16 Things To Know Before You Turn 30

1. Nothing Is Ever Solved By Complaining

Complaining is easy, which is why most people do it.

When things go wrong, people often say

 'nothing ever goes their way,' 'life isn't fair,' and 'nothing ever works out.'

That's a victim mentality.

If something's gone wrong, complaining won't fix it. It'll just make things worse.

Constantly moaning about your problems won't bring solutions; it just spreads negativity.

If it's in your control, fix it. Take action and make the changes needed.

If it's not, accept it and move on. Focus your energy on what you can control and keep pushing forward.

2. Self-Accountability

"But it's not my fault."

This ties back to the first point. When things go wrong, people often don't consider their own role in the situation.

Take responsibility for your actions and mistakes. Own up to your choices and outcomes.

It's easy to point fingers, but real growth comes from looking in the mirror.

Stop blaming others and start taking charge of your life. The sooner you do, the quicker you'll grow and improve.

Acknowledging your role in any situation is the first step toward making better decisions in the future.

3. Structure and Routine Are the Foundation of Everything

Without a consistent daily structure, your life will be all over the place.

Routines and structure don't have to be complicated.

They just need to be consistent daily habits that bring you closer to your goals.

A solid routine provides stability and direction in your life.

4. Your Looks and Appearance Matter

We live in a society where everyone wants to be loved 'for who they are.'

But that's not how the world operates. This world is shallow, and you are judged on your appearance, presentation, and looks.

Your looks and presentation can open doors or block opportunities.

• A solid skincare routine is a must.

• Good clothes that are clean and ironed are essential. Good clothes don't mean the trendiest clothes.

• Presentable hair is crucial.

• Maintaining a healthy weight is important.

• A clean and tidy living space is non-negotiable.

• A well-organised life setup is a game-changer, especially for men.

Bonus: If you can afford it, cosmetic procedures can be beneficial (hair transplants, laser treatments skin resurfacing, botox, fillers, etc.). These are the real game changers if someone wants to have a complete transformation in their looks.

I've already made content on this subject, and if you haven't seen it, I suggest you check it out.

5. Masculinity Is Essential for the World

Don't let modern narratives shame you out of being a masculine guy.

Don't let people throw 'toxic masculinity' at you to suppress the male aggression that drives you forward in life.

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for having a primal desire for women and sex.

Don't let society shame you for wanting wealth and riches to enjoy life's 'shallow' pleasures.

Everything in this world is built on masculine energy—the jobs, the buildings, the schools, hospitals, and restaurants.

Without masculinity, the world would crumble.

Men build the world.

Women set the temper for the world.

Masculinity is good. Embrace it.

6. Your Ability to Provide Defines You

As a man, as you get older, everyone depends on you.

Your mother, sister, girlfriend, wife, kids.

Being 'the funny guy with a nice personality' only lasts so long.

It's not about being the richest guy around, but you need to be in a position where you can provide for yourself and those closest to you.

The ability to provide is key to being a man. It’s about reliability, strength, and support. Being able to take care of your loved ones is a fundamental part of your role and identity.

Financial stability is crucial, but so is emotional and physical support.

The ability to provide is key to being a man. It’s about reliability, strength, and support.

Being able to take care of your loved ones is a fundamental part of your role and identity. It’s not just about money; it’s about being the rock others can lean on.

 7. Stop Waiting for Someone to Hold Your Hand – You're No Longer a Little Boy

A lot of guys who grew up with overly caring mums have trouble making their own decisions and thinking for themselves.

They've been cuddled their whole lives and struggle with basic decision-making and leadership skills as adults.

By age 17, you need to stop relying on mum and dad so much, especially for minor inconveniences.

It's fine to receive help sometimes if you come from a strong family support system, but don't become dependent of that support system. Otherwise, you'll lack the ability to handle challenging things on your own as you get older.

Learn to handle your own issues. One day, mum and dad will be gone, and there won't be anyone around to do it for you.

Being the guy who can't think for himself and always waits for someone else to take charge is not healthy for your development as a man.

Even if you still live at home, take the initiative to do things yourself.

Do your own laundry, contribute to the bills occasionally, do the family shopping, clean the whole house, etc.

