Sketch4753

It isn’t end for you as long as you go to the gym

Батырбек Асылханулы

Stay strong, man. This might be a bit late of me to reply, but I know what that’s like. You’ll make it alright. There’s someone out there for you :)

ButteredPancakes

Although I have no advice to offer I’d like to say thank you for reaching out and pouring your heart out to us fans, trusting us with this vulnerability and honesty. I’m sure one of us has a very good advice but until then, you’re very strong! You’ve got this!

Tsusagi

I know that feeling all too well... I really hope things will work out somehow, my friend told me that I just need to put myself out there and meet people. Easier said than done for some

I.E

You are not alone. I've been there too. Then I started to learn how to communicate with others ( from channels on YT like Psych2g0 or charisma on command).It was super useful, because 90% of human language is non-verbal. Now I really improved my social skills. II know this is an old discussion, but I wanted to add a little experience of mine. Keep it up the good work!!

Marco Bri

Have you tried meeting anyone online, I mean honestly even some youtubers and what not have ended up with a person who was previously a fan. My friend recently met someone at a party his friends threw, that could also be an option, I know exactly how you feel, I felt the same, I didn't think I'd find anyone. I almost missed my opportunity when I was about to finish uni, long story. But as hard as it can be dude and as uncomfortable as it can feel, you have great opportunities to try meet someone, don't give up, work up that courage and wait for that opportunity to arrive, we'll all be here to support you!

TheDoogray

You are not alone Tele. I want to throw out a hard suggestion…I think drawing naked horny girls is not gonna help. I know because it doesn’t… But I know the feeling of deep loneliness. I feel it every day. I say fight the urge to be alone and talk with a woman, but don’t try to be her lover but just her friend. See what happens after that. And remember this, having a girlfriend is not going to remove the loneliness. It will help, but you will find yourself lonely again even when you are sitting right next to her holding her hand … possibly even deeply in love. You might need to search elsewhere to attack your loneliness. But you are not alone, not abandoned.

AlexCrosss

I get that feeling brother I always feel that to it'll all be good trust me on it as a top Teir gamer there's somone out there and tbh it's best to wait as I see it you'll have a friend u meet that you can try to go out with eventually that's if u feel there's somthing diffrent about them I met that person just for me to mess up now I'm awaiting the new person I meet later on in my gaming life.

Matthew martin

That nunchuck guy is really cool

Funky

aye man, i know it's been a while, but i trust you are doing fine, we can aalways play tf2 if you want (/j) i know you will get tru this, you always do, that's what inspired me from you, your amazingness

daniel

Ey boss, I hope you're alright. I'll start with the obvious that the level you've reached in the domain of animation shows a work ethic that would be dangerous if applied in any domain. That you've toughed out through so much of it alone is even more insane - I kinda assumed that you had a mentor, were actively doing some workshops or etc. The less obvious is that this extreme self-sufficiency is a very valued trait in non-work settings too. Like groups training practical skills (anything from martial arts through music through writing), volunteer organizations etc where you regularly get together to polish skills, get shit done and have the occasional social gathering. There's no guaranteed waifu, but a lot of potential for fruitful longterm relationships as an adult, and a door for varied and interesting encounters with new people. Being extremely specialized, and maturing, can make it seem like "trying brand new things for the hell of it" is meandering and wasting time, but the real kicker is that in this life you just can't know what's going to turn out meaningful until you try it. It can make you see things you had premade judgements on in a brand new, invigorating way. I hope this doesn't come off as armchair therapist advice, It's just that what you describe sounded like a familiar place to me , and I've found very often it's the result of your own brain rebelling against the cell of routine it's created for itself. Sometimes introduce a bit of controlled chaos improves things I guess.

Wilson Wilson

You gonna make it, there is no unrewarded effort.

murder emperor

I hope you are doing better. I really do. Take care, friend who I've never met, see you soon, I hope.

Quadri

Any update from the big boss?

Diego Perales

I’m gonna use this for my wallpaper

Shane Driscoll

Stay strong king🤲

Joseph Kushchuk

As someone who's had a porn addiction since the 2nd grade I can safely agree I'm in a similar area regarding the low chances of ever being with someone. Everytime I start to have feelings for someone I'm filled with guilt, never knowing the difference between love and lust. This makes it very difficult to connect with others and thus I return to being alone. But even now I believe that it is a process, and to change something I never wanted in my life doesn't happen overnight. Though it may be hard to socialize with others and even be rejected at times it's still a process and perhaps towards something better. It takes time to improve in areas you're not the best in and the same can be said for speaking to others. I like to think you're a work in progress and that hope is not lost, because your given another day for growth and progression. I wish you the best

Frego

I’m not going to blow smoke and tell you you’ll find your The One, but I will say this; you don’t have to be lonely when you’re alone. The opposite is also true. You don’t have to be alone to be lonely. I’ve been on both ends of this. Once you are able to like yourself and be comfortable with your own company, everything else will fall into place.

Moondoggie

Not to imply that I understand fully what your situation is like or that you suffer from the same issues that I do but as someone diagnosed with High Functioning Autism and ADHD I have to say that this hits home. My condition essentially forces this kind of social isolation all the time no matter if I want it or not. Its a living hell I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. The difference for me is that I have a job that requires me to interact with a lot of people on a daily basis and I am always on call (for ease of explanation, I'll just simplify it and say I am a Paramedic). I am constantly surrounded by people yet I feel super alone all the time, I would prefer to be alone with just myself. Being alone in a room full of people gives me this sickening false sense of hope that maybe I can form a connection with at least one person but as usual my condition doesn't allow that. Still, in spite of my struggles I have been blessed with a few friends over my life time and even someone special to share life with whos similar to me. With someone as talented and as technically and emotionally intelligent as you I know you are bound to find someone one day. I sincerely hope that you find this person soon.

DoctorLugubrious

I deal with anxiety and depression as well some times you have to get out of your comfort zone sone times that breaks the monotony as well just remember you got us man

Chris Settlemoir

We're all here. Not all of us are social butterflies, and it's perfectly normal. There's someone on YT I follow who does "rejection therapy" and it's pretty neat.... He goes to absurd lengths to put himself in social situations where it's obvious that he will get rejected, told 'no' or otherwise shut down. The surprising thing is that often people are super nice with him and then he's surprised too. Wanting relationships with deep emotional attachment requires having done the many, many prior steps required. At one point in my life I was in a similar situation where work was mostly isolated, family was far away, all activities individual, no friends etc. At that point I couldn't even make a phone call for a pizza delivery. Needless to say if I can't talk to someone in a customer/employee setting, there's no way to have a circle of friends or a relationship. So I kicked myself in the butt and started with small increments : like grocery shopping in person and not delivered. Looking at the cashier in the eyes instead of the floor. Saying thank you to bus drivers and other service people. Going back to the everyday, obviously normal interactions that we forgot. I think you're on the right track with the gym, however the activity itself while you may be surrounded by people, is still isolated. You listen to your music and you grind, then eat, then go home. I'd suggest also starting in small increments. And it has to be a conscious choice to do something else than working or playing at your place. You have to figure out something small and new, to "wedge" between the moments of rest-work-workout-eat-sleep. because these five are all part of the same individual loop currently. Go back to the basic interactions we should be having with humans in general and we currently miss. And go from there.

