Don't Feel Guilty For...

Don’t feel guilty for cutting toxic people out of your life. 

Even if you love them, even if you had wonderful times with them in the past, you have to do what’s right for yourself today.

It's understandable to feel love and nostalgia for them, but ultimately, your own well-being should be your top priority. 

Remember, while you may be the one initiating the end of the relationship, it's not your fault that it has come to this. 

The other person's behaviour and actions led to this outcome. So don't blame yourself or feel guilty. Instead, focus on what is best for you and prioritise your own needs, even if it's difficult. 

You deserve to surround yourself with positivity and those who uplift you, and sometimes that means letting go of those who bring negativity into your life.

You have to put yourself first, even when it hurts.

Don’t feel guilty for putting yourself first, especially when it comes to your mental health. 

You’re allowed to be selfish. You’re allowed to make decisions that benefit you, even if they upset the people around you. It doesn’t matter if anyone else understands or respects your decision. 

All that matters is that you care about yourself enough to do what is best for yourself. You should never sacrifice your mental health for anyone else. After all, if they really cared about you, they would encourage you to do whatever you need to do.

Don’t feel guilty for disappointing other people, even the people you love. 

You can’t make career choices, relationship choices, or any general life choices based on what your parent or partner wants from you. 

There’s no reason to make them happy if it means making yourself miserable. When it comes to your life, your emotions and your opinions are the most important.

Don’t feel guilty for causing conflict. 

If someone upsets you, you don’t have to pretend everything is fine to keep the peace. 

You don’t have to act polite when someone is completely disrespecting you. You’re allowed to speak your mind and say what’s wrong. 

You’re allowed to call people out when they cross an unforgivable line. 

You shouldn’t feel pressured to stay quiet when you’re suffering on the inside.

It's important to recognise that causing conflict is not always a bad thing. 

If someone has upset you, you have the right to express how you feel, even if it may lead to a disagreement or confrontation. 

You don't have to suppress your emotions or pretend that everything is okay just to avoid conflict. 

You deserve to be respected and heard, and it's okay to speak up when someone is disrespecting you. 

It's also important to set boundaries and call out unacceptable behaviour, even if it may cause conflict in the moment. Don't feel pressured to stay silent .

You have the right to assert yourself and stand up for what you believe in, even if it may lead to some discomfort or disagreement.

Don’t feel guilty about saying NO.

Even though you have a kind heart, you can’t help everyone who asks for a hand. 

You don’t want to burn yourself out to please someone else. 

Sometimes, you need to let others down. 

Sometimes, you need to do what makes the most sense for you instead of running around, trying to entertain everyone else.

Remember, you’re allowed to be selfish, but this doesn’t mean you need to walk around, only caring about yourself. 

This doesn’t mean you should say and do whatever you want without any regard for the people around you. 

This doesn’t mean you’re allowed to disrespect people, family and friends. 

It only means that you shouldn’t let people walk over you. 

You shouldn’t let others make your decisions for you. 

You shouldn’t assume family members and friends know you better than you know yourself.

When I started being comfortable with saying NO, speaking up when disrespected and putting myself first, it was like a huge weight was lifted of my shoulders. 

- Till next time