4 Sexual Traps & Temptations You Should Avoid

These temptations could potentially lead to long term regret or a bunch of added stress and misery in your life.

1. Having sex with people in relationships / marriages

When (SOME) people feel vulnerable in their relationship, they can look for comfort in another person to talk to their problems about

They will play the damsel in distress and tell you all kinds of sad stories:

“He/She is so abusive to me”

“He/She doesn’t spend time with me anymore”

“He/She has stopped doing everything they once used to do”

“He/She does not satisfy me sexually”

“He/She doesn’t care about me”

“He/She broke my heart, what am I going to do”

Then what happens is that, if you’re a man, you will immediately go into protective mode, and if you’re a woman, you will adopt a motherly and caring vibe. Especially if it's someone you find physically attractive.

You will do this in an attempt to try and save them from the devastation they’re supposedly experiencing. Also, if you find them attractive and they have a nice personality, this leads to you developing feelings and trying to show them that you are different from their partner.

You will use this as an opportunity to try and be the opposite of everything he or she is complaining to you about their partner because you believe they are genuinely tired and done with that relationship or marriage.

With these types of people, they will use you, ghost you, then run right back into the arms of their ex.

When someone is genuinely tired of a relationship, they will leave or get a divorce. Contrary to popular belief, it’s actually a very easy decision to make.

Be very careful when you have a person in an active relationship complaining to you about problems in their relationship if there is a romantic or sexual vibe between you.

2. Entertaining Relationships With People Who Are fresh Out Of A Breakup

When PEOPLE are fresh out of breakups, they are emotionally vulnerable.

This vulnerability can make them behave in ways that have you feel as if they’re highly interested in building something serious with you.

But that’s not always the case, they are most likely subconsciously using you to heal and get over what they went through. Then they will leave you once they get over their ex to someone they actually like.

If you just want to have sex and short term fun with this person, then this does not apply. 

This mainly applies when trying to build a serious relationship with someone fresh out of a breakup / divorce.

Fresh out of a breakup = The first 3-5 months after the breakup.

Divorce? It depends. If kids are involved in that previous relationship then that ex partner is tied with this person forever. However, it will take longer than 5 months to heal from a divorce. It mainly depends on the length of the marriage.

For most people, when they are emotionally vulnerable, they will accept anyone who is around and shows some love to them so they can have a comforting shoulder to cry on during those difficult moments.

This does not mean you cannot speak to them. 

The main purpose of of this point is to warn you to not allow any strong feelings which can be developed in a very short time frame for someone fresh out of a breakup / divorce to trick you into believing you’re their saviour and ultimately becoming their true soulmate.

If you want something serious and you are talking to someone who is within the first 5 months of a breakup, take your time. 

Of course, there are ALWAYS exceptions. There are times some people can develop genuine feelings for you in these types of situations. But don’t assume this exception to be you

It’s very common for exes to get back together. Nowadays many people are in on and off relationships. 

It’s nothing for an ex to text them saying “Hey I miss you, I think we should try and work things out” then they have the makeup sex and then they get back together.

Just for you to end up getting ghosted, left with no explanation and feeling empty and crushed (emotionally) because of how much you poured and invested into that person. 

Take it easy when dealing with people fresh out of a breakup.

3. Friends With Benefits

Even if you do agree with a person that there will be nothing serious happening and it will JUST be casual, this is not always guarantee like you might think.

If you spend enough time around someone, you can grow to love them.

As friends with benefits, you will still be hanging out and talking really frequently. 

It is easy to develop strong emotions and feelings towards anything we spend enough time with on a consistent basis and adding sex to this will amplify that even more.

The big problem can happen when you find another person that you view as ‘wifey’ or ‘husband’ material. (Someone you can see yourself building a future with)

The person you had friends and benefits with might not like this and won’t allow you to move on so easily. This can lead to a lot of BS and drama.

You moving onto a serious relationship means you can’t make any more time for them and sometimes they may not be prepared to accept this because of how attached they are to you.

And because they are attached, you not wanting anything serious will have them to think you don't care about them or something is wrong with them.

The idea of this can be really uncomfortable to some people. They could even go as far as trying to sabotage and ruin your new relationship.

Be careful when doing friends with benefits because peoples emotions change when you hang around them a lot.

Even if what they agreed to 7 months ago was completely different. 

4. (Mainly for men) Women that tell you ‘finish’ inside of them 💦 

“PLEASE CUM IN ME DADDY!!” 😩

This final point applies more on men than the women but women should still use this sam framework for when engaging in unprotected sex.

As a man, if you are not ready to be a father you should NEVER ejaculate inside of any woman. 

When you ejaculate inside of a woman, you are making a contract with God / The universe agreeing that you are ready to bring life into this world.

When you ejaculate in a woman, you NO LONGER have a say so on what she chooses to do with the baby. 

As a man, you are the one who is responsible for impregnating a woman because without you, she would not be pregnant. 

Women have flexible emotions, they could swear up and down that they would do abortion or take the morning after pills if they got pregnant, but things can change when they realise they have life inside of them. 

It is not wise of YOU to put your future in the hands of a woman by trying to negotiate with her to get rid of a child you are not ready for. 

No matter how great the sex feels, if you are not ready for a child, you must:

1. Pull out

2. or practice safe sex with the use of YOUR condoms.

Do women have their own forms of contraception? Yes, but again, it’s stupid of YOU to rely and put your destiny in the hands of someone else. 

Don’t rely on her saying she will take the after-pill.

OK, but what if she forgets and then it turns into a real pregnancy where life is really in her and she starts feeling super guilty about the thought of killing a baby? At that point there is NOTHING YOU CAN DO and it will be all down to her choice.

At that point, all you can do is hope, pray and count your lucky stars that she chooses an abortion because SHE doesn’t feel ready. 

I have had friends who were not religious but they turned SUPER RELIGIOUS within those 3-4 weeks of them waiting on the girl to make a decision if she will abort the baby or not 🤣🤣

All jokes aside, abortions are extremely traumatising for a woman, mentally and emotionally.

It FUCKS with their hormones big time and it can take women a really long time to recover from it. 

https://www.newsweek.com/lasting-trauma-abortion-opinion-1753331

As a man, It’s not fair for YOUR ACTIONS to be putting someone through this. Do not normalise abortion because this is destructive to society. 

Make sure YOU do what YOU have to do, to not have any unwanted babies. 

When women are in the mood they will say ANYTHING and if you are stupid enough to ejaculate in a woman whilst you are not ready for a child, then that could be decision you regret and changes your entire life.

Will some women take measures to make sure they don’t get an unwanted pregnancy, absolutely. But that does not mean you should not take responsibility and make your own wise decisions. 

It’s stupid to gamble your future in the hands of someone else. 

Never allow a moment of emotional impulsiveness to lead you into doing something that ruins the rest of your life.

-Noah Chambers Jr