Beegotron

What you said about rejection, fake smiles and the like hit pretty close to home for me. I'm sorry you're going through such a thing. All I can say is that you aren't alone, no matter how much you think you are. We're here, and there are others out there in the same boat...myself included. But giving up only ensures you'll lose out on happiness later. Most if not all of us are here for you because we love you and your presence. Much love to you. P.S. Just out of curiosity, but if Nila were a real person then what would you say her height and weight would be? Or at least her height? o.o I'd want to know if I'd have to look up or down at her if we hypothetically met, for example.

Emanon

Reading this feels eerie, like me from another timeline wrote this. I'm extremely introverted, I was never popular, I'm used to being ignored, people being fake nice to me, having a conversation always took a conscious effort. I never really seeked out romance during my youth and of course, I never found it. I pretty much gave up trying to find romance and started how to live without it. One day I joined a discord server owned by a twitter artist without any intention of meeting anyone, I just wanted to see more of their art in case they posted there as well. I was mostly just lurking, never really talked to anyone. One day I saw a discussion on a topic I was passionate about, joined in, started talking more, befriended some like-minded people, and now I can proudly call one of them my girlfriend. We've been together for 2 years and we're excited to move in together as soon as we can. I know this might sound like the generic "lmao just go meet people" type advice, but to be honest, I think that's pretty much all there is to it. Sure, some people you might meet might not click with you, some might reject you, but all of that is part of socializing. Eventually you'll meet someone who will find you to be the perfect partner for them, you just need to give them a chance to meet you, even if it's on a discord server or whatever. Take care man, I hope for the best for you. Much love.

Drath

Going to a class might help. Doing a camping etc. might also help. Or just go to a night club or a bar frequently just to enjoy the music and drink. Nice women will find you. You need to be seen as a high self esteemed, strong person. But remember that regardless of what you do, things will always go better. For example, I am also an introvert but at the same time I am a college student, so, I make friends there. I widen my social sphere. The main reason I was able to make so many friends is because I went to study Japanese language teaching, so that means that there are people just like me and share the same interests. There are lots of funny and lovable people out there. Build up a nice instagram account. Seek for professional help for social anxiety. Love u from Turkey <====3

Life sucks, you either play the game or lose automatically. I'm bad too for personal reasons so I just give it up. I learn to love myself so that when I look at mirror I see a lovable human being deserving of love. Cheers!

P. kay Zee

Also eharmony sucks don't use that

Shaan Pickett

I'm awful at it too. I tried. Social events are really not my thing unless I know people really well. I met who I'm with through dating sites though. And she met me through that. BOTH of us are huge introverts to the point where just our company is enough most of the time. Try online, but don't make it a full time job, I made it one and it was a mistake. Have it on the side and see who's on there. You might find women as introverted as you, I did! (Don't get discouraged by fake bots on sites, they go for anyone and everyone)

Shaan Pickett

Hey tele, I’m not really all that great at making people feel better cause I’m generally not good with emotions, so I’ll make this semi-short. If this is something that really concerns you and is causing you emotional pain, then you should really take a break and try to put yourself out there more. Not like one of the breaks I’d do where you’d just relax and game for a couple of weeks, but actively try to make friends or even get a girlfriend if you’re lucky. If you can make some time for social interaction each day it’s always helpful for ur mental state, and if u wanna work you can talk to people while you do so. Honestly idc if you don’t post in a couple months, hell, even a year. It’s not like you posting or not posting art is gonna kill me, I’ll still pay cause I appreciate your work. So anyway, I know I kinda suck at this but generally try to be more social even if it’s out of your comfort zone.

Planetary Gearbox

I feel you brother, I feel the same way

Lumina

i just wanted to let you know... you are one of my favorite artists. you have been since i first saw your art. i hope things get better for you.

Raeth Redpath

I love you man and i’ve been and somewhat still am in the same place. it’s hard and it feels like you’d win the lottery before you found who you need. but with enough time, patience, and effort you can find someone right for you. slowly push yourself just a little outside your comfort zone and you can do whatever you want. the uncomfortable will become your home and you can push on to be a better person. i don’t think i could offer any advice that you haven’t heard or that will make a change but we’re here for you, if not to help then at the very least just to listen. we are real people, whether you know us or not, and we are all rooting for you.

Samuel

We all love you and wish you the best

HAZHACZ

Damn Tele sorry you going through that I hope it gets better for you I don't think you'll be lonely forever

Kazu

You doin good man just keep it up

SirRetro Comedian

This describes my situation basically word for word. I actually just started therapy today. I had never done it before, so it was really scary, but I think it is going to help me. Maybe talking to someone could help you too

GifNotGif

I always have the most difficulty doing arms. Thanks for the insight! Gonna try the cylinder start, it looks like it's something new and not as frustrating as every other way I've done it lol.

Nick Lim

I'm down to put a wig on for you! (No homo)

Harold

Man Tele, you've brightened my day so much so many times, I hope shit gets better for you.

Ethan Womer

We’re always here for you Telepurte!

Phil_Schwifty

I've been there to an extent and know people who have the exact same problems as you. Now, I'm not a person who gets to say what you should or shouldn't do in your life, but if I can leave you just one advice, it is that just put yourself out there. We all have have social limitations and can handle only so much, but if you just step out of that zone, give it a chance just once in a while, you are better off than doing nothing at all. It is not easy, it is not comfortable, you will probably get hurt while doing that, I'm not going to lie to you about that, but it is the best thing you can do for you and you future self. Do not give up and the better life and love will eventually find you. Also if you are struggling with negative thoughts and feeling depressed or unmotivated, seek professional help! I can't stress this enough! It will change your life for the better or at the very least give you tools to help with your everyday life. You bring us so much joy with your work so it hurts like hell to hear that you're not doing good. You've built a wonderful community around you and I am sure you can also find delightful people to talk to in the time of need! :) All the best <3

Jon Knows

Things are going to be okay. I understand how you feel and honestly I’m going through the same kind of lifestyle, the only difference being I’m a labourer. You can do this, we’re all here to support you. (Also to the person who said to “just transition”, just…shut up, let them be who they want to be)

William Durham

Just transition, get on HRT

Okwss

Love you and your drawings Tele, but nobody is gonna congratulate you or reward you for basic social interaction, nor is a girl ever gonna burst through anyone's door and ask to fuck/date you. Ya gotta tough through it and get out there, you have the support of all your patreons, plus your friends and family, everyone meets someone some day, I guarantee you will too, and when you do, they'll understand you 👍.

Al

We love you Tele 🖤

Jojo

I feel you pretty hard...

Yorokobii

I'm in this post and I dont like it

RJ Richardson

As someone said before, this feels like I've written it myself. Always been an outcast, barely had friends just a small group of nerds to scared to talk to girls. It felt like I was alone my whole life, because of certain issues within the family and sometimes friend group. Then someone capable kinda adopted me, I picked up a few things, once I moved out it all started rolling. I forced myself to go out, to be something I was not at first. Because I realized, why not where is the issue? My life could be really short, so why not make the most of it. The worst they can say is no. It was quite difficult at first, but I got used to it. Now I am quite the social butterfly, I faked it until I made it. But I still need time to recharge sometimes. If I, a lonely loser nerd with no social skills could do it, then you can too. Keep your head up my guy.

