5 Lessons I Have Learned From Watching "Sex Life"

Sex Life is a drama show which illustrates a woman who has now settled and had kids with a "high value man" yet she still fantasises and cheats on him with her bad boy ex-boyfriend she met when she was in her hoe phase.

I don't usually watch these chick flick type of shows but a girl had got me into watching it. 

However it was a show I don't regret watching because the story in the TV series happens a lot in real life and soo many guys are unaware.

If you have not seen it, go and watch it. There's currently only 2 seasons out.

Here are a few lessons I have learned from watching sex life:

1. EX BOYFRIENDS ARE EXTREMELY POWERFUL

You will be setting yourself up for a very miserable life if you ever allow a woman you are in a serious relationship with to manipulate you into allowing her to still being friends with her ex.

The only time it's acceptable for a woman you are in a serious relationship with to be in contact with her ex is if it's a situation where they have children together because they would still need to communicate because of the kids. 

Apart from that, there is no other reason why a woman should have her EX in her life if you are in a serious relationship. 

If she's unwilling to let him go, it doesn’t always mean they are still in a sexual relationship or she's cheating.

It means, a part of her is still with him (emotional attachment) which means she won't be able to give you her 100%.

Emotional attachment = Deep feelings of affection, connection, and intimacy that someone develops towards another person over time. It is a bond that goes beyond physical attraction and involves a strong emotional connection between two people.

You should ONLY EVER be in a serious relationship with a woman who is giving you her absolute 100%

2. GREAT SEX IS IMPORTANT

In this series, one of the most obvious things was how sexually unsatisfied the woman was even though she was married to a rich, good looking, well spoken, high status, good job type of guy who gave her the world.

Anything she wanted, he got it for her.... except great sex and excitement.

You can give a woman everything except boredom.

Some women will accept the tradeoff for a good and comfortable life a guy could provide for her and they'll find other ways to sexually satisfy themselves without doing you or the relationship wrong.

However good sex is important.

Sometimes you have to completely dominate a woman in the bedroom

Sometimes you have to turn into an untameable sex beast

ESPECIALLY if you are in a long term relationship.

The problem with most long term relationship is that the couples stop trying. So the sexual fire that was once there slowly burns away over time. 

Whether it's month one of the relationship or YEAR 10 into your relationship, you need to make sure you're slaying the dragon in the bedroom.

This is why many people stay in toxic relationship, because of the good sex and sexual tension, it's damn near the glue of a relationship.

And I'll be honest, before the woman in the series even started fantasising about her sexual past experiences, she tried to spice things up in the bedroom but the guy she was with just was not on her level sexually.

A woman cannot pray away the leg shaking orgasms and amazing sexual experiences. 

The flashbacks and memories will always be there with her for life. 

She will ALWAYS compare you to previous guys she has been with.

If this makes you uncomfortable, then you are better of getting into as serious relationship with a virgin. 

For that to happen you will most likely have to go extremely traditional countries and ask her parents if you can marry her first.

In the West, If she is over 19 years old, most women are going to have had a few (NONE SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP) sexual partners before they meet you.

A lot of girls start having casual sex as early as 14 these days. 

This isn't the case for EVERY girl you see, but If you are getting with a girl who has a background of partying and clubbing a lot then there is a chance that she has more sexual experience than you. 

Which means if you fail to perform in bed, it will lead to her getting sexually frustrated and sabotaging the relationship or even worse... cheating on you.

3. BAD BOYS vs NICE GUYS 

Her EX had some kind of bad boy edge about him.

He's a guy that's doing fairly well but there is "something" about him. 

The way he looked at her

The way he spoke to her 

The way he behaved around her

Being a "bad boy" doesn't mean you are a woman abuser and your feelings are OFF. 

As a matter of fact, he actually cared about her and showed her a lot of love and affection.

You can give a woman everything except boredom.

The bad boy ex was the type to fuck her in the elevator.

The nice guy husband was the type to kiss her on the cheek when she was ready to be undressed and ravaged. 

The bad boy ex was the type to do spontaneous fun things with her.

The nice guy husband was the type to come home from work, eat, watch sports and go to bed. 

There is nothing wrong in treating a woman correctly, but one thing you must avoid is having a boring and stagnant relationship.

Every couple of weeks, plan something fun to do together, if you are not in a position to do this, then don't get into a serious relationship.

Failing to provide any type of fun or spontaneity in a relationship will lead to it being stagnant and eventually boredom, especially if you have some sort of stay at home wife. 

She has nothing to do all day and she is in a boring relationship, her mind will be tempted wonder.

"An Idle mind is a devils playground"

I have a podcast on developing a bad boy edge:

https://www.patreon.com/posts/79274233?utm_campaign=postshare_creator

Disclaimer:

If you are a genuinely good guy, this does not mean you need to become an evil person. 

When you put out evil in this world, it will one day get you back.

So if you realise that most girls gravitate towards bad men, those women are not for you, there's plenty of good looking and high quality women around who WANT nice guys.

Deal with these type of women ONLY.

Women who only gravitate towards bad men usually have some sort of troubled childhood or pass.  

In the series, the nice guy husband actually had a VERY GOOD LOOKING and high quality ex girlfriend who still wanted him REALLY bad. But because he was married, he stayed faithful to his unfaithful wife. (He had options)

His boss at work was an attractive and high quality oriental woman, who kept on shooting her shot with him but again, because he believed in God and doing right by his family, he turned her down a few times.

So don't be out here thinking that in order to be able to attract good looking and high quality women you have to turn into some evil person doing everyone wrong.

You don't.

See it this way,

Being a bad boy = Being more fun

Fun DOES NOT mean GOOFY!

Even the "bad boy" ex boyfriend wasn't some evil criminal type of person.

He was actually a good law abiding citizen, with money, had his life together with his head screwed on straight.

What made him a "bad boy" was how sexually daring and charming he was.

4. DON'T TRY TO SAVE DAMAGED PEOPLE

The relationship got to a point where the husband knew about how bad she misses her bad boy ex and they were now trying to fix the relationship.

No matter how hard you try, you can't love a person into loving you & you can't also force yourself into loving a person when you already have very deep sexual & emotional connection with someone else.

You should only be in a serious relationship with a woman who is giving you her 100%. 

Once you notice a person does not connect to you on the level you are willing to connect to them, it will be wise to stop forcing it and just let it go. 

Her nice guy husband was a very good man with a 

• Great job
• God fearing
• Had money
• Who was super family oriented
• Believed in Love and just wanted to do right by his friends and Family

The woman was super adventurous and came from a broken home. 

There is no way it could have worked. 

Every single thing her nice guy husband went through in this show could have been avoided if he didn't try so hard to save a hoe who had no interest in being saved. 

You can never turn a hoe into a housewife. 

Yet soo many guys try to do it.

5. "L0v3 aT fiRsT sIghT"

Human beings are complicated. 

People have had multiple experiences up until the moment you meet them, so there is so much more to a person than the way they look. 

To completely disregard everything they have been through which has moulded them into who they are all on the basis of 'Love at first sight' is one mistake that will leave you damaged and hurt you for life. 

If you are seeking a serious relationship with someone, do your best to get to know people for more than just how they look:

• Carry out your background checks on them
• Pay critical attention to what they say
• How they analyse issues
• How they see life
• The kind of friends they keep
• Their family background
• Conditions of their previous relationships
• Why the relationships ended, etc...

You will never be able to fully know a person until you understand the very foundation of their existence. 

Feelings are fleeting and can ruin you.

- Till Next Time