(ARTICLE) High Value Man Commandments: Why Women Find Busy Men Attractive

Most guys often assume the following about women:

“If I’m here for her whenever she needs me, she will like me more.”

“I have to strike while the iron is hot or I’ll lose her.”

Or

“If I don’t keep pursuing her, she’ll forget about me.”

Or worse,

“She is so amazing and attractive that I have to be available to her anytime she wants to hang out because she’ll leave me if I don’t.”

But here’s what they don’t understand: Being too available to a woman, especially in the beginning stages of dating, affects her perception of your value.

And when it comes to dating, her perception of you is reality.

Why you MUST create space

Whatever is too available for us, that we can have at any time without any stress or tension, will lose its value, no matter what, who, or how much we desired that thing before.

This is one major reason why busy men are attractive.

Men who are busy, living a life that they love, and making an impact in the world are less available to women automatically.

They don’t play games to be a little less available.

Furthermore, a truly confident, secure man who has options because he’s high-value, wouldn’t be afraid that a woman will forget about him if he doesn’t make enough contact.

In a woman’s mind, if a man is a little less available to her, he must have more going on, is more secure, and have a better life than the guys who are always available to her whenever she wants them.

How to communicate high value with your time

You want to make sure that you’re not being too available.

You want to be able to show her that you care and still be a challenge to her.

Here are practical things you can do to make sure you’re not seen as “too available” by a woman:

1. Always end everything before she wants it to end

For instance, if you give her a light touch on the arm during a conversation, you want to take that touch away before she gets uncomfortable or asks you take it away.

When you go in for a kiss, you want to pull back from the kiss before she does.

This way she wants more of it, instead of her getting tired of it.

Always end things earlier than expected.

The idea is simple: Make her want more of you, not less.

Also, don’t let dates drag on for too long.

End the dates on a high note.

Not after things are slowly starting to get boring.

2. Don’t be afraid to disagree on a meetup date

If you’re busy and she texts you at 3 pm and says,

“Hey, do you want to hang out tonight?”

Don’t be afraid to say…

“I’d love to, but I’m busy…Can we do it tomorrow night? Friday night?”

Or whenever is convenient for both of you.

Now, if you’re just going for short-term hookups and not a long-term relationship and she hits you up at 10 pm, maybe you can respond and meet up with her.

But if you want to sustain long-term desire and build a relationship that lasts, then you have to play the long-term game.

Make sure she gets the idea that you’re not too available.

For most guys, as soon as a girl texts to see if they can hang out, they’ll say:

“yeah! Let’s do it right now.”

“When can I come over?”

“I’ll be there in two minutes.”

But if you can be the one guy who pushes her away in this situation, you’ll stand out.

Remember you’re not saying no to her.

You’re just delaying a little bit because you’re a high-value man who has a lot going on in your life.

You want to see her, but you’re not going to just drop everything you have planned out today just to do it.

3. Do not ask her out on another date while you’re on a date

If you’re on a first date with a woman and you’re having a fun time, don’t say….

“Hey, let’s go out again tomorrow night”

while you’re still on the date.

Instead, at the end of the date, just tell her,

“Tonight was fun, message me when you’re home.”

Wait a few days and come up with a new day for another date.

If she really had a great time with you, this will create suspense and uncertainty.

She might begin to rethink how the date really went,

“Is he ever going to ask me out again?”

“If he really had a great time, why hadn’t he asked me out already?”

Women have to be wondering about you if there’s any attraction to be built.

4. Don’t ask for another date immediately after a rejection

Asking for another date immediately after a rejection shows a woman that you’re way too available.

For most guys, when they are interested in a woman and they tell her

“Hey, let’s meet on Wednesday by 7 pm,”

and then she says:

“I can’t. I’m busy on Wednesday,”

they immediately offer her more options like

“How about Thursday? Friday? Saturday?”

If a woman’s interested in you, she will deliberately offer an alternative if she declines your offer to hang out because she’s truly busy.

A high-value man understands the value of his time

A high-value man understands that his time and attention are valuable.

He understands that it’s not just enough for him to be interested in a woman.

He chooses to spend time with women who are also interested in him, who will make his life better.

He understands that his attention is valuable, and a good woman can earn more of it by showing him how valuable and deserving she is.

Till next time