Angry Trout

For the entire time I was reading what you wrote to I was feeling like it was something I have written, even though I knew logically it wasn't me. I'm just studying all the time, taking care of my scout group (seems much more social than it really is, I'm more a lone mentor than a friend to any of them) and caring and worrying about my parents after recent suicide of my younger brother. There is no romance coming for me and there is no good in my life either.

Toporostopy

I feel the same way all the time. I know it's hard, and you'll have your moments where you've had enough, but the best thing to do, that I've found, is to hold onto those silver linings as long as possible, focus on the good and not the bad, and breath. You're an amazing artist and animator, and I love your work and it seems like I'm not the only one who thinks that. You might be alone physically, but you have this whole group of people here who love and support you.

MrEpic Sir

Hey. Take care Tele <3

PrinceDesRuines

Hey man, I’m here to support you

BrokenReaper45

Tele, I completely understand where your coming from. I've been in that same place for so long myself, though most prominent while I was in grade school. What has helped me a bit is finding friends who share my sense of humor. I found them through a previous job, but they can also be found in places that have group activities, like classes. I'm still stuck in the loneliness in reguards to a romantic relationship, and it is still hard damn near every night. If you're up for it, look into taking a college class or two, any class that might encourage group projects, and try connecting with someone. Could be in your current animation/drawing field, could be something random just cuz. It might help get you into a social setting where talking with your neighbor isn't uncommon, and could help you find people to hang out with, or have over for chill time. In the meantime, we're all here for you, you got this.

Llora

Kurzgesagt has an amazing video on loneliness. It helped me understand a little more these feelings - ones that I have had myself. Understanding helped me build more confidence in myself, and I am happier now because of it. I hope this helps you, such an amazing artist, entertainer, and gem to follow. One day at a time, it gets better. https://youtu.be/n3Xv_g3g-mA

Hunter

I can at least give you some solidarity. All I do is work from home, go to the shops, do whatever chores I can, then game/write, followed by sleep. I live with a close friend so I don't really feel the societal urge to put myself out there, which naturally means my chances of meeting a nice girl to settle down with is zero. I don't even have a super awesome marketable skill like you do, I'm just some software dev with a writing hobby. It's okay, though. There's satisfaction to be found in many areas. Amatonormativity can erode the psyche, but there's ways to not let it get to you. I for one enjoy your posts and gain some endorphins from them. I hope you're able to relax and enjoy life a little when these understandable bad vibes pass; and I should know from experiencing them... they always pass.

MATTHEW DAVE

I've been in that very mindset some years ago... until I started wondering where that "urge" to be in a relationship comes from. Is it inherently human or is it a "learned" behavior (imprinted and enforced by peer pressure)? I don't have a definitive answer but my working hypothesis is that humans are inherently social beings - but that a "love based relationship" isn't the only way in which that can be expressed. Contribution to society via art, wisdom, science... are at least as valueable (if not more so) than the love towards a partner. Your Art will outlast you, your contribution to humanity is far more inspiring. Think about it, Tele... where does this "need" for a loving partner come from and isn't the love by your community more valueable? Should Peer Pressure really have such impact on your well-being? Should the social expectations really be able to create such an unrealistic picture that can break those that try to fit into it?

Gerald Wolf

No thanks needed. Hey try vloging once. And maybe do a meet and greet sometime. Your fanbase is a good community and I bet girls will bust in doors to meet you.

patreonus

Tele, a short while ago you mentioned taking the month of July off to do some self-care. If, even after that you're still feeling depressive, if the loneliness is becoming that much more palpable, you're still not in a good place. I love your art and animations and only wish the best for you. So I may be saying something controversial here, given the platform, but fuck it; you are under no obligation to post here as regularly as you do. You have no contract binding you to a schedule that has the risk of burning you. Take care of yourself first, find happiness where you can and if/when you come back, your fans will be here.

Just Lurkin' About

Did I say buy something? Just watch the free videos on the internet, all throughout history we've learned valuable information from even the most deplorable people, Tate is no different.

Purple Durag

Tate's Hustler Univeristy has been exposed as a MLM scam and his takes on people in general are elitist bullshit. He is NOT someone to get advice from AT ALL.

Just Lurkin' About

Tele, if it helps, I've been on your shoes - more than once. And I met my current partner, who I'll be celebrating 6 years together with soon, when I least expected to. I wasn't looking for a relationship when it happened, but it did nonetheless, and I've been very happy with her. Hang on. Feeling lonely sucks and I wish I could do more to help, but you will eventually meet someone. If you feel like you're stuck on a spiral, try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Which isn't to say that you should do things you don't like - not at all - but maybe try going to places with friends or hanging out with friends more often. I'm saying it not only because hanging out with your friends can help a lot with the feeling of loneliness, but also because you can meet more people through your friends. That's how I met my current partner.

VM

i know this is just one comment in a sea of hundreds but im in a much similar situation myself. i think the only differences is going to a gym and the mall because for me its the job i have. im just a stranger with a strangers advice but i would recommend online dating. because (at the risk of being a hypocrite here) when most of your time is spent in a working environment or in solitary without a venue for socializing or a love life, it can be more ideal to use whatever is at your disposal during your time of being preoccupied as a way to branch out a bit more for your own good. you are a wonderful human being telepurte and despite how monotonous the days can get, nothing stays the same forever. there is indeed someone out there for everyone and to maybe not be made to take the first step is more normal than you realize. hang in there and try your best to live in the now if thats all you can do.

Ribs

PS. I cant recommend Crossfit Training enough.

Stefan Funken

One of the best ways to get to know people is to join a group sport. Even better, one with men AND women. For me, it was Crossfit Training. You say you spend 5 days a week at the gym. Why even do that if you don't meet others to impress with your body? :) Invest some of that time to do something where you engage with people instead.

Stefan Funken

I'm very sorry to hear that you are feeling like this. As for any advice, if you're willing to hear it: don't look for romance. Try to make friends with people, IRL or online, regardless of whether you would consider them potential love interests. In your kind of situation (similar to my own), that may be challenging enough, and you're likely to have to go outside of your comfort zone to make it happen. I'm not saying to give up. I'm saying that the most rewarding relationships I've had all started as friendships. I don't know if this is helpful to you, but I hope you will be able to find a way to a better state of mind.

Patrik Hjorth

I'm just giving simple solution for a complex problem is all, don't attack me

MonOmega

Dude just take a trip to the Philippines find a good woman who is ok with your interest and goals, wife that shit and have a committed woman who will literally never leave you and give a shit load of love, treat her right and thrive. Its an investment but I beats the mindless dating games "modern woman" play at, who has time for all that noise???

