(ARTICLE) Why You Shouldn't Help All Of Your Friends And Family

You can love your friends and family all you want. But some of them can quickly pull you down into their own shit.

You won’t even notice it happened unless you’re careful. One day you’ll suddenly feel… drained.

And You’ll realise they SUCK all of the energy out of you.

I’m not saying completely shut yourself down to people who need help.

But you should be EXTREMELY careful with “over-helping” people.

Here’s why:

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself. So stop trying.

I don’t care if that’s a friend you met a year ago or your closest friend you've known for decades.

Some people aren’t “coachable” and will bang their heads against the wall for years, not listening to others. And they’ll happily bang YOUR head against the wall with them.

You don’t have to completely “give up” on them, but at some point, you need to know how to take a step back.

Negativity can be HIGHLY contagious.

It slowly but surely sucks the life out of you. It can be very emotionally tiring.

Honestly, I’d rather be alone than surrounded by negative people. If someone INSISTS on being an idiot, you should probably let them.

I think odds are most people with self-sabotaging behaviours won’t ever change, unless something significant happens in their life and they “wake up”.

Trying to help someone who puts zero effort into helping themselves is pointless.

If you prefer not to let that person go, you can de-prioritise them.

Because they WILL affect your life at some point and bring you down.

After all the advice you gave them, the best thing you can do is point them in the right direction one last time.

People will always try to exploit you if you allow them to. You don’t have the time to help everyone, only help people who deserve your help.

Sometimes you have to be selfish and put yourself before anyone else. Ignore what society is urging you to do.

The easiest way to turn your friend into an enemy is offering them advice they don’t want to hear.

When I offer someone my help, I actually want to help. But a lot of the time, people are not ready to accept my help. It is normal. Everything takes time to change and most people don’t want it.

You shouldn’t offer advice when people are not prepared to entertain it, or they could one day come back and blame you when it doesn’t work out for them.

I stopped helping people who don’t want my help. Less drama, more time for myself.

Till Next Time.