About Limits
Added 2023-09-12 12:15:07 +0000 UTCI am very lucky with my subscribers, with your human quality and your manners, but yesterday I had to kick and block someone from my Patreon for the first time. This was bound to happen I suppose, there is always a first time for everything, but I'm thankful that it has been an exception on my Patreon experience.
So after overthinking about it this morning I decided to do something that I had never done before or talked about, and that is to establish some limits that were logical for me, but maybe they are not for everyone.
I don't do sex chat... I understand that many creators of erotic content use it as a hook to have more subscribers, having sex talk in first person: what would you do to me, what would you say to me, if I'm alone at home what blablabla.... I don't do that. My job here is to be a model, content creator and to sew costumes.
I'm fascinated by pinup and erotic photography since long ago, I love the kink world and find fetishes super interesting, but that doesn't mean I want to have explicit sexual conversations with subscribers or that I enjoy the harassment. Of course this Patreon touches on sexual topics, and I'm very comfortable talking about them, but the limit is respect.
The sexual or erotic fantasy is the character and the situation that I creatively create, the unusual but apealing narrative to delve into; that's why I love erotic science fiction art, and that's why as a model my content is sci-fi related, because it invites you to explore stimulating and extraordinary situations, because it presents us an erotic fantasy beyond vanilla, spicy within our nerdy tastes.
I understand that other models want to be part of the erotic fantasy, like the ultimate goal, but this is not my case. When the cameras and flashes go off I like to put on my most comfortable clothes and go back to the workshop or to read comics.
We can be online friends, but I don't want to be your online sex date. And believe me I am very open to chatting about anything with my subscribers (the Instagram chat is the one I attend the most), except my private life... We can talk about films, sci-fi, photography, kink preferences, fetishes, my next sets, commissions, lightning, propbuilding, food, NSFW art, even the porn industry... but please don't let that be an excuse to turn it into a humiliating situation for me.
That said, no one should take this as attack or personal critic, the person who made me write this is already blocked. So I'd like to take this opportunity to thank you all for making me feel so comfortable creating NSFW content on the internet. You guys are the best.
Comments
Thank you Ben! Yes, I agree, I have a great community here. Enjoying NSFW scifi (as we all here do) should be a peaceful life if I learn to block in time when seeing the red flags XD
Vampisaurus
2023-09-12 19:54:10 +0000 UTCI sent you a private DM on this.
John Story
2023-09-12 19:10:24 +0000 UTCThank you for bringing us this fantastic creative and erotic content. I can't say it enough, I just love it. If I remember right you even talk about your boundaries in your pinned message, so it should be no surprise to the person that this is a boundary you have set and is not to cross. I'd love to say I can't believe there are people that overstep those so easy. But from experience I'd say from trying to use a kind of "power" over you, to simple ignorance and/or emotional problems there is a whole spectrum of people who do that sadly. *shakes head* But reading the comments and that it took so long to happen, it seems you really gathered some great people that accept what you communicate and celebrate your art. To that, I toast you and "your house" aka the community. <3 Thank you and thank you for this post.
Benjamin Lyric
2023-09-12 16:26:46 +0000 UTC