MonOmega

Hey tele, to be blunt, please don't commit unalive, im in a similar boat and i work in a resturaunt where people are social, im just different. But the most important thing i heard recently is socialization is a learned behavior, that's not to say some can do way better pr worse then others, but you can learn how to interact better with people, its kinda silly but i watched some youtube video's on socialization, it helped a bit, just kinda gave me some prompts so conversations werent dry or just ending. If your in a shop with basically 0 customers like a slow day you could have a convo with the workers likely, over time going to places you will run into the same people, making small talk here and there will build a relationship. Now something i personally think, i need a friend group to help me meet a girl, ive got a girlfriend before without having a friend group but its been a long time, and friends are important. Aim for friends, and let love find you. Let us know if you go to any creator event and thousands will show up because we love your work

Erskine Lothrop

I know the feeling friend. I gave up on such things I have accepted the fact I will be a bachelor or a male spinster in my life and it can be tough too especially when all my friends were couples they are now ex friends

Morgan King

What you're going through it definitely relatable, and at the least I can say that you aren't alone in what you're feeling. It's a shame that the people who follow you online cannot support you in quite the same way as someone you get to know personally, but no doubt everyone here will support you in whatever way they can. Live your life however you think you need to, I wish you the best of luck in finding fulfillment where you look for it, take care man

Derek Nyte

Hey man. This sounds really depressing but I totally understand you. There are people in this state including myself. I'm alone too and have learned to cope with that to the point where I believe I don't need anyone by my side. I really would help you somehow or advise, but I have no idea what love is, but stay strong. We never know what might happen. No matter how things are there is always a chance. Staying in the communities or something. Wrong forced relationship ship might be worse than being alone sometimes. But I wish you, you could find that one special person who would appreciate you for who you are and there will always be people who support you for what you do even tho we can't be there physically to comfort you.

Wizerl

Hi Telepurte, I don't know how you'll feel about this message, I don't know if you'll even see it, but you have me and my wife a lot of moments together watching your work, and I feel like at least trying to do something for you is due. I used to be like you, except worse. I didn't have a job, I barely had a passion for videogames. I was afraid I would go nowhere in life, that when my dad died I'd be homeless or that I'd have to rent the apartment and move to the basement to survive. I barely cared because I was lonely and didn't care how my life would go. One day I saw a post on reddit on the offmychest subreddit. It was someone venting, as you do in that subreddit. I reached out and offered to talk and to cheer them up, it worked. We talked more and more. We got in a relationship, I started putting more effort into finding a job, and I eventually found one, if with some help. Today I'm married with that person. If you're not a social butterfly try staying in your comfort zone and bond with people that way. You like videogames? Try to find people in that community, find people with that hobby. You like art, so that's another thing that might help you find someone to bond with. Lastly, I may not be a lonely single woman in your area, but if it pleases you I would love to help you and give you some company.

wombat

You make a lot of people happy with you work, I hope you will find happiness as soon as possible! Though it's not the same, we're here for you, may your future be bright!

DrCaw

Hang in there man you bring joy to my life and it’s sad to see you struggling in this way. There will always be the one out there somewhere for you even if it doesn’t feel like it right now All I can say is put yourself out there- even in the smallest way. There must be clubs, either in person or on discord that share similar interests to yours. Get chatting, share your common ground, and someone will think you’re the coolest guy around :) You’ve just got to take one step at a time- one tiny step, even if it’s just to google for clubs in your area, or join one discord server. You can do it, I know you can

Henry Nash

That insanely over used line of “Failure is the best teacher” is overused for a reason. Its easier to say than do, but dont take failure personally. Look at it as technically or analytically if you can, delude yourself if you must. Always find an avenue to learn from your mistakes. I didnt go from kissless virgin to happily in a relationship overnight, it took me probably most of my post highschool life constantly searching and chasing. I was met with near constant failure but i never gave up because i knew if i did then id truly be alone. I dont mean any of this as a “youre lazy” or “you dont try” because thats certainly not it. I have a crippling fear of failure, of never having been good enough for anyone or anything, constantly feeling i had to validate my right to exist. To repay my debt to society that my existence caused. That even seeking out something for myself was selfish and creepy. It isnt, and i was a fucking moron for thinking that way. You, as a living breathing person alive today, have a right given to you by life itself to pursue your dreams and your desires. But that right comes at the cost of having to pursue them and accepting the risk of failure. You have every right to seek out your happiness, to seek out love. As impossible as it can seem to meet someone especially in a mall setting, you can always try and, at worst, fail.

SomethingConspicuous

You’re right, no one will suddenly bust into your life and sweep you off your feet. You have to chase and seek what you want, what you dream, what you desire. Not in some motivational ted talk sort of way though. I spent almost 20 years of my life waiting for life to happen and I always wondered why it never did, why those things that seemed to fall into everyone elses lap never fell into mine. Its because it rarely ever did. Those people chased their goals and reached them through a healthy mixture of determination, skill, and luck. Nothing in life is guaranteed, failure is always a possibility, but giving up is the true enemy of progress. Taking a break or taking a step back to re-evaluate a situation is perfectly fine. Just never give up, statistically speaking if you keep trying you’ll inevitably succeed.

SomethingConspicuous

Hey I know the feeling, I don't think I'm gonna have a gf any time soon. What I can recommend is to just get more hobbies. Go hiking. Bouldering. Cycling. Driving cars. A motorcycle. Programming. Game development. 3d art with blender. Electronics. Rc planes/cars. 3d printing. Theres so much I like to do that I don't ever have to think about how I'm the end of my bloodline.

Maxi

I really appreciate you sharing so much, it helps to know that someone I really look up to feels similar to me. I honestly relate so much. I've developed some really bad social anxiety these past few years and don't see any chance at meeting a romantic partner. Wish I could comfort you with anything more than that you don't have to suffer alone.

Jared Marlo Valdivia

Hang in there, bro. We may be lonely, but we're not alone.

Drygdor

One step at a time, I know the feeling and it doesn't go away easily. A part of growing is up coming to terms with who you are and who you wanted to be, the choice is then slowly working towards that goal. You're already going to the gym, so maybe there's some classes of yoga or CrossFit you could join to start meeting people? How about other types of social events like gatherings, clubs, parties and local events to partake in. I try and use my loneliness as fuel, to do something about it, instead of being sad, all alone in my room, I tend to simply call some friends or go out for a walk around other people, to distract myself from the feeling. The feeling doesn't go away, but it doesn't effect as much as it used to. We're here for you Telepurte, and we wish you nothing but the best!

Cumperor

Hey while I don't know you personally just know a lot of us understand. Thank you for sharing and it sucks to go through believe me. If you're in California I'll buy you a beer my man.

Wynne Owens

Sucks to read man. I'm hoping you'll figure it out. Sounds like you go to the gym a lot, which is nice. Switch it up for a teamsport?

Ruben van der Vliet

I never could put into words like you did but I get how you feel mate

KoN

Lonely is a hard feel, but its the more important time for soul and mind, im was married, but in that tima i was the most lonely man in the world, i love your art, strong your sould, and your soulmate will arrive.

Dreganhn

We are in this boat together tele. I feel your pain, as I will probably be alone forever too. It's too much.

Seth Morgan

Hang in there dude. I, like many others, are here for ya. Being alone can be tough, but you aren't alone. You've got us, and we'll help you figure things out. I know it's tough but I'm sure you'd be welcome to reach out to any of us, I know I'd gladly have a chat with you if you felt like it would help. Even if it's just to rant or just to have a conversation about anything, I love getting to know people, especially online. It's always been easier for me to talk with others that way, and if you feel like meeting people in person is too nerve-racking then maybe you could try that. Either way, I wish the best for you, and I want to reassure you again that you aren't alone. Please take the time to help yourself out, even if it means not posting online, because doing what's right for you is best right now 💙

Bryan Jablonski

Try a dating app! It’s easy with something like Bumble

kaya

Im so sorry to hear all of that Teleporte. I even understand the feeling...i really wish i could reachout and talk to you as a friend but like everyone here in this community, we all feel the same way and we are here for you.

