You Don’t Have to Apologise For Your Disability ❤️
Added 2024-12-12 13:06:47 +0000 UTCFrom one autistic adult to many others, you’re going to have meltdowns, you’re going to scream and cry and not know why it’s happening. It’s okay. Your disability is exhausting and a tax on your body and mind. You don’t have to apologise for it.
The last few days have been horrible. Meltdown after meltdown, screaming, crying, banging my head into walls and doors.
This is autism. It’s exhausting and a detriment to millions of people’s mental and physical health. It is not a superpower for me and many others. It makes day to day life very challenging, including work, socialising and managing everyday tasks.
My instinct is to apologise and bow and scrape and say “I’m so sorry that I’m useless and that I can’t do this or that” but I know other neurodivergent people and I don’t blame them. So, I’m trying to treat myself as I would others - with kindness and respect.
Disabilities are disabling. And that’s not your fault. You don’t need to apologise for something you didn’t cause.
Comments
It means a lot to hear this. Work has been stressful lately and I've felt guilty being so overwhelmed. ty Tea.
Will Penney
2024-12-14 18:26:18 +0000 UTCI had know idea that you’re on the Spectrum Tea. I’m also on the spectrum too and thx so much for speaking for us who go through tough days when we feel like just breaking down emotionally and mentally by letting it all out of your system as a person who have to live and manage with Autism/Asperger‘s on a daily basis just to get through life in general. Also, I just wanted to say thank you for making the type of ASMR content for your Patreon community to listen too. Keep up the good work and know that we all very much appreciate and support your work on whatever makes you the happiest and most successful in your life too.
Zan Knox
2024-12-13 08:05:00 +0000 UTCThank you Tea. Really needed to hear that today.
amaZAN537
2024-12-13 06:22:47 +0000 UTCPreach, sister. The struggle is real. ♾
DrChallenger
2024-12-12 22:10:54 +0000 UTCI work with a company called Ambitious about Autism and would recommend signing up if you are in the UK, young and struggling with problems related to autism.
Greenstrike
2024-12-12 22:10:35 +0000 UTCI didn't intend to get competitive, and I'm sorry. I got carried away because everyone hear understands, and I feel like slightly less of a burden than I do towards anyone else.
Lachlan Parker
2024-12-12 20:56:59 +0000 UTCMy youngest sister is autistic. I do what I can to shield her as much as possible from the cruelty of the outside world. At the same time I also teach her about survival just in case something happens to me.
rubynall
2024-12-12 18:32:38 +0000 UTCCome as you are and the right people will accept you. That’s the best thing, when you have your own group of genuine friends and family
Camilo Iribarren
2024-12-12 18:26:54 +0000 UTCJust makes it all the more impressive when you manage to succeed in spite of the setbacks!
boowomp
2024-12-12 17:37:37 +0000 UTCGlad I'm not the only autistic person who goes through it. You're audios, along with others have helped me cope with it and with the stress of work because of the holiday season. Glad to be a part of an amazing community
Megaholmes97
2024-12-12 17:05:37 +0000 UTCI’m a neurodivergent young adult man who has autism, as a kid I took sarcasm literally as an adult I still don’t like sarcasm but I respond with no reaction, some people overreact because they always expect people to give them a reaction but the people that understand my stoicism will know that it’s okay to be unreadable and neurodivergent and not have to fit in the mold of the typical environment. I see autism as a different way of the circuits in our brain processing our environment and how we act. You are right TeaCup, neither will I apologize for how my brain functions and processes.
Juniper
2024-12-12 17:01:36 +0000 UTCYour experience is valid. Everyone’s different. Some people have higher support needs than others. It’s not a competition and who would want to win if it was? All the best.
TeacupAudio
2024-12-12 16:43:34 +0000 UTCIt’s a combination of PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder), Autism and a lapse in Sertraline. Not a good combo. It’s essentially just a lot going on in the brain. Nothing to do with Christmas or other people. Just silly brain chemistry.
TeacupAudio
2024-12-12 15:53:44 +0000 UTCYou don't have to apologize for anything Tea. We all here to support and help you out. And if needed slow down and take a break on the audios until you feel better.
Phoenix Brave Hideki
2024-12-12 15:51:07 +0000 UTCTo all my neuro divergent people some of yall like tea are some of the most inspirational people in my life. Yall taught me patience, kindness and ability to see things from others perspectives. Keep being awesome at whatever you do and take your time to distress and don't be so hard on yourself. -With love from a stranger on the internet.
Boopman
2024-12-12 15:37:13 +0000 UTCthis is truth 🧡💛💚💙😁😁😁😎😎😎💪💪💪👍👍👍💙💚💛🧡
Lost Puppy
2024-12-12 15:33:57 +0000 UTCYou’re doing a great job Tea, Just know you have the support of all of your fans and I hope you have a great holiday season. Thank you for being such a kind soul, you deserve nothing but the best
Jacob McCraw
2024-12-12 15:02:58 +0000 UTCHonestly, I wish that autism was the only issue my body and mind have to deal with every single second of every single day, with the others being medical issues including epilepsy. Autism is potentially only the 2nd worst of my disabilities, as well, because I also have Fibromyalgia as one of my worst conditions. Fibromyalgia effects both the body and the mind, albeit mostly the body (search it up to make sure you don't have it yourself). Everything you said is correct, but I feel several times more useless than if I only had autism, so I cannot be as self-confident as you. I'm sorry if this dampens or ruins the mood for a moment or two, but my day-to-day life is inconsistent with happiness despite lacking for little in regards to creature comforts. I dread to imagine
Lachlan Parker
2024-12-12 14:53:38 +0000 UTCWell... i could say i understand. Kinda. Was lucky enough to be able to hide most of my outbursts and lows from general public and fam (didn't end well when i wasn't tho) so didn't have to, or rather, didn't feel the need to apologize. But, should i knew that I'd be this way, how much effort would it take to mask it and how would it affect my life, i'd gladly strangle myself with umbilical cord.
Verid
2024-12-12 14:21:54 +0000 UTCIs this a time of the year thing? Winter depression can be one hell of a pain in the ass and the holidays don't help if you have uncomfortable conversations to look forward to. For what little it's worth, I hope things improve for you.
TheZombieDoc
2024-12-12 13:42:30 +0000 UTCAll you can do is the best you can in your situation, for sure. For what it's worth, you're doing pretty good from the outside looking in. A career that let's you take care of yourself and your kin while also making others happy is a great place to be, neurotypical or neurodivergent. Thank you for your work and your struggle, both have inherent merit.
Armphid
2024-12-12 13:18:09 +0000 UTCI read this and just got overcome by the desire to give you hug, you have given so much of yourself for so long and I think I speak for most if not all of us when I say that we deeply appreciate you and the lengths you go to to help us feel less alone, I know we might never actually speak personally, but know that I am incredibly proud of you Charlotte, you're strong, brave, immeasurably talented and hard working, that even in your darkest days you still give your best to the world, and that's what matters, so keep on keeping on, you've got this.
Gabe Solano
2024-12-12 13:15:59 +0000 UTC