At work, don't always wait for your boss to tell you what to do next. Look around, see what needs to be done, and do it.

This is called 'taking initiative,' and it's something many guys lack nowadays because they're always waiting for someone to tell them what to do next.

And this annoys a lot of women.

Again, many guys grew up with mothers who did everything for them and told him how much she loved him everyday.

He grows into an adult expecting that same motherly treatment from women whilst still expecting passionate sex from them. 

He doesn’t get that passion and becomes bitter and resentful.

It's hard for a woman to have that passion for you if she views you like a son.

8. Most Negative Situations Are Secretly Positive Experiences

When things go wrong, it’s easy to panic and come to a conclusion that your life has been ruined. 

Sometimes you could fail an interview at a job you THOUGHT you wanted, and then be offered the perfect job 3 months later. 

Sometimes you could go through a devastating heartbreak with someone you thought you loved, just to end up meeting your TRUE soulmate  2 years later. A person who makes you cry from joy instead of misery. 

Life has a way of turning what seem like negative experiences into valuable lessons and opportunities for growth. 

You can't connect the dots looking forward

You can only connect them looking backward. Everything always makes sense after.

You would only understand how a series of actions lead to consequences if you look back.

9. Mentally Erase All of the Past Negative Life Experiences and Start Fresh

Many people hold onto past experiences their whole life and never move past them. However, life moves forward regardless.

As an adult no one cares or knows that you was bullied in high school. Unless you tell people

No one cares or even knows you had self-confidence or self-esteem issues when you were younger.

No one cares about your insecurities.

Clear all of that out of your mind and start fresh. What’s happened has happened. What's done is done.

Holding onto the past won't change anything. You can't go back and undo it.

"Oh, everyone used to laugh at me because…."

Clear your head, let it go, and start fresh.

Those days are behind you now. Life is different in adulthood.

Adopt new beliefs and affirmations you tell yourself every day. Reinvent yourself with a positive mindset and focus on the present and future. Embrace the opportunity to start fresh and make the most of it.

Treat life like a video game, you can maximise your 'character' and upgrade yourself into however you want.

The old you, was the base, starter character. Not at it's best and with the weakest attributes.

10. Women Are Just as Nervous as You Are

Women worry about being single forever. especially as they get older.

Women worry about whether any guy genuinely likes them beyond their sexuality.

Women worry about having sex with a guy only to find out he was lying about how much he loved her, or worse, leaves her to raise a child on her own.

Even the most beautiful women have insecurities. It's hard to believe, but it's true.

You must view attractive women as human beings who happen to have good genetics. That's all.

Don't let their beauty intimidate you. They're dealing with their own doubts and fears, just like you.

Remember, they're just as human as you are. 

11. There Are Levels to This World

There's a different side of life that many people don't even know exists.

You might think making £50,000 a year is impressive until you meet someone who makes that in a week.

You might think your business making £1,000,000 a year is impressive until you meet people who spend that just on their monthly staff salaries.

There are levels to life, and every time you think you've hit the peak, keep your hunger and maintain what you have built or aim for the next level.

After a certain point, money becomes a minor driving factor. The main reason to keep pushing is to stay motivated and have a reason to get out of bed every day.

Contrary to popular belief, the idea of sipping cocktails by the beach forever isn't as fun as it seems in your imagination. After a while, you'll get extremely bored of that.

Many people fall into depression because they don't have a purpose that makes them want to get out of bed every morning.

Never think you're at the top—you aren't even a quarter of the way there.

Even if you do reach the top, it's your responsibility to set new standards and expectations for what it takes to be at the top.

 12. If There Is No Enemy Within, the Enemy Outside Can Do You No Harm

Your internal struggles and doubts are often your greatest obstacles.

When you're strong and secure within yourself, external problems and criticisms lose their power over you. (Hate, jealousy, fear mongering etc..)

"Enemy within":  internal factors such as personal weaknesses, negative traits, self-destructive behaviours, lack of discipline, or unresolved conflicts within oneself. These are the aspects that can potentially affect your growth and success.

If you overcome your internal fears, insecurities, and negative self-talk, then external challenges cannot defeat you.

"Enemy outside": This represents external factors, such as challenges, obstacles, or adversities that come from the outside world. It could include criticism, hate, societal pressures, or any external factors that may pose a threat or hinder progress. 