ShaozChampion

we all know how u feel Telepurte, hopefully we get a good ending to this sad story. u got my support \o/

Cezar Mancini Simões

Man, I feel this pain, we're here for you

Pure Bread Toasted

I felt the same for ages. I didn't know what to do, how to do it. Then about 18 years ago I moved house. I married my neighbor the year latter. Life will happen. You are awesome. Love you man

Maugrim

It's not recruitment, they are in a position that I was in. I'm not saying worship him, but sometimes you need someone to tell you what you need to hear not what you want from someone you can't stand. You people get so triggered by just hearing some guy you don't even know's name. Would you rather they just wallow in self pity?

Purple Durag

Bruh, I get it, and I feel for you. Your incredibly talented; you will get an opportunity one day.

RitalinGamer

As an introvert the vast majority of my life (I'll be 41 in just a couple of weeks), I sympathize with you and everyone here. I've had a few relationships throughout my life – the majority of which ended really badly – and I'm currently extremely isolated as I work from home since I don't have a car and everything (including my few close friends in the area) is too far. But I'm still here, as are you. :) You have a legit talent with your art and are at least taking care of your health by going to the gym. I barely go for walks because it's too hot and humid where I live, and I don't exactly trust the community I live in. But then again, I'm a "grumpy old man" even to my mother (I promise I was not such a person in my younger days), and I've always thrived both in small groups and alone, so I make due with my solitude, catching up on video games and books that I've never had time for in my adult life (as much as I can, anyway, since I work a lot). Meeting new people is definitely not that easy anymore, especially these days with this crazy internet thing and the evils of social media. In general – and I'm not saying everyone – people tend to hide their true nature, and it's a lot of work to sift through all the facades to find the right people to keep in your inner circle. But once you find those people that like you for who you are and not what you do or what you believe in, do what you can to keep them close-ish. The trick will always be that first step where you say "Hello" to someone you've never interacted with before. Rejection will happen; nothing you can do but shrug and move on to the next person. If you worry too much about rejection, you'll socially paralyze yourself, never mustering up courage to speak to anyone. The more people you speak to, the easier it will get. I know; I used to be that way in my teen years, and I regret losing out on opportunities because of it. But, hey, it was a learning experience, and one that I hope can help someone else. :) If your loneliness is also causing depression, then maybe it might be a good idea to speak to someone; a trusted loved one, a professional, anyone who might be able to help you. Even if just to let you speak out loud and work things out. Living in your own mind when you feel so down and so alone can be dangerous, so if you can think of anyone at all (or find a professional who won't charge you more than you can afford), please do so. It's clear that you care about your health with the gym; don't let your mental and emotional health suffer. I'm sorry about the long post. I just hope that my response (or any message from this group) helps in some way. Be well and be safe!

Rene Christopher Suarez

Here for you Tele. Ur not the only one. Hope we both find someone before this years over

Zombie

I know that pain a little too well but hopefully things turn for the better someday

Mr AngryFatMan

sorry you feel down Tele, you'll find someone one day. The best relationships come by surprise <3 cheers

Twenty

I do not know you, but you seem the kind of person i can confidently say is worth much, MUCH more than they portray themselves to be.

evⁿ ☕

How about you piss off trying to push someone going through shit into a far right chud like Tate. This isn't a recruitment place for you.

Apocolyte

If you have what it takes to work tirelessly for a whole ass year, I think social changes are not too far fetched. Learning how to build connections with complete strangers is kind of essential, and it seems like its a skill you could use right now. Find a way to meet people, no matter who, no matter where. Could be a bar or Tinder, doesn't matter, you need it. To find the motivation and the energy to is the real enigma thought, it's for you to find out really.

evⁿ ☕

For me, it was a combination of therapy, catharsis, and lots of self examination. People will search their whole life to know themselves.

Cowboy_soultaker

I have felt this. It might take some new perspective, finding a sense of control. There are things you can do, and things you can't. Therapy can help identify behaviors and how to start good ones and manage bad ones.

Cowboy_soultaker

You need Andrew Tate

Purple Durag

Just know you're not alone. I'm in the same place, I've been through it, found someone and then lost them and I'm back to the same place. Finding some good friends is all you can really do. Just know, you have tons of supportive fans here for you. You can get through this and will be alright. Much love and keep on trucking.

Ashen One

I know the feeling all too well. I hope you can find someone soon.

Tommy Stivers

This hits home, I get that feeling of loneliness and fearing I'm gonna stay single forever and I just want a girlfriend now. But I'm told to not rush getting into relationships as that takes time. I'm reminded of pros and cons for both being in a relationship and being single thanks to the internet and people I know. Just hang in there, there's still plenty of time.

civic71a

I know that feel, bro. I tried using computers to fix my lonely, and it feels like it's just a new more exciting way for porn suppliers to advertise to me. I wish I knew the answer.

pardusprime

I'm sorry to hear that Life: Solo mode is causing you such pain :( It's not exactly what you're looking for, but I hope people reaching out here helps at least a little. Relationship-wise, dating apps have been moderately successful in my personal life. They do all the door busting for you, and I think you would have great interest pieces/conversation starters if you included an illustration as one of your pics. Anyways, all the best. I hope things turn for the better soon

Artisan Alex

The right person will come along. It hurts to wait and be rejected. This I know but your day will come soon

Huffy56

Dude, of course! You’re the kinda artist that puts themselves on the page. There’s something awesome about that that really makes me think you’ve gotta have a personality to match. The thing is a quiet personality isn’t worth any less then a loud one, it just doesn’t demand so much attention. The thing is there’s no way to fix loneliness. I know that sounds really discouraging, but there’s a point here. If you go into every encounter with people, longing for nothing more then to get rid of that lonely feeling, you’ll always be disappointed. Every time. There’s just nothing anyone around you can or will do to fix that for you. But people like genuine and friendly people. And I don’t mean out going people. God knows I’m more introverted then most. But the key to curing loneliness is to, (and I’m really sorry for how this sounds but) embrace the suck, and let your personality show when you talk to people. Any time you interact with people, talk to them like you’re already friends, and gauge their responses and reactions. The key to doing this right is you can’t want them to like you, or to get to know you. You can’t let yourself want anything from them. But you should talk and act like you wouldn’t mind if they end up liking you. Anything you’re thinking you want or need from other people, you need to reframe as if you wouldn’t mind if they gave you, but you’d be fine if they didn’t. Rambling aside I couldn’t do any of this until I got on some antidepressants. And I know that’s not something that most people like the sound of, but if it works, great, if it doesn’t fine. There’s absolutely no harm in it. I get that I’m technically a random stranger on the internet. But if you only have it in you to do one thing, even if it takes every ounce of strength you have. Schedule an appointment with your regular doctor. Show them the text on this post, and ask them if you could try out some antidepressants. I genuinely understand the feeling you’re feeling, and a doctor was the biggest step I took to feeling so much better.

