Why You FEAR Success (Part 1)

1. Attention & Criticism

As you create success in your life, you will naturally bring more attention to yourself.

The more attention you attract to yourself, the more attention you will also receive from people who have something to say about you.

Whether it’s positive, negative, or both.

The more attention you have, the more people are going to have an opinion.

If you happen to be in front of a lot of people, and your success happens to be recognised and visible in society.

(This doesn’t mean you being an A-list celebrity, you can just be known for something within your community)

When your success is something visible and noticed by people, this will bring more negativity because of what you have achieved at such a high or respectable level.

You are probably wondering, should people not be getting praised and celebrated for achieving high levels of success.

Yes, they certainly do receive good energy from some people but thats not to say they don’t receive any negativity.

Anyone you can think of who has achieved a great level of success, they certainly have supporters but they also get a lot of hate and negativity too.

You might not see or hear about it all the time, but it’s there. They just do a great job at ignoring it.

When average and below average people notice you, it’s almost as if you become a reflection of the things they failed to do or achieve in life.

There's 3 Types Of Mentalities:

1. Winners Mindset

People with a winners mindset will see someone successful (Or someone who has nice things)

And they’ll look at that in admiration. It motivates them to want do better in their own lives.

“if they can do it, I can do it too”

“How do I learn from him or her.”

And If I was to put a number on it, I’d say only 2% of people in society will look at success this way.

2. People Who Don’t Care

Some people who will see your success and not even care about it.

About 40% of people will look at other peoples success like this.

They will see it, but they won’t care.

3. Haters / Detractors

Then the other 58% of people will look at it from a place of hate, envy, jealousy and resentment.

Your success becomes a reflection of their LACK of success.

Then they create stories in their mind to make you seem like you are lesser than you are, to make them feel better about themselves.

This otherwise known as a coping mechanism.

People make up all kinds of stories…..

They’ll say you only got your success because you come from a rich family

They’ll say you only got your success because you are of a certain colour and then play the race card to make themselves look like a victim.

They’ll say you only got your success because you are of a certain gender.

They will discredit your hard & smart work and make it seem like you was lucky.

Some people will try to make you like you ‘gamed the system’, to make it seem as if you f**ked over people to get to where you are.

PS: There is actually nothing wrong in 'Gaming The System' 

If you are always playing by the rules, you won't go far with certain things. 

It's OK to break the RULES when necessary, just don't break the LAW. 

They’ll try to tear down your character to make you seem immoral and a bad person.

This is what most people do.

They’ll find or create stories to make themselves feel OK to why you have more success than them. (Coping mechanism)

They have the option to look at you as an inspiration, but they choose not to because it can be a big hit to their ego, to look up to you in that way.

Especially if you all started from the same levels, came from the same places etc...

They just try to find ways to mentally pull you down to rationalise what they failed to be, which is what they see in you.

This applies to all areas of life. Business, careers, relationships.

Be prepared for this.

The more successful you become, the more you are going to be hated on by average people.

Because most people love the idea of success, but they HATE the idea of doing the work required to reach those levels of success.

“When you’re the gladiator in the arena, the spectators will talk. Accept it and perform”

2. Judgement

Now this judgement is not just from other people. It’s also judgement that you have on yourself.

First let’s start with the judgement from others.

Most people have been raised to believe really bad things about high levels of success in any forms.

This can be financial success

This can be career success

Or this can be success in love & relationships.

Many people unfortunately have a very negative mentality around how success happens.

When it comes to the subject of MONEY, many people have limiting beliefs and a very negative mentality around it.

They believe that people with lots of money had to do some really bad things to have that level of wealth.

A lot of people have an extremely unhealthy mentality around money.

I spend a lot of time online. Specifically on YouTube and TIK TOK. Most of the content I watch and read is based around business, and money.

In the comments of nearly every single video I see of someone who is doing very well, I always see people leaving negative comments.

There are many, many, many, many people who believe to get to high levels of financial success, you have to be a bad person who is doing evil things to get to level of money.

They believe that you have to be greedy and maliciously use other people without caring about them.

"Eat the rich"

"Cancel all the billionaires"

Please don’t even try to change their minds. It’s not gonna work.

It’s the same thing when it comes to career success.

These are coping mechanisms to make themselves feel okay for why you are further ahead than they are.

These people will judge you and some of them will even be willing to voice their judgement of you.

And the more of them there is, the more confident they become in voicing their judgement of you.

This is what you call ‘The Vocal Minority’

These are the people who will have an opinion of you, and ONLY speak up when they feel supported by your other detractors and haters.

The people who appreciate and support you, tend to do it quietly and privately

Whilst the people who are jealous and hate you will do it loudly and publicly. 

Especially if they feel supported by the other haters.

When it comes to the judgement of yourself.

You’ve been around average and mediocre people your whole life.

We meet them at school, work, in the areas we grow up in.

We come across average people everyday.

And if you are constantly around average people, then a lot of those average and loser mentalities, will be planted in your mentality, the same way it is in there’s.

Like I mentioned earlier, a lot of people have these negative beliefs about money and success because of the stories they were told…..by OTHER average people when they were growing up. 

And now as adults, this is deeply rooted into their mind.

So when you start to create success, these average minded belief systems will start to creep into your mind which can lead to feelings guilt and self doubt. 

3. Future Failure

The fear of failure itself stops many people from even trying to reach success.

Therefore they sabotage their success and do nothing about it.

And they rationalise this by the stories they tell themselves.

When you create new levels of achievement and success, you and the people around you will create a new standard and expectation in your life to do it again and most importantly, to maintain those levels of success.

If you’re used to being at a level 10, you progress to a level 12 and then you drop back to level 10, it just means you failed to achieve a level 12

It doesn’t make you a failure in the grand scheme of things.

Some people will let the FEAR of not being able to get to a level 12, to stop them from trying to get to that level in the first place.

This is otherwise known as self sabotage or also know as BLOCKING YOUR OWN success.

If you are afraid of falling off before you get to a certain point, you are the very one creating your failure before it has even happened.

- Till next time.