HOUSEHOLD RULES THE TANAKA WOMEN HAD TO FOLLOW 💭

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How is everyone doing ? I hope all is well. Today I will be releasing a set of household rules women married into the Tanaka family had to follow. Trigger warning for those who hate the patriarchy or sensitive to violence against women . Though , Hiro did not enforce 96% of these rules in his marriage. They were still practiced within his father’s marriage .

1. Most weddings were prearranged. Their spouses had to be virgins, not only for purity, but also because the concept of sharing their wives with another man was disgusting. Thus, the majority of their brides were between the ages of 13 and 15 when they married.

2. They had to wear traditional clothes both inside and outside the house. They wore yukatas indoors and kimonos outside. They consisted of a range of kimonos for different occasions, all made of high-quality materials.

3. Although they were married, they did not have an 'equal partnership'. The family hierarchy normally goes as follows: 'Grandfather-Father-Son-Grandmother-Wife'. This would be the hierarchy only if the wife had a son; otherwise, she would not be on that panel. They were rarely asked for their input or allowed to make decisions without their husbands' agreement.

4. Their husbands prohibited them from working or earning their own income. Their husbands gave them money for special events, such as visits to food markets. If they needed money to buy something personal for themselves, they couldn't ask for it and had to wait until their husbands offered it to them or they earned it by performing excessive tasks around the house.

5. They did not receive any help or assistance. Typically, they would be in charge of child upbringing, household maintenance, and caring for grandparents who lived with them. They were given rest periods' after birth for two weeks. However, this was generally the case when they had a son. They would limit their rest period to 4-5 days if they had a daughter.

6. They couldn't sleep longer periods than their husbands. This was interpreted as a gesture of contempt because it appeared that they were of equal standing. They could be asleep between 9 p.m. and 4 a.m., or 11 p.m. and 6 a.m. As long as wives completed all household tasks before their husbands arrived home, they could take naps throughout the day.

7. The only time they were allowed to leave the house without their spouse was to go to the grocery store, and they had to bring the children along. It couldn't take more than two hours. They would then have to show the receipt to their husbands and check off each item with them. The spouse would receive any remaining change. This was to foster trust between them. Everything needed to be accounted for.

8. Every day at a specific hour, they had to prepare and serve dinner correctly. The whole family had to have dinner at the same time. They generally sat at the same table. However, if there was an important topic to discuss, the men of the family would sit at the main table while the ladies and younger children sat at another table. The males eat first, and everyone else follows suit.

9. They couldn't engage in conversation with other men or Yakuza leaders. They were also not allowed to look at them. When in the company of a man other than their spouse, their gaze should be toward the floor if standing or on the table if kneeling.

10. They had to be feminine, with proper posture and manners. It was not permissible to talk or laugh out loud. A giggle or a close-mouthed smile is an acceptable 'laugh'.

I will add another trigger warning ⚠️ before continuing. If you are sensitive to domestic abuse, please do not continue or read at your own risk.

11. Punishments. The men in the Tanaka family did not see beating their wives or mothers as abuse. They referred to it as 'discipline' for minor errors and 'punishment' for more serious ones. The husbands or sons had to decide which group the mistake belonged to. Everything hinged on their personalities. They implemented these punishments, or acts of discipline, in a variety of ways. However, each household designated a room specifically for punishment.

12. These restrictions were imposed on the women after marriage, and they learned as they went. The men believed it was easier for them to learn these rules through trial and error.

13. They couldn't tell their husbands 'no', 'I don't want to', or 'Wait a second'. This was interpreted as a gesture of disobedience and was not taken lightly. Even if it was something they didn't love, wanted to do, or were incapable of doing, They still had to do it. This includes intimacy, which was not perceived as rape by their husbands. Instead of treating the wives as human beings, they treated them as objects and possessions.

Thank you for reading . I will leave most of the other rules up to the storytelling .

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