Kristopher Cesmedziev

Yo bro i feel the same

Devil's Centurion

Life is rough man, I believe in you

Log Mall

Look my man. I have been through the exact same situation I am literally in the exact same boat as you. I have a Patreon page where I make 3D sex models for a game called Virt A Mate. My girlfriend doesn’t give a shit sure maybe some do, but in todays day and age women post their nudes online for money. My girl does not care at all. For the lonely part that was how I was for most of my 20s because I never stepped out of my comfort zone to meet anyone or to try and get friends who would take me places or go to clubs. Get friends. You already got the gym, the success, but all you gotta do is the one thing that’s hard. Find people like you. Maybe even me man you never know. Once you step out of your social comfort zone it’s game over. Good luck my man much love from Birmingham

Zeysom

i legit feel you 100% bro

TSR Grimm

Everyone share your energy with Telepurte, so he can chuck a spirit bomb sized lemon back into life's bitch-ass face. God and Devil, Life and Death can all go suck a big one for making Telepurte feel this way. Nothing in life is guaranteed, so find that iota of happiness and hold on to it, even if it's the weight of collapsing star. And when the universe loops around again (like the epsiode of Futurama) and we forgot all this. I'll say it again forever, Thank you Telepurt e for being a part of my life. Oh and the Nila plush says Hi. LOVE, from some random stranger online who took way too long to think and say anything normal.

KneeOn

One day, you'll find the one. In the mean time, make sure to be happy with yourself. Dating is only getting harder if you're feeling depressed. Take care

louptony

I'm in the exact same slump; here's hoping it works out for both of us!

Jacob Simkus

I know exactly how you feel, especially that damned if you do, damned if you don't angle. I've been struggling with the same stuff for years, brother

Chase Meadows

Speak to a professional about what you’re feeling - truly. Best advice I could give as an anonymous person. Also, be around people who enjoy the same things you do. I bet a good portion of those people are female.

Hushsucks

Wishing you the best, Tele! We all hit our lows on this Rollercoaster called life. It sucks but there will always be an upswing. You're love by us here and many others aborad. You're an inspiration to all of us, including me. I got into more art, drawing, and painting after seeing your 365 Days of Telepuerte. You will definitely find someone in your life that will realize how lucky they are and that you will become their world ❤️ It's sucks feeling lonely, but one thing that helped me when I was in the same rut is to focus on yourself. Whether that's improving in your art or going out to a class, or going to a gym (For instance, I joined an East Coast Swing Dancing club and dance with a ton of people and got a gym membership that resulted in me losing 20lbs in a few). Just know that you're loved and that you're amazing ❤️

WarriorOfGods76

It feels fucked up to say this, but it's kinda nice to know someone I look up to also feels this way... I'm not going to say I have the same exact feelings or experiences as you, but at least you're not alone in feeling some of these things. We'll figure it out eventually man. I'm sorry you have to go through this...

Philip Cone

At least all of us can be together in being alone. Slightly unrelated, you go to the gym 5 times a week?! you must be friggin ripped!

cromulence embodied

I think it goes without saying that we all feel similar ways but all in our own experiences. I understand the struggle; being an overweight kid my whole life not having many friends facing rejection again and again. I get the pain… but you you’ve had the chance to put a part of yourself out into the world and find people who like and accept that part of you. All of us here support you and want to see you thrive not just survive. I know these are just words from a faceless entity on the internet to you and they probably don’t mean much to you in the endless other messages of support you will see. But I hope that you’re able to get out of the dark place you may be in right now and I hope you one day find a person who makes you feel like you could conquer any adversity that comes your way. I’ll tell you what when you do find that person cause you will(though it may not be in the way you except) you’ll be able to do most anything. At least that’s what I believe is true. I really hope you find what you need to be happy in life, best of luck ~M

Reaperhunter65

You’re not alone in feeling this way. Not by a long shot. The hedgehog’s dilemma is a real thing. Getting close to people and making meaningful connections will always come with a risk of pain. Sometimes even attempting to start a relationship can fucking suck, especially if you’re not a particularly social person. But if you can work through that pain, let yourself feel it, and understand it, it’s worth it in the long run. I hope things improve for you, I really do. And not because you’re a talented artist, but because you’re human. You deserve to be happy.

Joseph

Hey, maybe this won't help but, a lot of us feel something similar (can't say it's the same, 'cause it isn't), maybe reaching out to some friends could help, maybe talking with people like us could maybe make that weigth a little less painfull, if you need something, maybe we could help you

Victor Alejandro Frias Navarrete

I have felt a very similar way before though, my experience is very different. I can personally recommend going and talking to a professional about these feelings, it helped me, but it also took me a couple tries to find a therapist that I liked working with. Also, I have to include the dumb plug of consider joining a group out in town that you can interact with over a common interest. You can find a lot of Facebook groups or reddit groups that meet in person and it might help to try a few out once a week or so. I hope you're able to get out there and find those people who add substance and love to your life both as friends or as lovers. Good luck to you! ❤️

TheAoHna

I feel like a lot of us were definitely not prepped for any sort of relationship that you have to get for yourself such as friends and romantic partners. It's comes very natural for some of us, but then there's the rest of us where it's anything but natural. I've been practicing this sort of thing whenever I'm out, specifically at a book store. I went up to this girl I thought was cute and asked her what book she recommended. She lit up fast to show off what her tastes were and even if I had no interest in it, it shows what she's interested in, so that was my gateway to a conversation with her. Ofcourse I'm out here sweating bullets, my dude. Seriously, I had a bead of sweat tobogganing it's way down my ass crack like Luke Skywalker racing down the Death Star trench, but God damn fake it till you make it my dude, keep that fire going. It takes time and more patience than you think you have. We're here with you my brother and you know we love you and what you do. That's another thing, flaunt what you got! You're a hella talented artist! Right now, you are your own worst enemy. Kick your ass, man! I hope our words give you comfort and maybe some semblance of confidence.

kekoa_Recruit

Loneliness and feeling alone is never fun. It's never easy to deal with either. I know those feelings all to well. On the other hand there are tons of people out there you have helped whether you know it or not. Live you have touched and brightened. So hang in there man. To quote a comedian: "I don't fail I succeed at finding what doesn't work." So Keep on keeping on dude.

Lyner

I feel you Tele, you have my sympathy that you are going through such feelings.

Jak of Sol

If my luck had gone another way I'd be in the same boat, I completely understand. It's tough trying to endure the pain of unsuccessful social interactions. The best advice I can give that worked for me is to not go in with specific expectations(which is tough when you so desperately need the companionship), don't completely invest in each interaction being the one to start something big, just enjoy it for what it is. Romantic love is wonderful and I'm not going to say don't chase it if that's what you need, but consider other relationships too, maybe workout buddies or a local artist club if that's a thing, having a social network of friends goes a long way in building confidence and happiness. If all your focus is on a girlfriend, all your happiness will rely on that and when it ends so does all your happiness. It's like having a well-balanced diet, so when you run out of meat, you still have veggies to keep you fed. I hope this isn't too preachy and I wish you the best, you deserve to be happy 💙

Nicholas Alexander

You are a fabulous artist. An inspiration to myself and others working on similar craft. You deserve so much good for what you've done for many of us. What you deserve and what happens in reality may not always line up, but I feel that the world will one day pay you what you are due. I wish you all the happiness in the world when that day comes.

