Things That holds Back The Black, White And Asian Communities

Here are some harsh truths that might ruffle some feathers, but knowing them could save you from getting stuck.

This Patreon is for anyone who wants to reach the top.

I’m here to help, not blame.

These are just things I've noticed growing up around different cultures, and how their "normal" behaviours are holding them back from achieving massive success.

1. Black Culture

I'll start with black culture because I'm black.

My culture is obsessed with having the biggest, shiniest, flashiest things, especially amongst the men. There's intense pressure to have the nicest car, the biggest house, the most expensive watch, and the trendiest clothes.

That's why you often see black rappers flaunting all this flashy stuff while the record label owner is some skinny, dorky guy in a plain suit.

There's nothing wrong with liking nice things—I love materialism. 

But it becomes a huge problem when you're starting from nothing and TRYING TO GET RICH.

If you're always spending your money to look rich without a real purpose, you won't be able to save and invest to become truly rich.

Most black people come from low-income households and tough neighbourhoods. We've had a hard life growing up with strict parents and harsh environments. This mix naturally gives you the hunger, high testosterone, ambition, motivation, and drive to escape these tough situations.

Black people have all the inner and mental traits needed for massive success. But what stops many is that as soon as they start making some decent money, they immediately spend it on things to look richer than they are.

If my culture had more financial discipline, a lot more of us would be massively successful.

We have the potential, but we need to shift our focus from immediate gratification to long-term wealth. Instead of buying the latest designer clothes or the flashiest car, we should be investing in our futures FIRST.

Education, businesses, stocks—things that will grow our wealth over time and then get the flashy shit once our money is secured.

When you finally start making real cash, avoid the temptation to blow it all on things just to impress the other brokies in the hood.

Some of my fellow black people get their first paycheck and immediately buy a new Mercedes. You’d be better off saving that money for three years to build a cash-flowing business, which can then buy you a new Mercedes every month… but in five years’ time. Be patient.

Black people, be willing to:

• Not have the fanciest clothes.

• Not have the latest sneakers.

• Not be the flashiest and shiniest for a while.

• Skip the new haircut or getting your hair done every week.

• Get no female attention for 3-4 years.

You have the natural mentality, personality, drive, and ambition to be massively successful. Take the short term confidence hit of not appearing like you’re outdoing everyone else.

Know that down the line, your actual reality will be that of a real winner.

2. White Culture

As a black guy, I love white people.

In fact, most black people often call me “whitewashed,” “Oreo,” or a “raccoon” because I have no resentment towards the white culture because a lot of the black community still holds resentment for what white people did do their ancestors 100+ years ago. Makes no sense to me.

The problem with white kids is that they have life way too easy.

Their parents might not be rich, but they’re comfortably middle class.

Most white kids never experience real or unfair life struggles. They turn 18 and get an inheritance home worth £700,000 from their parents 😂

I had a mixed-race best friend raised by his white mum. She spoiled him so much when we were kids.

But today, he’s a low-ambition, bummy guy who hasn’t achieved anything. It hurts to say that, but it’s the truth. A lot of white people in our generation had things too easy.

A white child will do poorly in school, and the parents will come in and shout at the teacher instead of disciplining their child.

They reward their kids for being bad students. Meanwhile, in black and Asian cultures, kids get disciplined or even beaten for having bad grades.

Because life has been easy for a lot of white people, they find it hard to achieve success. They don’t have the “hunger” for it like those who come from lesser financial backgrounds— AKA 'The trenches"

There’s a certain drive for success you only get from growing up in a strict household or growing up poor. No motivational book can teach this.

A lot of white guys will give up in life after hearing their first “no,” whereas someone like me won’t even think about giving up until I’ve heard “no” about 500 times.

The easy life of no accountability and lots of comfort sets them up for failure as adults or it holds them back from what they're really capable of achieving.

I am aware there are white kids who come from military families or they grew up in tough environments but those types are the exception.

3. Asian Culture

What holds back the Asian and Indian communities?

I’m very good friends with a lot of Asians, and here’s what I’ve noticed:

Asians tend to stay at home with their parents much longer. This is a VERY smart financial move because it allows them to save a lot of money.

Most Asians are first-generation wealth. Their parents usually came with nothing and worked extremely hard for 30-40 years to build a stable life and set their kids up well.

The Asian setup is great, but it’s also similar to white culture in that it can be a bit too easy:

• My Asian friends always have homemade food every night.

• They don’t experience the stress of paying their own bills because they live at home for free well into their 30s and 40s.

• They often drive their parents' nice cars with fully paid-off insurance.

• All of their laundry is done for them.

This makes a lot of Asian men and women not realise how easy and perfectly set up they are to be massively successful.

Most second- and third-generation Asians don’t have the same mentality as their parents or like black people to make it out of hard living conditions.

This comfort has made many of the newer generation of Asians a lot softer than their parents, who started from nothing and worked their way up.

They lack that drive and hunger that comes from experiencing real struggle.

Their parents faced harsh realities and challenges. This instilled in them a strong work ethic and determination. But this hasn’t fully transferred to their kids, who benefit from the stability and comfort provided by their parents’ hard work.

While the older generation had to fight for every bit of success, the newer generation often takes these comforts for granted.

This ease of life can create a sense of laziness and complacency.

Without the pressure to fend for themselves, many young Asians miss out on developing critical life skills and the resilience needed to push through tough times. If they faced more challenges and responsibilities earlier on, they might cultivate the grit and tenacity necessary for massive success.

The Perfect Combination?

There are pros and cons to all cultures. Take the good and ignore the bad.

Have the mentality of white kids where you’re not super hard on yourself when you make mistakes and errors in life, knowing tomorrow is another day to try again. This can help you bounce back and keep moving forward without being weighed down by self-doubt.

Maintain the ruthless work ethic of a black person who grew up in harsh conditions and the hunger to escape tough neighbourhoods. This drive and determination is essential for pushing through obstacles and achieving your goals, no matter how tough the journey gets.

Be wise enough to make smart financial decisions like Asians. Stay at home longer and avoid being super flashy for a few years while making good money. This allows you to aggressively use your finances and education to build real wealth. Save and invest wisely.

However, don’t let the privilege of living with your parents make you lazy. Recognise that this is a financial advantage as you get older. Use this time to set yourself up for success rather than coasting on the comfort provided by your family.

Combine these elements, and you’ll have a powerful formula for success.

Balance resilience with ambition and financial savvy to create a life where you’re not only surviving but thriving.

Adapt and apply the best practices from each culture, and you'll be well on your way to achieving massive success.

-Till next time