3 Emotions That Expose You to Manipulation

These will be three negative emotions that can kill your dreams.

These emotions are used to control people, lower their self esteem and ultimately trick them out of their greatest wants and desires.

1. Guilt Tripping

Feeling guilty is normal if you've actually wronged someone. However, if you haven't done anything harmful or destructive, don't let guilt overwhelm you.

Often, people will try to manipulate you by making you feel guilty for things you shouldn't. It's important to reduce any unnecessary guilt about situations where you don't genuinely owe any apologies or reparations.

Lower the guilt you feel towards situations that you shouldn't feel guilty for.

Example, saying no to financial requests because you need YOUR money for yourself.

Or feeling guilty for other people's reactions when you're setting a boundary with them

2. Shame

Unfortunately many people are carrying shame which does not belong to them. That shame was put into them by someone else.

Shame is an invisible emotion that does a lot of damage.

Overcoming shame will require a lot of internal work because you will have to remind yourself everyday that someone else behaviour done on you, is not a reflection of who YOU are.

Forgive yourself for the things you've experienced so you can have peace of mind in your life.

Forgive other people, not because you love them, but so you can release the anger and resentment you hold in your heart towards them in order for YOU to have peace of mind and live in peace.

The only shame you should have is for the things you tolerated that were against your values and the things you did when you knew to do better.

Don't carry shame for the things you did when you was unaware and did not know any better.

many people are carrying the shame which is not their shame to carry, whilst the people who shamed them are happily living their lives.

3. Fear

It is possible to use fear to achieve your goals, but it's only to a certain point.

Too much fear can paralyse you.

Too much fear is the spark to being a victim

Fear mongering is done everywhere. It is done at an individual level, group level and organisational level.

When people become sensitive to fear, they are much easier to control. This is why you are fed with a lot of negativity when someone is trying to get you to take action on something.

People will do MORE to avoid pain than they will to gain pleasure.

Having 'Too much' fear can be dangerous. It can be good as a means to take action or protect yourself from unwanted outcomes but after a certain level, it can lead you to do things you wouldn’t normally do.

example, if you decide to cut off a toxic family member who was really bad to you, people will use fear to guilt trip for standing on business...

"You're not talking to your sister, but what if she died, are you still gonna be like this?"

When someone has hurt you, they have hurt you. Them being alive or not does not invalidate your emotions and what they did to you.

They don't consider the situation of that person having the fear of if you had been the one to died with all the pain and abuse that person put onto you.

Till next time.