ew, or vixen) and the person they fuck. Now the person they fuck is sometimes referred to as uncomfortable names like bull or buck, I personally like to use “special guest” or “my lovely assistant”. There is, however, one word that really sticks out; cuckcake. When I found out that word existed I was deep in a situation where I was being cucked, and the notion that not only did she get all my partners attention, she ALSO GOT THE CUTER NAME??? threw me for a loop. It’s complicated, isn’t it?

First things first, it’s hot watching your partner fuck. You get to see all of the things they do to you from a different angle, and you can appreciate their beauty in a new way. But for me, being cucked is often about masochism. It’s playing with touchy feelings, emotional sadism. It’s something I could only ever feel okay engaging with if I was super comfortable and stable in my relationship. It’s hot because we’re playing with things that are really sexy, but also kinda sting. It’s an extension of any kind of kink that plays with pain. Trusting someone to know the fine line between a hot button and a bad trigger is so intimate and savoury. Some people like being cucked because they like the degradation, or they take a dominant approach and enjoy demanding this scene for their entertainment. Some are voyeurs who like to watch their partner get spoiled, other’s (like me) long for the mental gymnastics of this specific kind of pain. There’s a romance in being known deeply enough to make this kind of pain feel good.

I discovered that I liked the cuck dynamic when I was experimenting with threesomes in my 20’s and noticed I kind of liked the parts where I was a bit left out. Those awkward moments when both the other participants were busy with each other and you’re “also there” stung, but they were also a sensory treat. Instead of being lost in my own sensations I could just take in the scene, their sounds, their smell, their body language. I liked it. Which confused me. Until I was on tumblr in my early 30’s and learned what these dynamics are about. Then I found a whole community of other cucky little weirdos who really liked that moment in a threesome when you’re on the bottom watching the other two fuck and getting kinda squished.

I also love being the partner who is getting fucked! It’s about showing off, and relishing in your pleasure. It’s a hedonistic role. I love the exhibitionism of it. I’m pleasing my partner while pleasing someone else, I’m making dreams come true, so many gold stars for an enthusiastic people pleaser. I also like the mental gymnastics of imagining both people’s point of view, trying to push both of their buttons at the same time. It’s a fun game, and I’m the centre of attention. Spoiled baby!

Lastly, I fucking LOVE being the cake! Or the *insert masculine animal comparative here*. There’s something bratty about being the cuckcake regardless of if I’m topping or bottoming. I’ve loved being “daddy’s grown up friend” and making a pouty subby girl sit on the floor in the corner to watch while we do grown-up things. I’ve loved making a woman cum so hard she squirted for the first time while her useless husband watched. I’ve loved being the useful cuckcake, a glorified sex-toy who says yes to things your girlfriend won’t do. I’ve loved tying someone up and teasing them by making them watch me do their favourite things to their favourite person. I’ve loved making someone’s heart race by spoiling their partner so much they’re crushing on them all over again watching them sweat. I’ve loved being the coveted prize in someone’s fantasy, the vessel for all of these feelings. It’s a fantastic role I don’t take lightly.

This is unrelated but Bee told me there’s a whole side of TikTok dedicated to Cuck Chairs, which are the random single chairs you always find in hotel rooms close to the bed. Now that you’ve read this you’re gonna notice them everywhere.

(Come back later this week for part 2)