Andrew Joseph Van Sickler

Wishing the best for you and I hope you can find someone, anyone, that will make you feel less alone in life <3

Sketch

I am sorry you are going through a rough time...I can see how you could think there is no room for any relationships to happen, but I believe you will find companionship in the future. You are such a great artist and, from all I've seen, a really fun person! I see you trying to get out there and, I am sorry if you aren't looking for advice, but trying something new could help you meet others and from them others. Don't hunt for a partner, find some friends to keep you company and from there maybe that someone will walk into your life. Take care and if you ever need someone to talk to. Don't be afraid to reach out. Tons of love from a usually quiet fan.

MartinG_Art

Aight dude, So as someone who been in muliple unsuccessful relationships. Local&long distance. I've been single for a good 4+ years now and Personally haven't felt the urge to go find a relationship, there's nothing that hinders it but its just not there. I think it's best to generally create as many bonds you can and from there see to how things coexist naturally it's how relationships starts usually. Loneliness is a bitch, when you feel it but it all comes from idea you "have" to be with someone and you gotta analyze why you feel that way though "either heavy self-reflecting or therapy" everyones different here. It's genuinely hard to tell people to calm down and not worry but ppl always fear running out of time finding a partner. I think we all would benefit from one but we should not tie our self-worth to the fact that we lack a companien. I don't know you irl. But there's clear factors that you're highly talented, hard working and loving person from. Your art tells me that you deal with emptiness often and it not an easy task but there infinite ways to resolve that. Finding places to belong, befriending people locally(abeit difficult being an introvert) its inevitable that you'll encounter more people that'll intern connects you to alot of others. There's always hope where one despairs. The whole point of this comment is that. Don't ever stop searching it's gonna be fine. Trust me, its just a matter of time. Sorry for the paragraph i'm bad with words.

Nicki Oliver Christensen

Tele for what it's worth if I was a girl I would bust through your door and be your girlfriend <3

LaReina

Try a salsa dancing class! You will get lots of human contact and meet people. Just shower beforehand and wear proper deodorant / antiperspirant, but not a cologne or a fragrance, and athletic clothes. Feeling lonely sucks and I have felt it a lot, but I don't feel it when I'm going to salsa class. If you have any questions, hit me up!

Nicholas Yuan

Gotta say, Tele, I've never related to someone so hard in my life. I've never been much of a social butterfly either and I've never been in a real relationship. I find it really hard to connect with new people and even justhe idea of beginning a conversation with someone I've never met is pretty daunting. The majority of social contact that I get is working the front end at a grocery store and it's not exactly the ideal place to find a partner. I'm trying to keep my head up, but some days are harder than others. I know from experience that hearing "hey, me too!" doesn't exactly make you feel any better, but just know that you're not alone my man. We all love you and the incredible work you create <3

Pilot

I feel the exact same way man. Only difference is I have such a self hatred for myself that I don’t deserve a romantic relationship. But completely ignoring my baggage, I really hope some day you do get what you need. Someone who will want to be around you just as much as you want to be around them. Life’s unpredictable, and repetition doesn’t last. One day things will change and you might find yourself just a little bit happier with someone who’s happier in your presence.

Ricardo

Sometimes just showing up to stuff is enough to put yourself out there in the whole romantic world. Whether its meeting with friends, going to a nerd store or even a restaurant/bar; being somewhere sometimes is enough to get experience, get noticed, or to notice. Romance doesn't come easy, but nobody expects or requires perfection. Ask some friends for advice, if you have those kinds of people. Kick some ass!!!

MrCalvinator

8,707 patrons. I realize it's not the kind of relationship you're yearning for right now, but it's still incredible what you're doing. May you pass through this rough patch quickly. All the best to you.

Ken M

I feel the same man. I'm always alone too. If you ever want to talk I'm here for you

ilikemyanon

Hey man as one of the people following your work from a totaly different place on this watery orb we call home, you are doing lots of good. You help lots of pepole with similar problems to you to realise they have those problems, and that is always the most important part of doing somthing about it. Sadly i dont know how to fix your problems, But as alot of pepole have said you seem driven and physically healthy, considering how you described your routine. Hope you find a solution to your problems. Much love from sweden 🇸🇪 ❤️

Lucas Larsson

Also a person whose probably gonna die alone here I mean I’m 26 now and I’ve never had a serious relationship. And despite all the platitudes others will tell you it doesn’t make being alone easier . I find focusing on my own happiness and not being alone stop me from doing things does help though . For what it’s worth know that I hope you find someone and that your work has always put a smile on my face .

aaron collier

Fuck man, I resonate with this. At least you're going to the gym. Small steps buddy, small steps

Keir

Don't worry man, I felt that same way for a long time and I'm currently showing a lot of your animations to my girlfriend, life gets better I promise

MUZaKM4K3R

Hang in there Tele. I hope it gets better.

Yourbuddytyler

I understand that feeling of loneliness, and I know that it can seem like love or a companion will never come your way, but just keep working on you and eventually you will feel better, and one day someone will come your way. This is just a period in your life and it will pass. Might pass like a kidney stone, but it'll pass, and we will be with you if you ever need it.

Ringabel

I feel what you said in my soul. I work. I eat. I lift. I run. Most of my life is alone. Shit’s hard man. I tell myself it’s what I want and for the most part it is. Just something’s missing.

Billy The Blue Fucking Ranger Cranston

My god, I've never felt the exact same way and been in the exact same situation as someone before. Except i don't go to the gym and i get fatter and fatter lol. But I'll just say that I'm here to talk to you. From one stranger to another, you got this!

Aquagao

Opening up to others an expressing your feelings is a difficult first step, so you should be proud of this post alone. Keep things up, always work towards improving, reach out to others and don't be afraid to talk about it and ask for help. If you need to, talking to a professional is always a good idea as well. I think you're in a good position to look forward with optimism, since you're work isn't bound to a specific location or a specific timeframe. But it always a lot of work, and you'll alway have to push forward. Romance can come out of nowhere, so I wouldn't worry overwhelm you. Keep taking care of yourself and keep reaching out, you can do it!

Kyoobies

My dude, see about therapy, it can help wonders for your mental health. As for meeting people, go do something group oriented, like a class or something. Just my 2 cents

Christopher Scott

Hey I know I’m a random on the internet but if you need to talk to someone please don’t hesitate to message me. I hope you find happiness.

William Kee

Yeah I feel you there man. I feel like I'm never going to find someone either, but you're not alone. You've built an awesome community and not many people can say that.

Tyler Jordre

There's a lot of good advice in these comments. Just try to never forget that you are a skilled, practiced, and driven individual. You draw and sketch and animate all the time. You somehow hit up the gym five times a week, which means you take care of yourself. And even better, you know when to vent. Half the men I know don't understand that you need to have an outlet or you blow. You're not happy with where you are, but you have the right personality to put in the work and come out the other side. Whether that means a)a partner, or b)learning to love yourself without a partner is entirely up to you.

Errol Lobo

I feel you so much.. I know my words aren't the strongest and it won't change anything but I just want to thank you for telling your feelings. Its a hard step and this darkness is consume everything. I know not much about you but you are amazing and I wish you the best, maybe with a girlfriend. Ready to fill your heart with love and appreciate you as the person who you are. And.. I am very sorry about my bad English. Please feel hugged.

JustEdris

I am a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone it just takes time. If I can offer any advice it's to find something to do where your objective isn't to meet someone. I met my now wife at a LAN party of all places.

