Why You FEAR Success (Part 6)

Part 1: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-you-fear-1-99709103

Part 2: https://www.patreon.com/posts/99785606

Part 3: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-you-fear-3-99852173

Part 4: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-you-fear-4-99917946

Part 5: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-you-fear-5-99982938

We will all have our own definition of what success looks like with money, career, health life and relationships.

But generally speaking, success can be defined as:

Success = Achieving significantly MORE than what you’ve done until this point today.

Success = You significantly outperforming your current self.

1. Lack of fulfilment

We’ve all heard stories of people who have become successful but they still were not happy, suffered with depression and feel empty even-though they have a massive amount of success.

Many people who are not as successful love to use these stories as examples and stop themselves from even wanting to be successful.

“Whats the point of trying to be successful if all these rich and famous people are not happy and still committing suicide?”

“Maybe I should just not even be successful because I might end up killing myself for the same reasons they killed themselves”

In my opinion, I believe it would be better to get to the success FIRST and deal with the problems when/if they arise once you get there.

If someone is soo empty and down bad that they end up un-aliving themselves, it’s not the success that did it to them, they would have ended up doing that regardless if they were successful or not.

Those problems were already there before their success. The success didn’t create the problem.

There are many average everyday people who are battling with depression and unaliving themselves everyday. So how can it be the success?

Before you make the decision that success is not gonna make you 'happy', get success first and then see how happy you are.

People love to use this as an excuse to not even try.

People think themselves OUT OF success before it’s even happened. They’ve decided it won’t be worth it before they’ve even reached success.

Become successful first, then you can find out if it was actually as terrifying as you thought it would be.

If it is, then you always have the option of becoming unsuccessful again.

1. Just give away all your money
2. Stop doing all the things that got you the success

And you’ll go back to being the person you was before the success and then you can see if you feel any happier like that.

But at least get the experience first.

2. Change In Relationships

As you become more successful, the people around you may change

Meaning:

1. The people you already know, they as people, will become to act differently towards you.
2. The people around you may end up getting replaced for new people after you reach success.

Sometimes, when you start doing really well and your status skyrockets, people around you begin to act differently.

It's not like they've changed much themselves, it's more about how they see you changing.

They're still pretty much the same person they were before you hit it big. But they notice all the new success and attention you're getting, and it makes them behave in new ways, often without even realising it.

When you start to change and grow much faster than the people around you, your relationships with them start to shift.

It's not that they're changing a lot, it's you who's on a fast track.

This growth creates a gap between you and them, a bigger gap than there was before.

It's like you're moving ahead while they're staying in the same place, and that distance affects how you connect with each other.

And your fear of relationships changing could be whats holding you back.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is tough because it demands bravery. Trying new things takes guts. Sadly, most people lack courage.

Instead, they chase after confidence they don't have, and then they're confused when nothing changes.

Confidence is for things you've already done. Courage is for the new challenges.

Mix these up, and you'll understand why people stay stuck.

3. New Enemies & Becoming Target

We live in a society where people are constantly trying to find ways to get someone CANCELLED.

Success puts you in the spotlight, making you a target for those who might be jealous or disagree with your methods. It's a common downside of rising to the top.

Achieving success means you'll become more well-known, and with that visibility comes the downside: more people aiming at you with bad intentions. It's an unfortunate part of this sweet pie.

There are always going to be negative people out there, and your success tends to bring out the worst in them.

They see you doing well and start to question why you're in a better place than they are, especially when it doesn't seem like there's much difference between you two on a basic level.

It's their way of trying to make sense of their own position by throwing negativity your way.

Being successful draws more people to target you, and it's not necessarily because you've done something wrong.

It's because your success puts you in the spotlight, showcasing achievements others haven't reached, may never reach, or have tried and failed to achieve.

Your success can stir up envy in people who:

Either once had what you have and lost it

Want what you have but haven't gotten it yet

Or tried and failed to reach where you are.

You become a symbol of what they desire, lost, or can't have, sparking jealousy just by being visible and successful.

Remember, there are no perfect scenarios, only trade-offs.

The real question you need to ask yourself is, what trade-off are you willing to accept to achieve the outcome(s) you desire?

- Till next time.