''Enemies'' know what buttons to push, they know how to effectively impact us using our fears and insecurities against us.

The doubts, fears and insecurities we feel is our true enemies.

These emotions are the root of many of our problems.

The greatest challenge and obstacle any human will face is their own doubts, their own fears and their own conditioned thoughts.

This does not mean that you will never get upset or angry in your life,

it simply shows you your positive and negative traits, so that you can redirection it in the best possible (and positive) way for you,

Everything is inside you. Your thoughts make and break you.

Mentally, you need to be UNBREAKABLE.

13. Patience Is a Superpower for Men

Patience means going 2-3 years without entertaining women whilst you are building a business or saving and stacking your money and building your physique.

Understand that as a man, you won’t reach your peak until 12-14 years after women have reached theirs.

Many men are living their life on a female timeline.

Women tend to hit their social and physical peak in their early to mid-20s, gaining attention and opportunities during these years.

Men reach their prime later, usually in their mid-30s to early 40s, when they've had time to build their careers, financial stability, physique and personal development.

A man living on a female timeline means prioritising short-term gains and social validation, which can lead to distractions and missed opportunities for long-term growth.

Instead of chasing fleeting rewards, focus on laying a solid foundation for your future.

As a man, your prime years come later, so it's crucial to focus on building yourself up—career, business, health, and mindset.

Patience allows you to invest time in your growth, leading to long-term success and stability.

Stay focused and disciplined now, and the rewards will come later.

Embrace the waiting game as your secret weapon for a successful and fulfilling life. Prioritise your development and watch how everything else falls into place in due time.

Patience doesn't mean sitting around doing nothing.

patience means putting in the work but understanding it may take 10 years to really see the outcome you want in whatever you are pursuing.

14. Never Be Afraid or Embarrassed About What Motivates You

If what motivates you forces you to level up and be better, go all in.

‘Shallow’ things motivate me, and I get shamed for it every time I mention it.

Attractive women, nice cars, fancy holidays, big restaurants, money, expensive shit…

These things push me to become a better man and work harder. You can't get these things handed to you.

It takes hard work, skill, ambition, dedication, intelligence, effective money management, and smart decisions to reach a point where you can have all those things I just mentioned.

If you're motivated by “shallow” things, use that to get you to where you want to be.

There's a high chance you may no longer want those “shallow” things once you've reached that level due to becoming more mature in life. But by then, at least you'll have the money and achievements.

It's important to have things that motivate you to be better, no matter how “moral” or “shallow” they seem.

Motivation is not something to rely on long-term since it's unreliable. However, motivation is the spark to the fire of your dream life.

Without motivation, it's hard to have the emotional and mental energy to start something.

Once things are going, you just have to stay disciplined to maintain your efforts and results.

So, never be afraid or embarrassed about what drives you. Use it to fuel your journey and achieve your goals.

15. Do the Right Thing, Even If It Hurts You

Integrity is non-negotiable. Always do the right thing, even when it's difficult or painful.

Doing the right thing often means making tough choices that might not benefit you immediately. It could mean admitting your mistakes, or making sacrifices for a greater good.

In the short term, doing the right thing might hurt you. You might lose opportunities, face criticism, or experience setbacks. But in the long run, maintaining your integrity builds character and earns respect.

Your reputation and self-respect are worth more than any temporary gain from cutting corners or making unethical decisions. Stay true to your principles, even when it's hard.

16. Longevity vs. Pushing Harder

When life gets incredibly tough and it becomes too much, take a break.

Sometimes, life be LIFING.

• Heartbreaking breakups

• Miscarriages

• Family member or close friends dies

• Business 'partner' fucks you over and runs off with the cash

• Someone tries to kill you

• Recovering from a big surgery

You will crash if you attempt to keep pushing harder like nothing happened.

You're better taking 2 weeks to 1 month off to focus on getting your mental and emotional health right than trying to battle through tough emotional and mental situations, only to crash and then need a year of therapy to feel like yourself again.

Taking a break is cool.

Play video games, travel a bit, chill more. Just don’t fall into any self-destructive habits during this period.

Longevity is about knowing when to push and when to rest.

-Till Next Time