Bersy

It's a hard life, but in a very similar scenario I've found success in letting go of finding a girl and just taking comfort in my peers. I get those little crushes and sparks of love here and there but, to me at least, that's enough. After losing my potential soul mate I just don't know how to approach women with the intention of dating. I'm sure love will find you one day, just as sure I may find mine again. Stay strong and try your best. I believe you'll pull through!

Joey Weela

Hey sorry to hear you feel so alone, you're not and I mean that. But I know what you mean, personally. Check out this video:https://youtu.be/n3Xv_g3g-mA

Evox

I'm right there with ya Brother. It's hard stepping out of our comfort zone but it's something we need to do sometimes. We'll both get there one day.

Larry Facer

From one lonely depressed dude on the internet to another, I get it mate. Hell, I have struggled talking to people all my life, and making connections scares the hell out of me. To be honest the thing that's been helping me is the fact that I broke down and joined a Discord dating server, as lame as it sounds. It gives me a no pressure environment to meet and mingle with folks. It has done wonders for my self esteem, and though it spiked my anxiety, it has also given me a lot of tools to push back against it because there are a lot of very very cool people I've met on there. Even made a few people I'd dare to call friends. I can't pretend to fully understand your situation, but I hope you can find something, anything to keep you going and not give up hope. Sending some good vibes your way. You deserve them

OmegaRiley

are you part any social groups online? i was stuck in a similar situation and ended up finding someone on discord. even though we were distant, it meant the world to me that someone loves me back

Nathaniel Goodson

You're a talented artist with a great work ethic. That right there is plenty for a partner to find desirable. You'll definitely find someone. But don't forget you're not even a little bit alone in the way you feel. Remember to check up on your mental health. It's as important as (if not more important than) your physical health. Its ok to feel lonely but dont let it consume you. You're not nearly as alone as you think. Also friends are super important. You gotta have a support system.

Skate Bush

do you want to watch anime and drink beer together in a discord call won't help you find a woman orz but you won't be alone

Gouda Man

Was in the same position for a long while after my divorce. I can definitely emphasize. It took me getting out of my comfort zone and going to meet-ups for random interests of mine. Gaming, anime, kink, etc until I wound up dating someone I met through these groups. Bonus, made a ton of new friends and I'm almost an extrovert now. When the status quo isn't working you gotta shake it up a little.

Auro

Well you say you go to the mall and gym. Those things are good places to start building up social confidence. See someone who's been visually improving in the gym, offer a very quick "you're doing awesome, bro." Or see someone who nailed their fashion at the mall, maybe say "you're killing it with that outfit" while passing by, you don't even need to stick around for a response. Of course, it might take a lot of hyping yourself up to even do that, I know for a fact it does for me personally. But it also feels good to offer something positive to someone else, and doing something good outside of a daily routine or comfort zone could instill a sense of confidence and accomplishment. I believe in you, king. Keep that head up, for the crown on your head may be heavy, but it stands tall when it ain't falling.

FranklyHam

Ventin' is normal, put it all out. Try to seek help from a specialist. It helped me a little.

L0ne_Br0

Hey man, I understand how you feel. It can feel devastating when there is no felt progress but even by thinking about and and trying to work on it even at a baby steps pace you will make strides towards your goal. Keep holding strong, I know you'll get there.

Charles Ellsworth

I feel that too man. Sometimes I get depressed thinkin' about all the people out there that has someone, but at the end of the day, it's most important to love yourself first, and then if the planets align (like my luck, lol) then it'll come. ^^

Chubby Bunny

My guy, you are valid and driven. YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. Keep at it Tele you, you are doing a good job!

Chandelar Clark

Your welcome homie and don’t give up buddy I’m sure it’ll happen maybe not today or tomorrow but it’ll happen someone will pop up unexpectedly and love you like crazy lol

Spinalceasar

I feel you brother

MiniMex

Good luck friend, no knows what's best for you other than yourself. Take some time to find out what you want, we support you all the way.

Taha Alaswad

Say what u want but my life has drastically improved and I've been leagues more social and happy since following his advice. Stay happy in the slow lane brother✌️

Alexis

Sorry that it feels that way, I get the same feeling too. Hang in there.

spectrephon

I’ve never connected more with a post than this one, who would have thought the person I look up to in so many ways also struggles with things I have been for so long. I can’t offer you assurance but I can say that you’ve already brought a lot of joy to others than a relationship ever would. I hope you really do find that special someone we all know you deserve

Shmooify

I feel everything you said here. Like you said, it isn't true, but it feels totally insurmountable. I take some comfort in knowing this is way more common than it's made out to be. I don't know, I feel like maybe if I get to know myself a little better I'll have something more to put out there but it really is difficult man. I wish the best for you, I know you can get through it even though it's shit.

Bingus

I feel you. I felt this way for a long time and got way down for a while to dark places. Luckily I ended up finding someone, and I feel like I now have the confidence to do it again if I ever had to. I know hearing about other's getting through it doesn't always make it feel any better, but just keep yourself going and do your best not to worry about outcomes, just that you were willing to take a chance. Hope it gets better for you, bud.

vincent mcclintock

Never give up on your quest for love and companionship. It's there when you least expect it. Focus more on yourself and your perspectives of your current living.

Luz Paulino

everything is going to be okay. we love you :) even if we’re strangers.

shynoodle64

Tele, have you tried online dating? Humble/Coffee Meets Bagel are pretty good.

Grandmiral

Same for me, i fell you Tele. I know it's almost nothing, but I understand and support you. Stay strong. Love <3

Sad

Oof, it's like reading my own diary. We'll find someone eventually <3

E.

We're all rooting for you, Tele-Man!

Shadow Soulless

I’m sorry to man, hope things turn around sooner rather then latter.

Saucy

I literally felt this same thing just recently. Shit hurts man, hopefully we'll figure things out, here's to hopin

dj vape

That guy seems kinda toxic "Emotional men are weak" wtf bro.

Fuzzy LittleBastard

I feel what you are experiencing. I work and I lounge at home. It doesn't give me any opportunities to meet new people, especially women. I'm 28 and single and it will likely stay that way for awhile. It's rough but manageable. Until it isn't I guess. Feel free to reach out if you feel the need! 😁

Noah Brown

I’ve felt the same way for a long time

Parker Harpley

I feel ya man I've honestly never been on a date but one day hopefully we both can find that someone

ZombietheZerker

I'm sorry man. I can empathize with that feeling of being on an island. I'm sure you'll find someone who'll love you for all the amazing features that make you, you.

MaccusNormann

Have you tried online dating? Hinge, bumble, etc, lots of ways to meet other shut-ins and stuff.

John Atkins

Relatable. Very very relatable. First of all, anti depressants. Second of all hang in there man. I 100% get it and I wish you the best of luck because it’s fucking rough buddy.

Edmund Ridesatthedoor

A lot of people seem to feel this way these days, myself included. Most of my friends are single, and so far only one of them might get married. We're all in our late twenties.

Fuzzy LittleBastard

Trust me, watch Hamza on YouTube. He changed my life

Alexis

Same fam I feel this from the bottom of my heart stay strong and do your best and if you ever need to talk I’m hete

GHinfinite

I also have the same issue. My work schedule doesn’t allow for much free time and I mentally hate leaving the house.

Tabasco

I offer a friend to play tarkov with as is fun

Cheif3379

Awwwh buddy... Do you want hug?

boxcar1996